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« on: October 29, 2013, 10:00:18 AM »

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/can-t-touch-this--pregnant-mom-lawsuit-takes-on-belly-rubbing-211618835.html

Okay, I'm just curious about opinions.

I don't have children yet, but I really hope to one day. Those who are/have been pregnant, do people really approach you out of nowhere and just touch your pregnant belly? Apparently, in the story, a neighbor, 57 yrs old reaches out to his new pregnant next door neighbor, gives her a hug hello, and then rubs her belly and says 'I just want to be friends.' She quickly pushes him away, leaves, and files harassment charges.

My question is, what was this guy thinking? I don't know how you can describe his actions as innocent, but I can completely understand the woman's reaction. I think I would have responded the same way. It's seems like a violation. However, would I feel a little different if it was a woman - maybe. But how can you see it otherwise? I've NEVER wanted to touch a stranger's pregnant belly, and I'd feel violated if someone were to touch mine. But is it because we are becoming less and less innocent-minded nowadays? Should we always think the worst?
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« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2013, 10:03:20 AM »

I hear pregnant ladies complaining about this a lot.
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« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2013, 10:35:08 AM »

Yes people do.

It's ridiculous.
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« Reply #3 on: October 29, 2013, 10:41:27 AM »

Peoples obsession with pregnant strangers and newborns is becoming increasingly more creepy.

Its like people just have to touch it for some reason...why...
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« Reply #4 on: October 29, 2013, 10:46:08 AM »

I think we live in an era where people are overly sensitive and very easily offended.

I feel the urge to touch the pregnant bellies only because I want to connect with the baby. I don't care about the actual belly, I want to feel the baby. I don't do it because I'm scared of people's reactions and certainly I won't like to get sued.

I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg
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« Reply #5 on: October 29, 2013, 10:50:44 AM »

I feel the urge to touch the pregnant bellies only because I want to connect with the baby. I don't care about the actual belly, I want to feel the baby. I don't do it because I'm scared of people's reactions and certainly I won't like to get sued.
That is all sorts of creepz.
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« Reply #6 on: October 29, 2013, 10:52:45 AM »

Yeah, I don't like women touching me and moving my clothes around.

They think it is cute. I don't.

It has happened enough in my life that I think I can relate to pregnant women.

The touch is arguably "neutral" to "desired" (most guys I guess would like women to touch them).
The touch is not asked for.

No thanks.

We live in every increasing facebook world where everyone thinks your conversations, clothes, even body are up for comment when you are in public.

Mine ain't and you take your chances thinking otherwise.
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« Reply #7 on: October 29, 2013, 10:53:59 AM »


I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg

That is a beautiful image and I'm sure the Theotokos, all-Holy as she is, would never turn anyone away from Her. But the issue is, are our innocent-minded actions as such anymore? Why are we so easily offended? I think it's because we are tarnished, daily, by the disgusting acts of physical/sexual abuse we hear and see. A pregnant belly is a beautiful thing because it carries life! Why would anyone want to tarnish that image with impure thoughts?
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« Reply #8 on: October 29, 2013, 10:54:48 AM »

I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

I guess the difference in the end between the Orthodox and protestants is that the protestants feel confident telling me the subjective experience of Christ, the Odox, the subjective experience of Mary.

You would do well not to attempt to imitate the mind of Saints.
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I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg

That is a beautiful image and I'm sure the Theotokos, all-Holy as she is, would never turn anyone away from Her. But the issue is, are our innocent-minded actions as such anymore? Why are we so easily offended? I think it's because we are tarnished, daily, by the disgusting acts of physical/sexual abuse we hear and see. I pregnant belly is a beautiful thing because it carries life! Why would anyone want to tarnish that image with impure thoughts?

Because the world and people bodies don't revolve around your desires?
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« Reply #10 on: October 29, 2013, 10:57:10 AM »

Yeah, I don't like women touching me and moving my clothes around.

They think it is cute. I don't.

It has happened enough in my life that I think I can relate to pregnant women.

