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« Reply #135 on: January 10, 2014, 04:37:36 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

I don't think that damnation at 19 is any more.
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« Reply #136 on: January 10, 2014, 04:37:54 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Yeah, I got that, Alex.  I just happen to disagree.  Seems we have different ideas about what's "healthy"....
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« Reply #137 on: January 10, 2014, 04:45:25 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.
Eh?  That is just silly. You don't have to wait for a certain age before taking your faith seriously.
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« Reply #138 on: January 10, 2014, 04:46:19 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.
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« Reply #139 on: January 10, 2014, 04:53:35 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Yeah...you gotta wonder where a statement like his is coming from....
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« Reply #140 on: January 10, 2014, 04:54:55 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Yeah...you gotta wonder where a statement like his is coming from....

Not sure I wanna touch that bit... Wink
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« Reply #141 on: January 10, 2014, 04:59:17 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Yeah...you gotta wonder where a statement like his is coming from....

Not sure I wanna touch that bit... Wink

You're probably right.  Speculation about those kinds of things can get pretty, uh....what?....messy. Wink
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« Reply #142 on: January 10, 2014, 05:13:35 PM »

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I wasn't Odox at 18. Nor even involved with religion.
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« Reply #143 on: January 10, 2014, 05:19:06 PM »

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I wasn't Odox at 18. Nor even involved with religion.

So, is that the basis for your bad advice to JamesR??  That you weren't involved with religion, much less Orthodoxy, at 18? 
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« Reply #144 on: January 10, 2014, 05:22:30 PM »

I wish I could just take a break from this Orthodoxy and live with no rules for at least a couple days; that'd be nice. It's unfair that the cradles can break all the rules and sin, but we converts are expected to be perfect.
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« Reply #145 on: January 10, 2014, 05:26:05 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?
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« Reply #146 on: January 10, 2014, 05:26:58 PM »

I wish I could just take a break from this Orthodoxy and live with no rules for at least a couple days; that'd be nice. It's unfair that the cradles can break all the rules and sin, but we converts are expected to be perfect.

Why can't you take a break?  Plenty of Orthodox, cradle and convert, do so, living with no rules for longer than one or two days (whether or not it's "nice").  Does your priest follow you around with a bamboo cane and beat you when you start breaking rules?  
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« Reply #147 on: January 10, 2014, 05:28:44 PM »

I wish I could just take a break from this Orthodoxy and live with no rules for at least a couple days; that'd be nice. It's unfair that the cradles can break all the rules and sin, but we converts are expected to be perfect.

"Who" expects you to be perfect?  "What" makes you think that cradles break all the rules and sin?  "Where" is this coming from, besides the hormones of an 18 year old?

"Why" haven't you discussed these concerns with your Priest?

"How" are you going to rectify this situation?
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« Reply #148 on: January 10, 2014, 05:28:49 PM »

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I wasn't Odox at 18. Nor even involved with religion.

So, is that the basis for your bad advice to JamesR??  That you weren't involved with religion, much less Orthodoxy, at 18? 
Lol I may have dodged a few bullets at 18 if I was Orthodox.
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« Reply #149 on: January 10, 2014, 05:29:16 PM »

I wish I could just take a break from this Orthodoxy and live with no rules for at least a couple days; that'd be nice. It's unfair that the cradles can break all the rules and sin, but we converts are expected to be perfect.

Why can't you take a break?  Plenty of Orthodox, cradle and convert, do so, living with no rules for longer than one or two days (whether or not it's "nice").  Does your priest follow you around with a bamboo cane and beat you when you start breaking rules?  

Well he emails me whenever I miss Church
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« Reply #150 on: January 10, 2014, 05:30:48 PM »

But seriously.

Here's what doesn't make sense to me. JamesR unfourtantley found Orthodoxy at age 16 or 15...and some of us have had tons of fun during our late teens and twenties but we found religion later on.

