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33 years later we're getting married!
« on: November 10, 2013, 09:54:30 PM »
My "wife" and I are both recent converts to Orthodoxy and are getting officially, legally and sacramentally married after being together for 33 years!  Isn't that silly and wonderful at the same time!   ;)

Our priest wants us to and we can't say no to him.  Nobody can.  Besides, it gives us a chance to throw a bit of a party for our parish and show our gratitude for them having made such a perfectly beautiful little jewel of a church for us to just fly into.
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #1 on: November 10, 2013, 10:08:02 PM »
WoW! Wonderful!

May God grant you many more years of happiness and joy!

Glory to Him for all things!
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #2 on: November 10, 2013, 10:16:49 PM »
Wow, being together for so long is very impressive. Sounds like the marriage many married people can't have or lose quickly these days.

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #3 on: November 10, 2013, 10:25:14 PM »
Wow, being together for so long is very impressive. Sounds like the marriage many married people can't have or lose quickly these days.
That's assuming much, doncha think?
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #4 on: November 10, 2013, 10:48:02 PM »
Wow, being together for so long is very impressive. Sounds like the marriage many married people can't have or lose quickly these days.
That's assuming much, doncha think?

well... we're not much but we love each other and have always loved each other it seems...

...about ten years ago one time we were 40 minutes through our regular 60 minute walk and had fallen silent for 20 or 30 minutes - then out of the blue and apropos of nothing we both whistled the same 5 notes of the same song starting and stopping at exactly the same time.  That was the only time in 33 years I ever heard her whistle.  I guess you could say "we're close". 

We often just weep for joy at the breakfast table or whatever ... it's hard to explain but old married couples know about things like that.  May God bless you with true love because it can really help.  It helped me become a human being, for instance!   ;)
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #5 on: November 10, 2013, 10:49:22 PM »
Congratulations and many years, soon to be Mr and Mrs Feofan!  
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #6 on: November 10, 2013, 11:59:27 PM »
May God grant you many years!

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #7 on: November 11, 2013, 01:14:04 AM »
Many Years!

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #8 on: November 11, 2013, 01:18:13 AM »
I dunno, Theophan...don't you think you're rushing it?

Kidding of course. Many years! :P

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #9 on: November 11, 2013, 01:24:44 AM »
I dunno, Theophan...don't you think you're rushing it?

Kidding of course. Many years! :P
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #10 on: November 11, 2013, 01:29:14 AM »
God grant you many happy years!
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #11 on: November 11, 2013, 01:46:01 AM »
God grant you many years.
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #12 on: November 11, 2013, 01:47:35 AM »
thank you all for your kind wishes ...  when I hear "many years" now I'm reminded of how my priest replied on a recent occasion ...  "but not too many years"   ;)   What's starting to sound even better to me lately is "a Christian ending to our life, painless, blameless, peaceful, and a good defense before the dread judgment seat of Christ"!  

... but all in good time as the Lord wills ... first we have to survive the wedding preparations and the dread occasion itself!  We really had no idea what we were getting into and are finding it quite stressful.  We never dress up and hate being the center of attention.  Pray for us! ... no, really!  
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #13 on: November 11, 2013, 02:38:44 AM »
Wow, being together for so long is very impressive. Sounds like the marriage many married people can't have or lose quickly these days.
That's assuming much, doncha think?

No, bad marriages and divorces are very usual nowadays. Unfortunately.

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #14 on: November 11, 2013, 03:08:04 AM »
May God grant you many blessed years in continued love, happiness, and good health!
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #15 on: November 11, 2013, 08:34:48 AM »
May your wedding day be blessed and joyful!  Many years!

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #16 on: November 11, 2013, 11:07:37 AM »

Congratulations, and many, many happy and healthy years!!!!
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #17 on: November 11, 2013, 12:19:27 PM »
thank you all for your kind wishes ...  when I hear "many years" now I'm reminded of how my priest replied on a recent occasion ...  "but not too many years"   ;)   What's starting to sound even better to me lately is "a Christian ending to our life, painless, blameless, peaceful, and a good defense before the dread judgment seat of Christ"!  

... but all in good time as the Lord wills ... first we have to survive the wedding preparations and the dread occasion itself!  We really had no idea what we were getting into and are finding it quite stressful.  We never dress up and hate being the center of attention.  Pray for us! ... no, really!  

Obviously it never gets easier. :D
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« Reply #18 on: November 11, 2013, 05:16:36 PM »
thank you all for your kind wishes ...  when I hear "many years" now I'm reminded of how my priest replied on a recent occasion ...  "but not too many years"   ;)   What's starting to sound even better to me lately is "a Christian ending to our life, painless, blameless, peaceful, and a good defense before the dread judgment seat of Christ"!  

