Oh, as to pants-not encouraged at my parish. Which is fine with me. What confuses me, are all the websites that say things like "my priest says no bright colors, no pants ever." Or the stranger stuff, "Orthodox women should not cut their hair, no jewelry except a cross and a wedding ring, no Orthodox Christian should EVER be seen in shorts." That sort of stuff. It's not ROCOR, at least as I've experienced it. Modesty seems to be "indefinable" these days. I'd hate to think on a hot summer day at a picnic, I look evil in a loose t-shirt and knee-length shorts!
Now, on the ooooooother hand...Recently, sadly, a young man from my area was killed in Irag. The local paper showed a photo of his flag-covered coffin. Obviously, the photo should be respectful, both to the man who died as well as his family. However, the coffin was not in focus, BUT a woman in a black, strapless dress was totally in focus. I mean, this poor girl didn't know any better than to wear a strapless dress to a funeral! I think it's this the sort of thing that fuels all the Orthodoxy/modesty debates online.
I certainly support modest dress in church, it's the idea that you can't be a "good" Orthodox Christian without wearing an ankle-length skirt 24/7/. On the head cover question: when I was at our priest's house, we faced the icons to pray, but most of the women were not wearing hats/scarves. Matushka took her's off after the prayer was over.