But now its all honky dory cause we can just repent...well actually get baptized before that.
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« Reply #151 on: January 10, 2014, 05:31:05 PM »

Shiny has got a point here. Why should anyone be in a rush to convert to Orthodoxy?

If the parable of the Prodigal Son tells us anything, it's that people who work hard their entire life to do what's right are not going to get crap in the end--except maybe some vain existential promise or something--whereas the obstinate who return at the very last minute will get a huge banquet with everything.
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« Reply #152 on: January 10, 2014, 05:31:18 PM »

I wish I could just take a break from this Orthodoxy and live with no rules for at least a couple days; that'd be nice. It's unfair that the cradles can break all the rules and sin, but we converts are expected to be perfect.

You can.  The only one stopping you is you.  You know...that old "free will" and "choice" and "consequences" conundrum.  Did you know it is just as much an affront to God, if not more so, to consciously, purposely sin saying to yourself, "hey...it's okay, cuz I can go to confession and get absolved and not jeopardize my salvation" as it is to just sin in the "normal" course of events??  What if, God forbid, you died before you had a chance to contact your priest to say, "Break's over.  I'm ready now..."?

What makes you think it's "okay" for cradles to break rules and sin any more than converts?  Because, you know...it ain't.
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« Reply #153 on: January 10, 2014, 05:31:50 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

You don't know why those "cradle kind" go to Church once a year.
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« Reply #154 on: January 10, 2014, 05:35:45 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers. I don't call it Sunday school because it was actually held on Saturday morning after liturgy, but the fact remains that we turned up, week after week, and not five minutes in advance.

Your experiences are far from universal.
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« Reply #155 on: January 10, 2014, 05:35:56 PM »

Shiny has got a point here. Why should anyone be in a rush to convert to Orthodoxy?

If the parable of the Prodigal Son tells us anything, it's that people who work hard their entire life to do what's right are not going to get crap in the end--except maybe some vain existential promise or something--whereas the obstinate who return at the very last minute will get a huge banquet with everything.
Exactly.

It seems wholly unfair.
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« Reply #156 on: January 10, 2014, 05:36:41 PM »

Well he emails me whenever I miss Church

OK.  So when you miss church, he writes about how you were wrong not to show up, how you committed a sin, that God's going to punish you because his patience for converts is limited (unlike his patience with converts), that when he sees you next he's going to slap you and prohibit you from communing for a few weeks, etc., etc., right?  

Or could he just be concerned about you?  Perhaps he emails others too, or calls them, or otherwise reaches out to them, whether or not you know about it?  
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« Reply #157 on: January 10, 2014, 05:37:13 PM »

Shiny has got a point here. Why should anyone be in a rush to convert to Orthodoxy?

If the parable of the Prodigal Son tells us anything, it's that people who work hard their entire life to do what's right are not going to get crap in the end--except maybe some vain existential promise or something--whereas the obstinate who return at the very last minute will get a huge banquet with everything.
Exactly.

It seems wholly unfair.

Yeah...life's unfair.  Get over it.
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« Reply #158 on: January 10, 2014, 05:37:56 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers.

Okay, rephrase it this way: how many of them were there because they had an Orthodox family or grandma forcing them to?

I got no one to tell me to go to Church or fast with me or to remind me to pray the Hours. It's all on me. Take away those teenagers' Orthodox family and put them in my shoes and I guarantee you that you'll lose 90% of them.
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« Reply #159 on: January 10, 2014, 05:38:59 PM »

Shiny has got a point here. Why should anyone be in a rush to convert to Orthodoxy?

If the parable of the Prodigal Son tells us anything, it's that people who work hard their entire life to do what's right are not going to get crap in the end--except maybe some vain existential promise or something--whereas the obstinate who return at the very last minute will get a huge banquet with everything.
Exactly.

It seems wholly unfair.

Yeah...life's unfair.  Get over it.
Not for everyone though. Thats the point.

Why do certain people suffer more than others?
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« Reply #160 on: January 10, 2014, 05:39:30 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers.