The touch is arguably "neutral" to "desired" (most guys I guess would like women to touch them).
The touch is not asked for.

No thanks.

We live in every increasing facebook world where everyone thinks your conversations, clothes, even body are up for comment when you are in public.

Mine ain't and you take your chances thinking otherwise.

I agree. That's supporting my argument - we are not innocent-minded anymore!! Sadly, a simple touch in such manner can bring on the most disgusting of feeling.
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I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg

That is a beautiful image and I'm sure the Theotokos, all-Holy as she is, would never turn anyone away from Her. But the issue is, are our innocent-minded actions as such anymore? Why are we so easily offended? I think it's because we are tarnished, daily, by the disgusting acts of physical/sexual abuse we hear and see. I pregnant belly is a beautiful thing because it carries life! Why would anyone want to tarnish that image with impure thoughts?

Because the world and people bodies don't revolve around your desires?


What desires are you referring to?
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« Reply #12 on: October 29, 2013, 10:59:29 AM »

We live in every increasing facebook world where everyone thinks your conversations, clothes, even body are up for comment when you are in public.
People think they have some sort of right.

Honestly I wish people left me the hell alone.

If I'm on a cell phone on the bus, I get off it i think public commentary should be allowed.

But people think they can interject themselves into my life. Uh no.
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« Reply #13 on: October 29, 2013, 11:01:34 AM »


I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg

That is a beautiful image and I'm sure the Theotokos, all-Holy as she is, would never turn anyone away from Her. But the issue is, are our innocent-minded actions as such anymore? Why are we so easily offended? I think it's because we are tarnished, daily, by the disgusting acts of physical/sexual abuse we hear and see. I pregnant belly is a beautiful thing because it carries life! Why would anyone want to tarnish that image with impure thoughts?

Because the world and people bodies don't revolve around your desires?

Can I please rant about my Italian coworker now?

I have my headphones on, working mind you, and she hates when I send her a message over a chat...well uh kinda don't want to talk to you in person.

Tries to get me to bend to her desires and crap. Ugh.
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I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg

That is a beautiful image and I'm sure the Theotokos, all-Holy as she is, would never turn anyone away from Her. But the issue is, are our innocent-minded actions as such anymore? Why are we so easily offended? I think it's because we are tarnished, daily, by the disgusting acts of physical/sexual abuse we hear and see. I pregnant belly is a beautiful thing because it carries life! Why would anyone want to tarnish that image with impure thoughts?

Because the world and people bodies don't revolve around your desires?


What desires are you referring to?

To touch a stranger's belly in some better-never-have-existed world?

TBH, I read your post as from Dpaula, so whatever she is going on about.
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« Reply #15 on: October 29, 2013, 11:02:34 AM »

I think TOUCH is absolutely very important in a human's life.
I would be in physical pain if I can't touch and if I'm not being touched. We have this sense and it's part of our existence. Like we want to see, we want to hear, taste, smell...we also want to touch. It's beyond me why you guys find "touching" weird and "creepy" ?!?!?!?
Wow!
I choose to use my sense of touch. If you guys don't like your humanly characteristics it's on you, but don't blame the world for being normal.
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« Reply #16 on: October 29, 2013, 11:03:56 AM »

Most of us learned very early on the "keep your hands to yourself" lesson as a means of reducing conflict/not driving our parents insane (how much whining from children, especially siblings, begins with "Moooom, he's touching me!"?). Apparently some people think that goes out the window if someone is pregnant. I very much disagree. If you wouldn't do it if someone wasn't pregnant, then don't assume that you can just because they are. At least freaking ask. It's guaranteed to avoid lawsuits and helps to make you not seem like some sort of creep even though you probably are.
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« Reply #17 on: October 29, 2013, 11:04:04 AM »

Seems kind of creepy, but it would have helped the neighbor if he asked in the first place.
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« Reply #18 on: October 29, 2013, 11:05:21 AM »

I think TOUCH is absolutely very important in a human's life.
I would be in physical pain if I can't touch and if I'm not being touched. We have this sense and it's part of our existence. Like we want to see, we want to hear, taste, smell...we also want to touch. It's beyond me why you guys find "touching" weird and "creepy" ?!?!?!?
Wow!
I choose to use my sense of touch. If you guys don't like your humanly characteristics it's on you, but don't blame the world for being normal.

