Greetings in that Divine and Most Precious Name of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
He has been married for 10 years or so. His marriage is obviously a civil marriage, but how does God view his marriage.
I would argue that, all morality and ethics aside, strictly theologically speaking, that marriage is not "real" to God. For the purposes of taxes or insurance surely these are married, but in the eyes of God? God instituted the fullness of "real" marriage through the Sacramental Marriage. Human beings, we are naturally failures. We can't succeed or even live by our own merits or efforts. Neither then can our marriages succeed strictly by good intentions or force of will. None of our human relationships can succeed with submitting daily to the Grace of God, present in the Divine Mysteries or Sacraments. So while its not my business to criticize or condemn other peoples' relationships, from the Church's perspective, non-Sacramental marriages are really not marriages, but more intensified dating. Further, I would say that the reason our society seems to collapsing at the seems is because we have largely abandoned the sanctity of Sacramental marriage (and I'm not talking about Prop 8 kinda stuff, I'm talking ol' fashioned marriage). People simply don't even seem to REALIZE that it takes God's help to stay in a marriage. Further, God helps us accept our spouses flaws, mistakes, and short comings. People don't stay married for 60 years because everyday was perfection. Long marriages survive adulterous affairs, money troubles, inter-familial conflicts, neighborly disputes, legal problems, drug/alcohol problems, etc etc. But they survive. How so? The Grace of God! So I feel that if folks were to return to Sacramental Marriage, even if just Catholic or Lutheran, I would say God would bless and sanctify our efforts through synergy, but our pseudo-marriages of today seem to be folks telling God, "Don't bother, we can take care of ourselves." What I tell outsiders about Sacramental worship, is point-blank, its about giving God the opportunity to bless us. A lot of people don't Confess, or Revere Ordained Clergy, or receive Holy Communion, or get Married in the Church not necessarily because they are antagonistic or hostile so much as ignorant and simply not giving God that opportunity.