Okay, rephrase it this way: how many of them were there because they had an Orthodox family or grandma forcing them to?

I got no one to tell me to go to Church or fast with me or to remind me to pray the Hours. It's all on me. Take away those teenagers' Orthodox family and put them in my shoes and I guarantee you that you'll lose 90% of them.
Or out of cultural/ethnic identification.
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« Reply #161 on: January 10, 2014, 05:39:57 PM »

Shiny has got a point here. Why should anyone be in a rush to convert to Orthodoxy?

If the parable of the Prodigal Son tells us anything, it's that people who work hard their entire life to do what's right are not going to get crap in the end--except maybe some vain existential promise or something--whereas the obstinate who return at the very last minute will get a huge banquet with everything.
Exactly.

It seems wholly unfair.

If you really believe that, why talk so much about how unfair it is and instead just give it up?  After all, it's Jesus' own story, with Jesus' own interpretation.  If it's unfair, then why waste time on Jesus?  
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« Reply #162 on: January 10, 2014, 05:44:24 PM »

Basically James if you decide to get married, make sure you have a pre-nup.

Definitely doing that.

It's not fair how a woman can marry a man, make him give her two or three children, then gain weight, complain, spend all his money, refuse to cook anymore, and then divorce him and take half his stuff.

I'm only giving her what she gives me. I'll give a woman my all only if she gives me her all.
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lol, James with a pre-nup.

Does James have a great amount of wealth that needs to be protected?  My impression was the girl was coming in with all the money.  If that's the case, you don't want a pre-nup. Get that split 50/50.  Cheesy
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« Reply #164 on: January 10, 2014, 05:46:19 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers.

Okay, rephrase it this way: how many of them were there because they had an Orthodox family or grandma forcing them to?

I got no one to tell me to go to Church or fast with me or to remind me to pray the Hours. It's all on me. Take away those teenagers' Orthodox family and put them in my shoes and I guarantee you that you'll lose 90% of them.

Do the best you can and don't worry about what other people are doing (or not doing). 
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« Reply #165 on: January 10, 2014, 05:47:38 PM »

It would be tragic if he got married to his first real girlfriend outside of school

Yeah that's something I have to be careful of. I've never been in a serious relationship so I don't want to take it too fast and somehow screw myself over the first time she says "I love you" and it toys with my bizarre, JamesR heart.

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« Reply #166 on: January 10, 2014, 05:50:08 PM »

Shiny has got a point here. Why should anyone be in a rush to convert to Orthodoxy?

If the parable of the Prodigal Son tells us anything, it's that people who work hard their entire life to do what's right are not going to get crap in the end--except maybe some vain existential promise or something--whereas the obstinate who return at the very last minute will get a huge banquet with everything.
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It seems wholly unfair.

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"Jesus is my hero but his rules are unfair."

I've heard that one too many times.
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« Reply #167 on: January 10, 2014, 05:50:49 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers.

Okay, rephrase it this way: how many of them were there because they had an Orthodox family or grandma forcing them to?

I got no one to tell me to go to Church or fast with me or to remind me to pray the Hours. It's all on me. Take away those teenagers' Orthodox family and put them in my shoes and I guarantee you that you'll lose 90% of them.

Finance 101: Don't give guarantees on things you don't have the foggiest idea about.

And please, stop embarrassing yourself with spouting stupidity. What non-Orthodox kid would attend Orthodox Sunday school? We all came from Orthodox families. You know, the cradles who attended church once a year. Tongue
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« Reply #168 on: January 10, 2014, 05:52:54 PM »

What non-Orthodox kid would attend Orthodox Sunday school?

I did as a catechumen

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Sounds like you fellows had it pretty easy then.

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« Reply #169 on: January 10, 2014, 05:53:18 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers.

Okay, rephrase it this way: how many of them were there because they had an Orthodox family or grandma forcing them to?