... but all in good time as the Lord wills ... first we have to survive the wedding preparations and the dread occasion itself!  We really had no idea what we were getting into and are finding it quite stressful.  We never dress up and hate being the center of attention.  Pray for us! ... no, really!  

Obviously it never gets easier. :D

Everyone I mention it to seems to have a story about how stressful weddings are, how they are basically just glad to have done with it, etc.  I had no idea it was this bad and am kind of surprised people still do it in the numbers they do.  We wouldn't have dreamed of doing anything remotely like this if it weren't for the sacrament, priest, parish, etc.

... but who knows, I almost sat out my first Pascha and ended up loving it so maybe the wedding will be magical too?  That would be good.  Come to think of it, our priest commenting on the service said something like ... "it's a sacrament - you're going to feel it" , so maybe?  
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #19 on: November 13, 2013, 12:57:46 AM »
Congratulations!

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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #20 on: November 13, 2013, 02:56:20 PM »
i saw plenty of marriages in my base church / spiritual home and they were not stressful.
this included one 'remarriage' of a couple who had already had a civil marriage (catholic+orthodox; now orthodox+orthodox).

the secret seems to be:
cheap budget (ask people to bring food)
invite everyone you know (no stress at leaving anyone out)
and have at least 4 official photographers.

our friends were poor (as was i at my protestant wedding) so some friends bought flowers for the church, others did the food, others hired a nice wedding car (ok, it was the upper end of 'budget' cars, not a vintage car with driver), and others did the photos / video; all as wedding presents.
the highlight of the wedding was the service in church and the joy of everyone as the couple grew deeper into their relationship with God.

the most stressful civil weddings i have seen involved masses of expense, so if you cut that out, it will help!
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #21 on: November 13, 2013, 10:57:18 PM »
Great. Marriage is wonderful. Among God's first known words in Scripture"is that is is not good for man to be alone". So we know what God did. Well for thirty three years you have been married, yes married, naturally speaking I guess you can say. If you were civilly married that is marriage under the law. But getting your marriage blessed by Mother Church now that you are in her is great. It gives you a special grace--you and your wife. Now your marriage is moved not only by natural affection, but a supernatural affection towards God, inspired by Him and His Holy Spirit.
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« Reply #22 on: November 15, 2013, 10:16:18 PM »
I was telling a guy I often see on the sidewalk in my neighborhood today that I was getting married on Sunday after being together for 33 years.  He said excitedly in his thick French accent "dats true love!  true love! now dey put de crown on top!".  I'm pretty certain he doesn't know about the Orthodox service ... it was just his own metaphor but I liked it a lot and took it with me after agreeing to bring "my bride" to meet him sometime.

He's been losing his legs over time (to diabetes), but he's got a permanent "inner smile" on his weather beaten face.  I asked him about that once and he smiled much more broadly and said excitedly in his thick French accent "because I see God in people's hearts".  Maybe he's a kook?  maybe not?   ;)
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #23 on: November 16, 2013, 12:30:48 AM »
thank you all for your kind wishes ...  when I hear "many years" now I'm reminded of how my priest replied on a recent occasion ...  "but not too many years"   ;)   What's starting to sound even better to me lately is "a Christian ending to our life, painless, blameless, peaceful, and a good defense before the dread judgment seat of Christ"!  

... but all in good time as the Lord wills ... first we have to survive the wedding preparations and the dread occasion itself!  We really had no idea what we were getting into and are finding it quite stressful.  We never dress up and hate being the center of attention.  Pray for us! ... no, really!  

Obviously it never gets easier. :D

Everyone I mention it to seems to have a story about how stressful weddings are, how they are basically just glad to have done with it, etc.  I had no idea it was this bad and am kind of surprised people still do it in the numbers they do.  We wouldn't have dreamed of doing anything remotely like this if it weren't for the sacrament, priest, parish, etc.

... but who knows, I almost sat out my first Pascha and ended up loving it so maybe the wedding will be magical too?  That would be good.  Come to think of it, our priest commenting on the service said something like ... "it's a sacrament - you're going to feel it" , so maybe?  


Two more years and it will be 33 years of married life for my husband and me too.
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #24 on: November 16, 2013, 01:15:55 AM »
Two more years and it will be 33 years of married life for my husband and me too.

Congratulations - you couple of kids!   ;)
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« Reply #25 on: November 16, 2013, 10:02:56 PM »
Hey you got any pictures? And be sure to post pictures of the wedding if you can. I am sure everyone here would appreciate it.
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« Reply #26 on: November 17, 2013, 01:34:40 PM »
Hey you got any pictures? And be sure to post pictures of the wedding if you can. I am sure everyone here would appreciate it.

