I'm glad things went so well for you
ÃƒÆ’Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ãƒâ€š As was said, the cups had blessed wine but not consecrated wine. It's blessed for Christian use and therefore not just like regular wine, but it's not a sacrament either. As to whether you can take it, that probably depends on your parish. Blessed things (e.g., antidoran--the bread they have on the table) used to be only for Orthodox Christians. Somewhere along the way, it started getting given to non-Orthodox. I'd say, just do what everyone else does. If you see people taking some that you know aren't Orthodox yet, or if people offer some bread to you, then go ahead and take some if you want.
Regarding women readers, from what I understand, traditionally men are preferred as readers to women, though not for any particularly profound reasons. As with the blessed bread/wine, it's not a huge deal. Just go with whatever they are doing in the parish. Regarding the word dread, they mean to use it in the old way that it was used, when it meant awe-filling or reverence-filling. So, we sometimes speak of the "dread judgment seat of Christ," meaning that we reverence and are in awe of God, not that we fear him per se. We Orthodox tend to throw in old words like that, your best bet is to check out a site like dictionary.com, which usually gives an older (ie. archaic) meaning if there is one. Another example would be the word "magnify," which we sometimes use regarding saints and the Virgin Mary (Theotokos). In our case, we mean "to glorify or praise," and not to make bigger or clearer or something like that.
Regarding the time of the Liturgy, it will vary from place to place. It depends on many factors... what parts are taken out or insterted, how fast the priest does his part, whether the choir responses overlap the petitions of the priest, etc. I've been in St. John Chrysostom liturgies that lasted an hour and ten minutes, and then I've been in some that lasted an hour and forty-five minutes. If it is a hierarchal liturgy or St. James, St. Basil etc. you also have to expect a longer time.
PS. Only trust half of what you read on the internet. And only half trust the other half. That advice is applicable to this post. The best person to ask questions is the priest of the parish you are attending, because then even if he gives (factually speaking) a "wrong" answer, it is still the answer that you see put into practice