Ok, let's bring autonomy into this and clarify some, since I am not faced with end of life issues and won't be for decades. To what extent do we cede our autonomy, and that of our children, to our parents in the name of honor? Do they inherently have "more" autonomy than us by pure dint of their biological or adoptive ties to us? If not, then what exactly is honor supposed to look like? How is it different than common courtesy and respect we are to show everyone anyway?