There's a lot going on in this thread...
Re: difficult Old Testament passages - do you weep for the Amalekites but not for Sodom? And what of Nineveh? What of Noah's neighbors, who ate and drank without care until the day of the flood? The passage about the Amalekites is not the first or last that recalls the accomplished or intended destruction of a people. But we also don't know what else transpired in the meantime. In some of the cases, it's clear that what was being blotted out was wickedness - not sin through deception (like Eve and Adam), but willing cooperation with the tempter. We know that God sent a messenger to Nineveh to try and turn their hearts, and had Abraham and Lot advocating for Sodom when the He went to test them - do we know that He did not do so for the nations that he swept away before Israel?
Where is the accountability for one's actions? The law of the Old Covenant is couched in its context - a context that is contained in the text if one considers it. When the Lord gives the law, He also makes it clear that the other nations in the land of Canaan violate the law (that is to say, commit all kinds of sexual perversion, violence, retribution without justification, theft, etc.) and have hardened their hearts against Him. The major limitation of the OT is that it does not fully document the Lord's attempts at relationships with the other nations - it's clear from the text that He did indeed interact with them, and it's clear that He is angry with their moral lawlessness.
Accountability is key for free will, no? Universalism fails at this key point - what of those who know God and choose to reject Him? We like to think that it's impossible - you can't really
know Him and reject Him - but it's been done before! Apokatastasis eliminates free will. At least with the view that both Heaven and Hell are experienced within the presence of God there is a manifestation of that choice - that those who reject Him are tormented by that rejection as they live through eternity surrounded by the One Who Is everywhere present and filling all things.
As for those not exposed to the salvific message - we know how they will be judged, as St. Paul says in his letter to the Romans: " for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them" (NKJV)
I sincerly doubt that God loves all. I am sorry. But to me he seems to want to damn just as much as he wants to save. I have tried to be forgiven for 6 months. It has not helped. I can make things undone. God damned me. He doesn't answet anymore. Read romans 9 and read John 12. It is obvious that God doesn't want to save all. That we can do nothing to be saved. It is conpletely in God's hands and when you blew the one chance you get you are screwed. Everybody has to go through a conversion like St Paul and Augustine did and when you realize God is now willing to forgive you on the cross and you don't take the oppurtunity you are damned.
There's one of your problems.
I'm with Mor. When you fall, pick yourself back up. The Lord, both in the OT and NT, directs us to repent when we sin - that even if we are to be cast out of the community, we are to still strive to repair our relationship with Him and with His people. He answers when you're ready to hear, in a way that fits His assessment of your needs, not your own. If you want to judge Him by your standards, then you're worshiping a man-made god, not the Living God.
If God forgave me when I asked I would have known so. By Faith.
If sin is like a mud that clouds our vision, habitual sin cakes on and forms a shell. Sometimes we cannot see the forgiveness granted until we've (a) ended the sin, and (b) broken away from the encasement it's set up around us.
But he doesn't grand me Faith.
Since we're referencing without quoting: Mark 9:24
God's existence is not Only something that han be Believed can also be felt and revealed. He does not reveal himself to me Any longer since I did exactly the worst thing imaginable: the sin described in Hebrew 6.4-6
Will the Lord who said what He did in Luke 17:4 treat you this way? How about the Lord Who forgave his most beloved David?