I hate Nursing Homes.
They just drug the elderly so they don't complain.
My uncle was in one for about 4 weeks. We visited him daily and I found out he was also being drugged. He had suffered a stroke and the point was to rehabilitate him there....but, no...they would drug him into a quiet stupor. When I saw the chart I questioned the nurse about it and she told me he was being belligerent. I asked him about it, and he mumbled that he wanted to go to the restroom, and he couldn't move and nobody would come and so he was yelling for help....
I told her that I had his power of attorney and I forbade them giving him any drugs that would diminish his speech, etc. After all, he's there to help him speak clearer....not to just lay there and sleep.
They didn't give him anything for a few days, and then again he was drugged.
Just like the pretty old ladies, sitting in their wheelchairs, with glassy eyes, and perfectly coiffed hair, in the hallway. Every day, in the same location....just sitting there and waiting to die.
I hate those places.
When my mom had to go to one earlier this year for a couple of weeks after serious pneumonia, I took vacation time, and didn't leave her side for more than 5 minutes. You'd be amazed what you can sleep on when you have to.
I actually caught a number of medical errors. She was supposed to be on a diuretic, nope...nothing. She was to get her diabetic meds....nothing.... I had to actually call back to the hospital to get the doctors to talk to the nurses, etc.
I understand how sad those places are...and how busy and understaffed....but, if you send a loved one, whom you truly wish to see live....you need to watch them like a hawk.
As for Xanax and dogs....if the vet prescribed it, and I had the funds with which to buy them, I would. Your pets become like family...and you don't wish to see them suffer.