Don't touch my body, unless I know you. Then there are rules most sane people understand. Pulling my shirt up ain't cool. Even if I know you.

Don't play with my hair when you are taking my order.

If I were pregnant I would appreciate most folks to ask before touching and accepting NO as a reasonable answer.
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« Reply #19 on: October 29, 2013, 11:07:40 AM »

I think TOUCH is absolutely very important in a human's life.
I would be in physical pain if I can't touch and if I'm not being touched. We have this sense and it's part of our existence. Like we want to see, we want to hear, taste, smell...we also want to touch. It's beyond me why you guys find "touching" weird and "creepy" ?!?!?!?
Wow!
I choose to use my sense of touch. If you guys don't like your humanly characteristics it's on you, but don't blame the world for being normal.

Don't touch my body, unless I know you. Then there are rules most sane people understand. Pulling my shirt up ain't cool. Even if I know you.

Don't play with my hair when you are taking my order.

If I were pregnant I would appreciate most folks to ask before touching and accepting NO as a reasonable answer.

If the cultural norms are different, then fine. When in Rome, but I really don't care for strangers taking an interest in my body much to the puzzlement of women who think they do whatever they wish cause I have a penis and they do not.

By extension, I wouldn't want people thinking they can just touch me cause I have a person in my belly.
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« Reply #20 on: October 29, 2013, 11:09:20 AM »

Dpaula must be the hugger type. I hate those people.

Oh man I loved it when a black girl went off at manager trying to pull that crap. And the mgr gets all offended when she said don't touch me.

Are you kidding??

Black women don't seem to like even being touched during sex either.
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« Reply #21 on: October 29, 2013, 11:10:18 AM »

We can extend this to people thinking they can man handle kids without any report.

IT DRIVES ME CRAZY when I see people take such liberties with strange children.

And FWIW, I've been told I am very affectionate with children and very good with them. But I would never just bowl over a child with physical affection. It is obscene in my mind.

As much as people talk about unborn persons, they certainly don't treat them like person once born. They often treat them as badly as dogs, even with animals I wouldn't take such liberties.
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« Reply #22 on: October 29, 2013, 11:12:04 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.

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« Reply #23 on: October 29, 2013, 11:12:55 AM »

Dpaula, we are not saying we should never touch.

Just, don't touch strangers just cause you SO want to, if that is outside the cultural norm.
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« Reply #24 on: October 29, 2013, 11:13:35 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.


OK then I have the right to slap a woman's behind when I see em walk my way. You know I gotta see if I can be sexually compatible with them.

I mean the touch is so important.

You are creepy.

And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.
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« Reply #25 on: October 29, 2013, 11:13:44 AM »

I would love to hear what Quinault has to say.

She is wonderfully odd. It would certainly be interesting.
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« Reply #26 on: October 29, 2013, 11:18:03 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.


OK then I have the right to slap a woman's behind when I see em walk my way.

I mean the touch is so important.

You are creepy.

And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.

Listen nickname on the internet. I have not offended you yet, but I'm <this> close to do it and I don't think I'll feel bad about it.

Why would you slap a woman? I'm talking about normal touch, not hitting, nothing sexual. Weirdo!
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« Reply #27 on: October 29, 2013, 11:25:03 AM »

It was in jest, I was making a reference to a dumb post I made a few weeks ago.

Anyway. Go ahead and try to offend me.
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« Reply #28 on: October 29, 2013, 11:25:28 AM »

Having a stranger just come up and touch/rub your pregnant belly can create an uncomfortable situation. Firstly, we all have a 'personal space,' and the second one enters it, it makes us jump back. Whether getting to close to your face, from the back, side, whatever.

