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Offline SakranMM

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Wedding Planning difficulties
« on: May 26, 2006, 11:59:05 AM »
My fiancee Melanie and I are planning to get married next year.  I'm facing some difficulties from my parents however (particularly my mother) in regards to the planning of the wedding & reception, and it is causing quite a bit of stress and difficulty.  Please pray for Melanie and I, as well as my parents, that we may all come to a peaceful agreement in the Lord's presence regarding this situation.  Thank you.

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2006, 01:31:09 PM »
Lord have mercy!

To have discord over wedding reception planning truly is ironic when we think of the nature of marriage being a reflection of the love and concord within the Trinity...

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2006, 02:10:53 PM »
To have discord over wedding reception planning truly is ironic when we think of the nature of marriage being a reflection of the love and concord within the Trinity...

True, yet how common it is.  SakranMM, my fellow Texan, I feel your pain.  My mother put us through similar grief over the rehearsal dinner, of all things.  Prayers for y'all.
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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2006, 02:24:13 PM »
Prayers brother.  Having gone through it, 2 1/2 years ago, I know it can be stressful.  Don't lose sight of what really matters; they love you share with your partner and the meaning of the sacrament.
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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2006, 04:27:26 PM »
Thanks for your prayers and words of encouragement, everyone.  They are truly appreciated.

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #5 on: May 26, 2006, 09:12:48 PM »

I suggest you add a scripture passage to the wedding invitations. Here is a good one:
"For this reason, a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife...." (Gen 2:24) ;)

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2006, 12:13:20 AM »
We had similiar issues when we were married. My mother(my father passed away when i was 15) was the one who funded most of the wedding and we had help on my side of the family. My wife's family always bickered about having to pay for anything, help with anything or lift a finger. When it came time for our wedding, her family made our wedding a horrible experience for everybody. Needless to say, we did our best to move away from them while still honouring them as best as we can. They control everyone's lives around them, miserably.

We keep them in prayer, at a distance. :)

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2006, 12:41:57 AM »
I suggest you add a scripture passage to the wedding invitations. Here is a good one:
"For this reason, a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife...." (Gen 2:24) ;)

Our invitations had this very verse on the cover. Except we only included that latter part of the verse, which you decorously omitted.

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #8 on: June 04, 2006, 06:09:00 PM »
Our invitations had this very verse on the cover. Except we only included that latter part of the verse,
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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #9 on: June 04, 2006, 07:12:50 PM »
It's too bad that you're having this happen. I have to confess I'm a little surprised to read of how many people also had problems with families and planning a wedding.

  We paid for our own wedding (at 29 and 33 we were old enough and established enough to do things right).  Both sides were very agreeable, and not just because one family was in Montana and the other in Maryland  :D.  Some ladies at church cooked the rehersal dinner and handled my father not eating red meat easily with a nice bit of fish.  My great-aunt, the family matriarch, sang a comic song about "Who'll do the cookin'" (I'd never heard her sing in my life).

 We had a nice older gentleman as DJ (recco'd by the lady from church who was a semi-professional photographer and did our pictures) who even played "Hail to the Redskins" (football team) for my father and one of the priests. For months afterwards guests would remark on what a nice party it had been and how good the wedding cake was(small cake baking business that had just moved out of the lady's house into a small industrial kitchen, with everything done fresh and by hand.)

It sounds like our experience might be not as common as the stories others have mentioned. 

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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #10 on: June 05, 2006, 03:23:16 PM »
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Re: Wedding Planning difficulties
« Reply #11 on: June 08, 2006, 11:05:25 AM »
Lord have Mercy!
I am sorry you are going through this.  Just be glad you are getting married in the Orthodox church right off the bat!  We got married by a preacher fresh out of the psych ward in 92, without a "wedding". Dh had met me at 14 and wasn't letting me get away again. :) then in 2004 we find out we weren't truly married by the Church and  we had 6 children.  So I had to get married again, with 4 weeks lead time and pregnant with number 7! Try pulling that off with no sudden funds to do it with.
It wasn't what I had always dreamed, and none of our family is Orthodox so my father (who didnt' come to my protestant marriage) didn't come to my Orthodox "wedding"  My mother lovingly supported me even if she thinks I am nuts.  My mil and fil came, begrudgingly and then ran of to a funeral instead (mil is fixated on death and funerals for some reason)  and all my kids were at my wedding.  So see, you could have a nice mess like that instead of family you can move away from! ;)
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