After much reflection on this I have spent time studying 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 and feel that your view might contradict it.
Sure, we can look at this. We'll take it bit by bit.
And all things are of God,
Here I think we'd agree that God is the source of all things. Everything created by God is good and has the potential to be used for His glory.
who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ,
Now, all this says is that God has reconciled us to Himself. This does not have to mean that he has "squared us with the house," as it were, in terms of merely settling accounts with sinful human beings so that we no longer "owed Him." One could look at it also
in this way: God, in His holiness, knew that to approach us as we were--sinful and bound up in death--would mean our torment, because our dead nature was incompatible with His pure Life. So Christ, the Logos reconciled our human nature with the divine nature by uniting them in His one Person, thereby taking away the emnity that existed between our fallen human nature and the Father's holy divine nature. So now, by uniting ourself to Christ's redeemed humanity AND His divine nature, we can now approach the Father.
Notice, now, that the 'demand' of the Father (yes, I will and can call it that) was satisfied by the reconciling of fallen human nature and holy divine nature in the Logos, but notice especially the motivation
behind said reconciliation. This is the main point of our difference: not that the Father never demands that we come to Him through the sacrifice of Christ, but that we come to Him through the sacrifice of Christ because He knows we can not enjoy His presence any other way, and this is what He wants for us
. Christ died, not because of some external demand of an offended Father who seeks to regain His own honor and so He might have an airtight case in justifying letting us into heaven (as if this were the Father's problem), but rather because He was not going to change one iota of His holiness when all things (us included) were submitted to Him, and this would, by natural consequence, mean our torment. So His demand stems not from wounded honor, but from selfless love for those who once were alienated from His divine nature and union therewith, but who now have access to the throne of Grace through the divine sacrifice of the Logos, whose very Person has reconciled the fallen creation with its divine Creator.
and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;
So now we're supposed to go and minister to others, proclaiming that this reconciliation has happened and inviting them to participate in the reconciliation that has already happened.
To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself,
Like I said: the divine nature of God was in Christ, as was our human nature, and thus all creation and matter was made compatible once again with God...
not imputing their trespasses unto them;
...and instead of consuming the flesh of the Virgin which He took, the Logos deified it (and her), which not only did not impute the shortcoming of said flesh unto it (normally it would have consumed the flesh as a natural consequence of coming in contact with it, as fire would with chaff, but it forebore in this case) but it also changed the very nature of the chaff/flesh so that it could unite with divine fire. In this case, the trespassing of our flesh into the realm of death was not only passed over when the blood of the sacrificial lamb was placed over the doors of our souls and bodies, but said flesh was also healed
and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.
So...yeah...now we gotta tell folks about this. Like I said.
The atonement appears here to be to Himself and not death.
Well, so as you can see, the atonement was in a sense to the Father, but the motivation behind said reconciliation needs to be made absolutely clear: We were not reconciled for the benefit of the Father's honor or justice or satisfaction or anything else; we were reconciled to the Father so that we would be saved from death and healed of sin.
This sin and death issue, then, is not the Father's
problem, but ours
, yet He, through the sacrifice of the Logos, did what we never could do: He changed our very nature into something completely different...he brought us back to Eden's goodness.