Yes, I do agree that Constantinople should have a say in the matter of such issues as American autocephaly, but maybe not in the way I think you envision this.  I think Moscow does have the authority to grant the Metropolia autocephaly, because the issue is fundamentally internal to the MP's jurisdiction over its own churches.  However, I also recognize that the issue of granting the OCA autocephalous status equal to that of the more ancient autocephalous churches is an issue that affects the entire Orthodox Church and should therefore be decided also by the EP in union with all the other autocephalous Orthodox churches--this has not happened yet.  Maybe Moscow should be allowed to make the initial decision while the EP and the other autocephalous churches grant the final ratification of the decision.
I agree with this. I think that would be awesome if all of them could get together and ratify a decision from the MP. If the MP makes that decision....and if they get together...and if...and if...and if...I could keep going.

Unfortunately, this brings us to the first topic: Bishops

I'm thinking more in terms of canonically valid bishops, metropolitans, and patriarchs who have not departed from the Faith (but may have their own competitive power issues)--whom do we follow then?
I am too my friend. You find me a perfect bishop and i'll find you the perfect answer.

Seriously though, my answer is, whoever sounds the best and has the best plan at the time, and isn't a major (put in word of your choice).
Even bishops who have a really clear plan that might actually work, usually have an agenda up their sleaves. Which is unfortunate. I personally wouldn't mind the agenda as long as America gets taken care of. But that's just me.
I also would LOVE to see the other jurisdictions get together and just talk, discuss, come to a conclusion, and GO WITH IT!!! But i'm not sure if we can have such a decision, much less all the processes before it.
Does this answer more your question? If you want a semi-rediculous but semi-truthful answer, I would say go with Patriarch Pavle (SOC) and do what HE wants.