Long story short, I've been falling in love with this young lady at my parish. The only problem is, however, that I'm 18 years old and she is 14 going on 15. I've asked one of my good friends and she advised me to wait until she reaches legal age. But, I'm open to as many opinions as I can get.
So what should I do? Am I too old for this young maiden? She's everything I've ever wanted--pious, blonde, mature, humble. Her family seems like nice people too imo. I'd like to ask her out on a date, but I am afraid that our age difference may be too much.
Will people perceive me as a pedophile? Will I be violating any laws? I don't plan on being sexually active unless/until I get married. Could a relationship like this work out? Also, is this dangerous for me? I know that me being an adult and her being a minor is kind of risky since that if we were to ever break up (assuming we got together) or I did something to tick her off, that she could lie and feign rape, in which case, I could be seriously busted and falsely labeled a child molester or something.
Let me list the issues here, pedophile aside.
1. 14 year old church going girls do not go out on 'dates', and certainly not an unchaperoned one with an adult (although I hesitate to use this word, technically you are one)
2. 'her family seem nice'......have you talked to them? socialized with all of them together at a coffee hour or something? Have you actually spoken -with- this paragon of Orthodoxy and blond virtue? Or are you judging her personality from seeing her in Sunday School.
3. If she is 15, where do you see this whole thing going for the next 4+ years until she could marry you at age 18?
4. Her parents likely would like her not to go and get married the day after she turns 18 and instead be educated, experience life a bit. So extend that 'waiting time' for another 4+ years. That would make you 27 give or take. By then you will be
a. married to someone else (likely a virginal prostitute from some 3rd world country)
b. a monk because you don't ever want to get married
c have gotten cancer from the snus