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Offline Branthony

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getting married
« on: May 27, 2014, 12:20:47 AM »
Hi everyone, I'm getting married in 18 days, and I'm terrified. She is beautiful, smart, and just all around wonderful, the problem isn't at all with her. I'm scared because, what if I'm not a good husband? I really love her and I want the best possible life for her and she deserves only the best. I'm worried I won't be the husband that she deserves. Is it normal to start freaking out a bit this close to a wedding?
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Re: getting married
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2014, 01:42:57 AM »
None of us deserve the women we have that is why their love is a gift. Actually more of a loan.  And you have the rest of your life to earn it.  Yes freaking out this close is normal. I will pray for both of you.
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Re: getting married
« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2014, 01:45:33 AM »
Lord have mercy.

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Re: getting married
« Reply #3 on: June 10, 2014, 03:00:29 AM »
Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation. (2 Cor 2:6)

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Re: getting married
« Reply #4 on: June 10, 2014, 04:04:27 AM »
Hi everyone, I'm getting married in 18 days, and I'm terrified. She is beautiful, smart, and just all around wonderful, the problem isn't at all with her. I'm scared because, what if I'm not a good husband? I really love her and I want the best possible life for her and she deserves only the best. I'm worried I won't be the husband that she deserves. Is it normal to start freaking out a bit this close to a wedding?
Then I'm sure you'll be the best husband you can be.
Proverbs 22:7

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Re: getting married
« Reply #5 on: June 10, 2014, 07:29:51 AM »
Many years of health and happiness to you and your beloved bride

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Re: getting married
« Reply #6 on: June 10, 2014, 08:46:07 AM »
Congrats, a quote from the Marriage service says it all.

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself for no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one."

Do this and you will be fine.
Lord have mercy!
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Re: getting married
« Reply #7 on: June 11, 2014, 05:01:46 AM »
. I'm worried I won't be the husband that she deserves. Is it normal to start freaking out a bit this close to a wedding?

Yes, it is normal and if any guy says he went into his marriage fully confident that he was going to be a good husband, he lied.  Marriage, like the faith, is a marathon.  You need to take everything in stride. Good luck and congrats.
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Re: getting married
« Reply #8 on: July 03, 2014, 01:24:50 AM »
So did you get married?

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Re: getting married
« Reply #9 on: July 03, 2014, 02:07:05 AM »
yes we got married on the 15th of June. I'm very happy, it is wonderful!
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Re: getting married
« Reply #10 on: July 03, 2014, 02:09:28 AM »
Congratulations.
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Re: getting married
« Reply #11 on: July 03, 2014, 02:13:28 AM »
thank you
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Re: getting married
« Reply #12 on: July 03, 2014, 02:19:57 AM »
Congratulations!
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Re: getting married
« Reply #13 on: July 03, 2014, 02:22:48 AM »
Congratulations.
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Re: getting married
« Reply #14 on: July 03, 2014, 04:59:54 AM »
Mazel tov. :)

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Re: getting married
« Reply #15 on: July 03, 2014, 05:19:13 PM »
Congratulations!

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Re: getting married
« Reply #16 on: July 03, 2014, 05:25:47 PM »
Thanks everyone.
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Re: getting married
« Reply #17 on: July 03, 2014, 11:59:27 PM »
God grant you both many years!  :)
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Re: getting married
« Reply #18 on: July 04, 2014, 12:29:02 AM »
Many years!