Wow. I was not expecting so many spirited responses to this post and so much lovely humor!
Thank you to the poster who came to my defense. I am in no way trolling for a boyfriend or husband in the church. Or anywhere, for that matter. Certainly NOT at a 7-11, whoever posted that. LOL. True, there's not much else out here but mountains and gas stations. I have no problem walking away from a relationship, whether friendship or romantic, that is serving as a distraction, and I have done so before.
Anyway, the man in question is American. I am too, but I've been heavily influenced by Japanese culture and I wonder sometimes how much my interactions with American men are made awkward because of it. I had a conversation with the man in question yesterday evening that ended very awkwardly. I suppose I asked too many personal questions and then had the audacity to ask his age, which he refused to tell me, and then he basically accused me of meddling! In an effort to make things less weird, I started to tell him my age, to which he responded very hastily, "No, no, you don't have to tell me." He was clearly uncomfortable. I immediately apologized and explained that I was just trying to get to know him. This has never happened to me before, but I guess there's a first time for everything. (Ouch, my pride!) I certainly didn't intend to meddle, but we all have different sensibilities. He likely has no idea how much courage it took for me to talk to him while trying to appear nonchalant.
Anyway, he approached me this evening to talk more about church-related things, which I appreciated. He later offered his seat to me when there were no others, but I felt uncomfortable to accept it and got my own chair.
I wrestled with alternating between judging him and then myself last night but felt comforted at Vespers this evening. In the spirit of Lent, I'm trying to be more introspective and to resist the temptation to judge others…. even when my pride has taken a hit and I really want to. It's a great time for Lent to come, as it gives me an extra push to refocus my energies.