Honestly, it brings me joy, particularly when I attend the services, go to confession, and also when I say my prayers.
Debating theological minutiae: I am generally finding that this generally has the opposite effect on me.
Agreed. The theological minutiae debates are horribly frustrating.
There is one exception: I don't mind sparring with people who embrace ancient heresies, like liberal Protestants who like to argue Jesus want God, Jesus was married, the Gnostic scriptures are true, the canonical gospels are false, et cetera. These people I enjoy challenging, particularly when, as is usually the case, their confused faith contains obvious contradictions (like the way Elaine Pagels, a feminist, glosses over the misogynistic aspects of the Gospel of Thomas). I think it's important to debate those people too, so as to expose the falsehoods that underpin their belief system and set out warning beacons so the unwary don't fall into their great pit of lies.
However, debates over things like pews, organs, the orthodoxy of the Oriental Orthodox, Baroque iconography, and even debates about how best to receive comverts from zprotestantism, these just frustrate me and make me feel squeamish.
I love talking about the liturgy and everything connected to it, but not arguing about it; the liturgy is too beautiful to have an argument about. I also love discussing comparative theology from a loving Orthodox perspective and learning more about other religions; I find the more I learn of other faiths, the happier I am to be Orthodox, but at the same time it's also uplifting, to see the universal desire of human beings to connect with God.
However, the core of Orthodoxy, the liturgy, the music, the Jesus Prayer and other devotions, these have helped keep me alive as I have helped my parents through a very difficult time and wrestled with horrible illness, among other great sorrows.