... Otherwise I can't understand her actions ....
You are lucky enough to meet a nice lady. I suppose she is the kind of person that could not go to heaven alone. These kinds of Christians have to take everybody else with them. They may show surprise when you let them go and you are not “with them”.
Yes, I think that I know the awkward feeling of “I can not be with you. Why do you want me to explain myself to you. I don’t even know you!”
These blessed people are usually more than polite. They act in a way as they would try to personally be involved with us. And we do not even know their names !
I propose you start to know them. They are real people. Then you will understand their actions.
It will costs you to live their lives.