Hello again everyone, I figured I would post this here instead of a new thread because it relates. Before me and my soon to be wife started counseling a friend gave me a book by Fr. Josiah Trenham. the book is called marriage and virginity according to St.John Chrysostom. After reading this book and talking to my priest, I feel that this may not be an accurate title for the book because I feel that Fr.Josiah twists what he does take from St.John but I also feel that there is much more of Fr. Josiah's personal opinion than what St.John said. I have recently also read some things Fr.Josiah has posted on-line and I am starting to think that this man is a bit... wacky. First he seems to try to discourage folks from getting married by saying (paraphrasing) monasticism is really what you should do but the church allows marriage. now he doesn't say this explicitly but that does seem to be his implication. This is strange coming from a priest who not only is married but has 10 children. He also seems to have a very R.C. outlook on Orthodox sexuality. My priest, and from what I have read on-line a lot of priests, seem to think that sexuality is not a topic to be discussed in detail. From what I gather, as long as its a married couple we're ok. There may be some rules but I really don't think it's as strict as Fr.Josiah seems to think it is. From what I have gathered the church doesn't teach that sexuality in marriage is only for procreation, but that it is for the married couple to express there love to one another and to keep them out of sin, or at least that seems to be the primary reason. Fr. Josiah says different, he says the primary reason is procreation and any act in the bedroom that can't bring forth children is perverse and there for unacceptable. If this is true then once a married woman is post menopause then the couple is sinning if they are intimate. Have any of you ever read anything by this priest and what is your opinion on this topic? Let's not get graphic please, this is a christian forum, there is no need to name specific acts but what is the purpose of sexuality in an Orthodox marriage and is this guy crazy or not?