Wow, a lot to think about, and a lot of helpful information, thank you all very much.
I will not press it too much in my mind, and give it some more time. It will be 2 months before we set a date, so that is probably soon enough to think of it.
And I will certainly ask Father before I discuss with them. I'm sure he will have much better insight than I do.
I do know one lady is very helpful, but she is also very BUSY and often doesn't have time for me, so I wondered if that was a possible consideration. I think she is asked often to be a sponsor/godparent though - her name is listed with recent Chrismations, and he has several children she takes up for the Eucharist.
And thank you for the information about the icon/baptismal cross. I had heard something like that, and wondered. I will ask Father. One lady I don't want to make a burden on her, but it seems to me that if she is the best choice, I wouldn't want this to be something that ruled her out. She's very kind, and always arranges for me to be included in things, and is ALWAYS in Church.
Others have very strong things in their favor as well.
I will give it time though. I think any of them would be good, and I will see how relationships develop and what Father says.
I think I was thrown for a bit of a loop to have two people bring it up with me within a day or so and give me strong but opposite advice. One of those things that put me on shaky ground last week.
I'm very thankful for everyone's wisdom and help here.
God bless you all!