My prayers also for you to find peace and relief from your physical ailments.
The romantic stuff will solve itself in tmie. Back in my day (I'll bet you're tired of hearig that phrase...) I always found romance when I was never even thinking about it.
Perhaps it is because in those times of not concentrating on finding a romantic partner for myself, instead I was concentrating on other people: their lives and needs. This period of altruism then had me primed to make connections with others that later blossomed into something more than friendship...
I don't think you're being selfish (which my message here may be construed as being a warning about or whatever after I re-read it). It's just food for thought. If God wants you to find a romantic partner, trust that He will make it so in His good time and His good way.
In the meantime, you should concentrate on your salvation through living for Christ and others. Then, when both of you are ready, you will meet each other.