How come I haven't seen a woman with multiple husbands?
Some women get paid by the hour, and some under a long term contract. The former are called prostitutes and the latter are called wives. I believe that are referring to the former.
At least with the former, you get what you pay for with no strings attached (unless you like it that way), whereas in the case of the latter, you are paying more than you ought to pay for way less than you ought to be getting in return.
Like I said earlier,
I can see the institution of marriage breaking down in the West in favor of a looser form of extended prostitution or "temporary marriage" (apparently the P-word offends many people) where people legally hook up for a period ranging from a few months to a few years. Let's face it: marriage is expensive & tough in this world. And most men--contrary to what some may think--can't stay 100% celibate until they are almost 30. At least in the case of temporary marriage, both parties get what they want at an affordable rate and they don't have to deal with bad break-ups and emotional heartbreaks.
That being said, if most people can't afford even one wife, I'm not sure if polygamy would even be a problem for the Orthodox Church anymore today, save maybe in a few societies. A bigger problem is how the Church wants to deal with the growing difficulty of getting married nowadays if it still expects its parishioners to wait until marriage. One thing is going to budge; I just don't know which. Either the Church's morality on sex is going to budge and change (even more so than it already has) or Western society is going to change.
James, I can't really speak in authority on marrying an Eastern Orthodox Christian, but only the experience with my wife. My wife was raised in a conservative Mennonite church.... However, despite the theological differences, I do believe that many
Eastern Orthodox Christian women have very good conservative values.
See, I'm reading the word "afford" and a lot of talk about money in what you are saying. I believe that you are seeing too many non-content women as examples. Not being content, IS a sin...
Believe it or not, there are women in this world that will be very content in what you provide them. Even simplicity. Some would be happy to shop at Thrift stores, or sew for their children. Some are happy to be frugal, and don't want a large expensive home or vehicle. Some don't want to compete with other women. Some don't expect you to work till you are beat to death, and still complain for more.
I'm serious when I say, some women really just want to be loved and cared for, and don't expect for you to give them a luxury life.
I personally experience this with my wife. I provide, but she is happy with what she gets, nor does she want more. We try to teach these values to our children as well. We even joke about it when we pass by jewelry in the store - "Hey, you want me to buy you a $1500 ring?".... Her reply looking at me crazy "umm, they can keep it".
Marriage is not over-rated. It is a sacrament in the EO church, and loved by many Eastern Orthodox Christians worldwide.
Marriage can be an absolute blessing James.
In context of Polygamy (more than one spouse at once), I can't imagine something like that in my life, because honestly, I am content with my wife and don't want any more.
Adultery/fornication, are all sins that lead to destruction.
I wonder if the quote from St. Basil was not speaking against Polygamy (more than one spouse at once), then where are the Canons of the EO church forbidding it? Surely there must be right?