Im not saying i understand what you are going through, but I have my own issues which make me think I should be an ascetic as well. Yes, I think the highly structured life of monasticism is beneficial for some of us who are weak, not good at self motivating, prone to depression or anxiety or whatever, living in an environment which makes "sinning" very easy, etc.
Currently, in my own life, Im trying to carve out some of that structure apart from a monastic life such as simplifying, getting rid of the TV, trying to become more minimalist in the stuff we keep in our home, even eating more simply with less meat in order to enjoy things which are from the ground and provided by God....Its really just about eliminating distractions. If the internet is causing you to sin, can you get rid of it? There are plenty of ways to use it without having it in your home. Perhaps you can get to the real deep down desires of your heart. Once you clear the "stuff", youre very much forced to be introspective... I suppose thats a very simplistic way of explaining it. God willing I'll be able to convince my husband to let me be rid of the internet one day soon too.
I don't know if you get where Im going with this.
Life can be quite a challenge, especially when living with other people who see things different, aren't on the same spiritual path or search that you are on. This goes for your priest, who is just probably on a different search, not spiritually as advanced as you need, could be any number of reasons. I've had to learn this lesson and it was kind of disheartening because, well, here I am on a forum having to ask other Orthodox questions too.
Another thing: I know a little about sketes, and how they're supposed to be somewhat monastic communities which are not monasteries...I don't really know what that means, even though I've visited the one near my town. (A lovely place.) I wish there were more of them for us laypeople to retreat to when our spiritual struggles require serious attention. But you always stay at a monastery. Have you ever thought about staying at a monastery for a month or so? People do. I know I could stay at the skete nearby if I wanted to for a few days at most, as I am bound right now by family responsibilities. Well, I don't have a great love for the modern world, so maybe thats all easy for me to say. But I also know my struggles and what tends to trigger them. Perhaps this is what you need to try and figure out. Im sorry I don't have a magic solution. Everyone is different.