IMHO, the juristictional situation in the west, like so many other problems in life, will not be resolved by all of the involved parties "insist on their (perceived) rights".
On one hand, the "EP party" has a point with regard to the conditions of Russia's independence from Constantinople. However, it is dubious to the extreme to include the Americas in ancient canons which simply cannot be interpreted as including them without being guilty of the most shameless of anachronisms (EP claim over the Americas.) This is beside the fact that things do change - while the EP became impotent to actually govern much of anything under the Turks (a situation which remains surprisingly unchanged to this day, though the Ottoman Empire is gone), Russia could and did establish real Churches in the Americas, Churches which clearly looked to Moscow as their mother. What some seem to want is to just pretend that never happened, on the basis of rules which were meant to reflect a reality which has long ceased to exist. I have big problems with Imperial fantasies, whether they be those of Byzantine-day-dreamers, or Tsarist romanticists.
Frankly, I think when all foreign parties take a step back and only intervene in a supportive (rather than self serving) capacity, we will see the obscene juristictional mess here in the Americas resolved. Honestly, I think such interference is the biggest impediment to juristictional unity here, not the "ethnics" or anything like this. This is why, while I have problems with certain policies of the Patriarchate of Antioch, I have to give them some credit - their recent move to basically cut the Antiochian Archdiocese loose, was the right thing to do. Everyone in the "old world" should sit down, and mutually recognize the independence of the Church (or perhaps, even "Churches") of the Americas - esp. Constantinople and Moscow. That way, no one has to feel "left out" or demeaned, as sad as it is that such things matter to shepherds of souls.
As for the ROCOR-MP thing, the way things are proceeding is correct. Again, it's simply a fantasy to not perceive those two parties as being the ones who need to reconcile. For ROCOR to run to the EP would not only simply multiply our collective problems (as if we need more!), but would outright ignore reality. If I have a huge falling out with an elder brother (perhaps even for "good" reasons), what on earth would be resolved by me running off and making nice with an estranged even older brother I never even grew up with?