Refusing the antidoran to non-Orthodox is unheard of in most Orthodox Churches and exhibits one of the problems with the ROCOR, which is that they think they are THE Church, purer than all others, the Orthodox of the Orthodox.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Apparrently the Church of Lord Jesus is a few hundred thousandÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š folk, mainly Russian--after almost 2,000 years. Ridiculous.
WOW, I have obviously been away too long.
First of all, my friend who wrote the quote above...ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Look to your own jurisdiction and its problems before bashing mine.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š At least ours weren't headlines in the Chicago Tribune in recent months.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š
Some rules for those who might be a guest at a ROCOR parish:
1. Women, wear skirts.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Like it, don't like it, tough, if you don't want to get yelled at, don't wear pants.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š How hard is it, really, to wear a skirt (I know, during the winter, you have to deal with pantyhose, and thats a pain in the rear, but get over it).
2.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š DO NOT, UNDER ANY CONDITIONS, PUT YOUR HANDS BEHIND YOUR BACK.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š It is considered disrespectful to old-school Russians such as myself.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š You put your hands behind your back while strolling through a museum or examining an oddity.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š You DO NOT do it when standing in the presence of someone you respect, and especially God.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Also, standing with your hands behind your back tends to do horrendous things to posture, and usually just looks plain bad.
3.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š It IS acceptable for non-Orthos to take the antidor.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Some priests might say otherwise, but I've recently demonstrated in another post, all jurisdictions have priests that don't have a clue.
4.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š By all means, venerate the icons and put up candles.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š The churches generally could use the revenue that candle sales bring in.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š
5.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Do NOT talk to your neighbor during the service.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š A. Its disrespectful B. You risk being yelled at by any number of people, including me.
6.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Understand, that if someone comes up to you to correct you, 99% of the time they are not yelling (yelling in church is not acceptable) at you.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š If they tell you to put a skirt on, or cover your shoulders, or not to wander during particular points in the liturgy, they are trying to educate you.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š They might do it clumsily, but be a Christian, and be respectful.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š
7.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š The 1% of people who actually yell at you if you do something wrong because they enjoy yelling are unfortunately present in any society.
8.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š At least 50% of the people who will say something to you in church are newly Orthodox, and have all that zeal and don't know what to do with it, making themselves a nusence.
9.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Most people standing in the church don't care if your in pants or if your hair has purple pok-a-dots.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Most are happy you are there.
10.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š When non-Orthodox & going to a ROCOR parish, know when ABSOLUTELY it is not allowed to walk around the church (Like Mercy of Peace, the Gospel, etc).ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š You run a strong possiblity of being spoken too.
So, keep these tips in mind.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Remember, we from ROCOR, when going to your churches have to tollerate pews, organs, and all sorts of things that we are not used to.ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š Do the same for us.
Now, I realize I'm slightly irritable. Time for breakfast.