I got no one to tell me to go to Church or fast with me or to remind me to pray the Hours. It's all on me. Take away those teenagers' Orthodox family and put them in my shoes and I guarantee you that you'll lose 90% of them.
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« Reply #170 on: January 10, 2014, 05:54:30 PM »

But fellows like me and Shiny had to work to have what you have and we're still regarded as second-class by the Greek elitists and have to carry a heavier burden.

What exactly do we have that you don't?
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« Reply #171 on: January 10, 2014, 05:55:08 PM »

But seriously,

This thing about having fun at 18 and in your early 20s and college life and all, it's VERY foreign to me.

Where I come from, everyone was having kids and "growing up" (or at least trying to) at the age of 16-18. No one goes to college and there is no such thing as "having fun" and "being a kid" in your late teens/early twenties.

My mom herself had me at 15.

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« Reply #172 on: January 10, 2014, 05:58:20 PM »

But fellows like me and Shiny had to work to have what you have and we're still regarded as second-class by the Greek elitists and have to carry a heavier burden.

What exactly do we have that you don't?

How about an Orthodox family that helps you practice your faith and encourages you? Now compare this to me and Shiny where we come from non-Orthodox families who are often hostile, or at least virtually uninvolved, in our religious lives and thus we are left to do it all on our own. And oftentimes, doing it on our own also means doing it in a hostile environment.

But we're still treated like crap. The EP hates our guts.
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« Reply #173 on: January 10, 2014, 05:59:48 PM »

How about an Orthodox family that helps you practice your faith and encourages you?

The same one that breaks all the rules?
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« Reply #174 on: January 10, 2014, 06:00:10 PM »

If you really believe that, why talk so much about how unfair it is and instead just give it up?

Because then I'd be like the cradles.
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« Reply #175 on: January 10, 2014, 06:00:56 PM »

How about an Orthodox family that helps you practice your faith and encourages you?

The same one that breaks all the rules?

Yep; the one that, in the very least, isn't hostile toward your faith and is at least culturally Orthodox. Try living in the home of American Evangelicals and you'll get it.
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« Reply #176 on: January 10, 2014, 06:03:59 PM »

How about an Orthodox family that helps you practice your faith and encourages you?

The same one that breaks all the rules?

Or in the other case, many of you have a really strong Orthodox family and you're able to just ride on their prestige and not have to do anything on your own.
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« Reply #177 on: January 10, 2014, 06:05:02 PM »

If you really believe that, why talk so much about how unfair it is and instead just give it up?

Because then I'd be like the cradles.

But I thought you wanted to live like them.  Is it now beneath you to live like them?  
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« Reply #178 on: January 10, 2014, 06:06:02 PM »

Jeff, I don't think being Orthodox at 18 is healthy.

Millions have done it and turned out just fine.

Who? The cradle kind who only go to Church once a year?

No. The cradle kind who go to church at least once a week. My classes were full of that kind of teenagers.

Okay, rephrase it this way: how many of them were there because they had an Orthodox family or grandma forcing them to?

I got no one to tell me to go to Church or fast with me or to remind me to pray the Hours. It's all on me. Take away those teenagers' Orthodox family and put them in my shoes and I guarantee you that you'll lose 90% of them.

Finance 101: Don't give guarantees on things you don't have the foggiest idea about.

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« Reply #179 on: January 10, 2014, 06:06:28 PM »

But fellows like me and Shiny had to work to have what you have and we're still regarded as second-class by the Greek elitists and have to carry a heavier burden.

What exactly do we have that you don't?

How about an Orthodox family that helps you practice your faith and encourages you? Now compare this to me and Shiny where we come from non-Orthodox families who are often hostile, or at least virtually uninvolved, in our religious lives and thus we are left to do it all on our own. And oftentimes, doing it on our own also means doing it in a hostile environment.

But we're still treated like crap. The EP hates our guts.

Last I checked, you're not under the EP, so...

Look, James, this is not a more-downtrodden-than-thou contest. Straighten up and fly right, or give up and live without rules. Just quit whining and sniveling like a toddler who isn't getting his way.
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