actually....based on what the poster has said...the focus of the 'ememy' is more 'being taken away from the sister'
that part....has NOTHING to do with the gay issue..or agenda......period.
Did you read the title?
That has to do with the percieved loss of a lifelong companion and best friend, to an outside relationship.
Our intrepid poster has asked about the gay issue, and you have been more than willing to jump on that bandwagon with your pitchfork and torch....
our intrepid poster told us that the sister brought out her pitchfork and torch, and the bandwagon she was going to run him over with.
Hence the title.
BUT ignore the bigger issue.....
I'm just dealing with the issue the OP brought up. Are you?
the sister is not feeling resentment over the gay issue at all....as they clearly have not yet dealt with it......
and they should deal with it. Beforehand.
its about her feeling like her Twin is being taken from her...that is a much more serious issue emotionally...and needs to be worked out between the twins.
before one of them gets married.
It wouldnt matter -who- the sister was attracted to.....this twin-ness and the issues it raises, would create similar issues even if she was hetero.
The title isn't "Overly Attached Family members."
Did you read my post? To the end?
I won't speculate further, until the OP clarifies.
I see now that he has:
OK, this is the deal. me and my wife will be living in the south, in the bible belt, so no matter what I say about it or don't say about homosexuality they will learn it is a sin because it is talked about a lot and in a negative way. Also my wife's sister is very outspoken, she's a feminist and can't wait for someone to say something she can even confuse as an insult to that so she can jump down there throat, my wife included. a few weeks ago she told me she was "meeting another lady" she gave me no context so for all I knew she was meeting someone for a car loan or something when I asked her why she was meeting a lady she jumped on me "because I'm gay you got a problem with that?!" all I asked was why she was meeting a lady and she got angry so if my child says anything at all close to gay is bad it will be taken as an insult and as I am already the bad guy I will surly be the one that set this insult in motion in her eyes. If my children ask me anything about homosexuality I have a duty to explain that it's a sin, so I can already hear a child's voice saying to my future sister in law "daddy said that being gay is a sin". this will not help the already bad attitude my future sister in law has toward me. That is the deal, How do I both teach my children that homosexuality is a sin but that there aunt also must be treated with love and respect? How do I teach them this with out them dropping a bomb on there aunt that I will surely be blamed for?
Thanks again everyone
needless to say, no surprise. At least not to me.
I would suggest some conciliary comments, but I'll skip that because I think you're going to eventually have to lay down the law and simply state that you're sorry she takes that as an insult, but you are raising your children with your Church's values and not with the values of her lesbian feminism. Which raises the question, what if your fiancee has to write her sister off, because she can not sign on as she demands?
As for talking to the children about auntie, by the time that comes up it is almost assured that you are going to have had to discipline your children for something, and you can refer back to that. You didn't hate them when they did something bad, and you don't hate auntie either.
Auntie will take that as a bomb, but that's auntie's problem, not yours. Just make sure it isn't your fiancee/their mother's.