I am coming from the other side as well - (of course I guess you will see more converts here, whose husbands/wives are not) - but it is not so long ago for me, and my husband is very committed to his own beliefs and it IS hard.
Some of what has been said here is good, so I will try not to repeat. The very first time I spoke with a priest, he told me to be gentle with my husband. As much as I might be excited about the Church, it is not in my husband's best interest to make him feel pushed, or abandoned, or judged, or separate. But I wonder if your wife has made it plain to the priest what her position at home is? Honestly, if I were you, I would make an appointment to speak with your wife's priest. Let him know honestly how you feel. I doubt he will try to convince you or say anything that will upset you, but knowing how you feel, he can probably counsel your wife on how she might be a better wife to you.
God is not in favor of divorce, certainly. And most especially if you are both Christian, just having found a different expression of that love of Christ ought not come between you. It is rare, I think, that couples convert together. So there is often this problem. Sometimes the other will convert later, sometimes never. But imo it ought not be a reason for divorce.
The Orthodox position, that I have heard, is that each of us should dedicate ourselves in marriage to the best good for our spouse, sacrifice for their sake, and do what is best for their salvation. If your wife understands that, and understands that she ought to be gentle and patient with you, and most importantly that you are both on the same team, it may make a difference.
It has in my marriage, and mine is difficult for many reasons.
And I'm not telling you this for the sake of converting or convincing you, but really, if you have concerns (I noticed you called the icons idols, and that is EXACTLY what I thought when I first saw them!) ... you might be reassured by asking your questions. Maybe the priest would be better to ask (or here) than your wife, since if she can't answer easily it might cause tension. But as I came to understand the thinking behind various things, and what was really going on, and I prayed about it and God helped me reach certain understandings, things have smoothed out in my mind. I'm not saying you need to believe exactly as she does or I do, but if you just understand some of the thought, you might be less disturbed by the idea than you probably are where you are coming from.
I try to put myself in my husband's position, and if I saw all of this going on, and had no understanding of it except my Protestant assumptions, I would be absolutely horrified. So I understand.
And my husband does not ask. He thinks I am in a "cult" and it makes it much harder for him, I think. If he would understand, he might have some relief from his worry, at least. But I don't push him, and I won't.
Just treating him as I mentioned above has made things much better between us - really even better than they were before this added stress of a new Church for me came into the mix, because we've had problems for a while. So ... just the Orthodox way of approaching marriage has helped, even with no acceptance or understanding from him. That is why I am saying it would be good, maybe, for you to speak with your wife's priest, and let him explain it to her, if she does not know.
I hope this can help. My prayers are with you. And I hope you will ask here, whatever you feel or think. Hopefully being able to express to someone who understands at least partially may help you, and maybe we can say something helpful for you. And we can pray for you.
Lord have mercy on all of us.