God willing, it's going to happen in about 5 hours ... we didn't arrange for any pictures though.
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« Reply #27 on: November 17, 2013, 01:40:10 PM »
Mazel tov! Hooray! Woohoo!  :angel:
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« Reply #28 on: November 17, 2013, 02:01:12 PM »
Hey you got any pictures? And be sure to post pictures of the wedding if you can. I am sure everyone here would appreciate it.

God willing, it's going to happen in about 5 hours ... we didn't arrange for any pictures though.
Surely a friend can bring a camera or take some pics with a phone.
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« Reply #29 on: November 17, 2013, 02:13:57 PM »
Hope she trips on her wedding dress. I think that would be the same as wishing an actor to break a leg!  ;D
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #30 on: November 17, 2013, 02:34:34 PM »
Hey you got any pictures? And be sure to post pictures of the wedding if you can. I am sure everyone here would appreciate it.

God willing, it's going to happen in about 5 hours ... we didn't arrange for any pictures though.
Surely a friend can bring a camera or take some pics with a phone.

I hope so!  :angel:
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« Reply #31 on: November 17, 2013, 03:19:12 PM »
Mazel tov! Hooray! Woohoo!  :angel:
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« Reply #32 on: November 17, 2013, 05:10:39 PM »
OK, Divine Liturgy is done ... brief pause then back for round #2!  I'm sure there will be some cell phones there.  Maybe I could just ask the NSA to download me a copy!   ;)

In case I don't get photos though and you're wondering what we look like, I could just tell you.  My sweetie is really beautiful (inner & outer beauty in full bloom) and I look like an old turnip someone left out on the porch too long.
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #33 on: November 17, 2013, 10:08:59 PM »
Congraturaltions!! May God grant you and your beloved many many years!

And thanks be to God for the many years He has already granted you!
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« Reply #34 on: November 17, 2013, 10:35:57 PM »
Wow! ... if you're going to get married - get married in a Russian Orthodox Church!   :D

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« Reply #35 on: November 17, 2013, 10:45:39 PM »
Wow! ... if you're going to get married - get married in a Russian Orthodox Church!   :D



No, thanks. I'll pass.

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« Reply #36 on: November 18, 2013, 12:37:41 AM »
Wow! ... if you're going to get married - get married in a Russian Orthodox Church!   :D



No, thanks. I'll pass.

what?  pass on marriage or the Russian Orthodox Church?
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« Reply #37 on: November 18, 2013, 12:41:36 AM »
DON'T DO IT !!!

(kidding.... I'm kidding...................really)
Your idea has been debunked 1000 times already.. Maybe 1001 will be the charm

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« Reply #38 on: November 18, 2013, 01:00:37 AM »
DON'T DO IT !!!

(kidding.... I'm kidding...................really)

too late, been there, done that!   ;)
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« Reply #39 on: November 18, 2013, 02:52:19 PM »
Wow! ... if you're going to get married - get married in a Russian Orthodox Church!   :D



No, thanks. I'll pass.

what?  pass on marriage or the Russian Orthodox Church?

I am not Russian, do not live in Russian and would not marry Russian. Why would I have a wedding in a Russian church then?

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« Reply #40 on: November 18, 2013, 07:06:54 PM »
Wow! ... if you're going to get married - get married in a Russian Orthodox Church!   :D



No, thanks. I'll pass.

what?  pass on marriage or the Russian Orthodox Church?

I am not Russian, do not live in Russian and would not marry Russian. Why would I have a wedding in a Russian church then?

ahh... OK Michal

I just meant I thought my wedding was truly awesome.   I have nothing to compare it to, but i'm sure you do.  Maybe all orthodox weddings are awesome?  I hope so.
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Re: 33 years later we're getting married!
« Reply #41 on: December 29, 2013, 06:19:39 PM »
OK, Divine Liturgy is done ... brief pause then back for round #2!  I'm sure there will be some cell phones there.  Maybe I could just ask the NSA to download me a copy!   ;)

In case I don't get photos though and you're wondering what we look like, I could just tell you.  My sweetie is really beautiful (inner & outer beauty in full bloom) and I look like an old turnip someone left out on the porch too long.

Dear Феофан! Good news because from now on your body is hers and her body is yours :)
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Congratulations on your wedding! We had a wedding ceremony in a Serbian Church, same beautiful as a Russian one!
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« Reply #42 on: December 29, 2013, 09:54:20 PM »
God bless you both!  And what an auspicious anniversary!  33 years!!!
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« Reply #43 on: December 30, 2013, 04:10:07 AM »
Congratulations
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