CHRIST IS RISEN!
If you were born and raised in the South as I have been, you may remember today by several names---Veteran's Decoration Day, Memorial Day, or just simply decoration day. For those of you not lucky enough to have been born in the south in simple terms, this is the date that Americans go to the cemetary to visited their loved ones who have reposed. American flags are placed on the graves of those who fought for the US and in my area small Confederate flags are placed on those who were confederate soldiers. On the graves of those who did not serve in the military fresh flowers and more recently silk arrangements are placed on the graves.
As Orthodox converts, we are often faced with the delimma of how to we commemorate our loved ones who have reposed but were blessed to be a member of the Orthodox Church, for the most part probably out of ignorance---they never heard about it. We can not offer Kolliva or have the memorial services performed for them yet we know that our prayers are important for them.
Father Seraphim Rose of blessed memory includes a prayer in his book Life after Death, in which we ask God to forgive us if we ask him to bless our loved one who reposed out if the church. That prayer of course may be used. However recently, ROCOR published a book of Akathists which has a very good akathist for those who have reposed. When I first read it, it dawned upon me that it was a supplicatory canon for someone who died not in the Orthodox Church, indeed it mentions this very situation in the eleventh canon of the Akathist. This was followed by His Grace Bishop Basil of Wichita and Mid America commending it to our parish members who wished to pray for our non-orthodox dead.
If you can get this akathist, it would be an excellent way to observe the Memorial Day Holiday.