My concerns about attachment parenting stem from (what seems to me) a lack of discipline. We're taught (in Orthodoxy) to learn to fast, pray etc. But in attachment parenting the child's immediate needs are fulfilled on demand.
I think you have attachment parenting confused with overindulging.
Babies cannot manipulate us, they are pretty complicated little beings however they cry because they do not have the vocabulary to say: "I am hungry" or "I am wet, please change me" . I do no see anything wrong with picking up a baby or toddler if they are crying. Chances are they are crying for a reason. The ability to manipulate people and situations comes when they begin to learn language.
Ok, yes we are taught to fast and pray... Therefore if the parents pray the child prays with them yes?
The attachment parenting philosphy essentially means that wherever the parents are the children are too.
Attachment parenting IS NOT giving a child McDonald's because he/she demands chicken nuggets. This particular parenting philosophy does not condone no boundries or structure. Here is a quote I copied from the FAQ at www.attachmentparenting.org
Quoting from FAQ.... Can parents do too much attachment parenting?
No! Because the cornerstone of attachment parenting is being responsive to the child's physical and emotional needs, it is virtually impossible to 'overly' attachment parent. However, many confuse a responsive parent with a 'smother' parent, an 'enmeshed' parent, or an 'indulgent' parent, as all four have similar characteristics - the parent is very involved with the child. It is important to understand the difference between these, as they are nothing like a responsive parent.
A 'smother' parent is not being responsive to the child's needs, but instead is imposing their own will on the child, regardless of the child's needs. The 'smother' parent tells the child 'when to eat, what to eat, when to sleep, what to play, what to think'. The 'responsive' parent follows the children's lead, and feeds the child when he is hungry, puts him to sleep when he is tired, helps him to follow his interests and passions, etc.
The 'enmeshed' parent is trying to live their life through their child, and is not being responsive to the child's needs. It is not the child's dreams and wishes that are being considered, but those of the parent. However, it is easy to distinguish an 'enmeshed' parent from a responsive parent, as they are not looking at what is best for the child, but what they want. The 'indulgent parent' is one who does not know how to set limits and is not being a responsive to the child's needs. Children need limits and direction, and an adult helping them to grow up into being responsible adults. Many parents confuse 'indulgence' with attachment parenting, but it is not the same at all. Attachment parenting would involve setting limits in a warm loving way, without the threat of physical violence or cruelty.
Remember that there is no such thing as being too responsive to your child's needs, as it requires doing what is best for the child rather than what is best for the parent. However, it may involve learning more about what the real needs of children are