But in this case, I would assume the attempt is to connect with the unborn child (as odd as that sounds.) To feel the baby move or kick. I don't assume one reaches out for any other reason!

Like I said, should it have been a woman, it kind of 'looks' different because women can bond over this experience. But, as I've said, it is a personal violation. I would never want a stranger touching my pregnant belly. I don't think I would file harassment charges that instant. But if it were to happen again, by the same person, that's a different story. My pregnant belly should be mine to touch - and only touched by others I know WELL - not just anyone.

Here's another thought - what if I child were to rub a women's pregnant belly - would you be fine with it if it were you?
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« Reply #29 on: October 29, 2013, 11:27:51 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.



And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.

yes!! Good one! But honestly, I haven't seen that done at all nowadays! Who does that?
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« Reply #30 on: October 29, 2013, 11:28:19 AM »

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/hands_on_research

“To touch is to give life”
Regrettably, though, some Western cultures are pretty touch-deprived, and this is especially true of the United States.

Ethologists who live in different parts world quickly recognize this. Nonhuman primates spend about 10 to 20 percent of their waking day grooming each other. If you go to various other countries, people spend a lot of time in direct physical contact with one another—much more than we do.

This has been well-documented. One of my favorite examples is a study from the 1960s by pioneering psychologist Sidney Jourard, who studied the conversations of friends in different parts of the world as they sat in a café together. He observed these conversations for the same amount of time in each of the different countries.

What did he find? In England, the two friends touched each other zero times. In the United States, in bursts of enthusiasm, we touched each other twice. "

http://www.uab.edu/Communicationstudies/humancommunication/12_05_Carter_Wrench.pdf

Field (2002b) noted that touch is extremely important for the emotional, physical,
and psychological growth and development for children. Extreme cases of touch
deprivation have been cited in Romanian orphanages where children attained only half
their height. Moreover, there children with extreme touch deprivation have had delays in
cognitive development. Appropriate touch for children has been shown to help with
sleep, reduce bad temper, and enhance academic performance (Hart, Field, Hernandez
-Reif, and Lundy, 1998).
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« Reply #31 on: October 29, 2013, 11:35:31 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.



And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.

yes!! Good one! But honestly, I haven't seen that done at all nowadays! Who does that?

This is too strange for me.
Maybe I grew up differently, maybe I was raised to love humans, related or not, known or not. A pat on my shoulder, a touch on my hand, a hug, a kiss on the cheek or forehead...they are all normal as far as I'm concerned.
You guys CAN kiss my kids. It's ok.
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« Reply #32 on: October 29, 2013, 11:43:06 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.



And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.

yes!! Good one! But honestly, I haven't seen that done at all nowadays! Who does that?

This is too strange for me.
Maybe I grew up differently, maybe I was raised to love humans, related or not, known or not. A pat on my shoulder, a touch on my hand, a hug, a kiss on the cheek or forehead...they are all normal as far as I'm concerned.
You guys CAN kiss my kids. It's ok.

I grew up like that too! And in school, I have the fondest memories of TEACHERS hugging AND kissing me on the head. I felt loved because it was innocently expressed. Can you imagine a teacher doing that now? No! Touching, let alone kissing, is prohibited! Even rubbing a child's back! I think that is sad.
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« Reply #33 on: October 29, 2013, 11:53:36 AM »

While I understand touching pregnant's belly might be uncomfortable suing for that or comparing it to sexual assault is ridiculous.
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« Reply #34 on: October 29, 2013, 11:54:26 AM »

Why do I get the feeling that this thread is going to turn into one of those "hell in a handbasket"-type gripefests where certain people lament that people lock their doors nowadays and nobody waves at you when you walk down the street, and why isn't everything just like the Mayberry they grew up in.

I was raised in a small town where the mailman would come to your garage sale and stuff like that (we were on a first-name basis; he bought our old TV for $20), and it was still never okay to kiss a stranger's children. Just because you have personal space doesn't mean you can't bond with people. There are just appropriate ways and inappropriate ways and unless you know the person very well, you'll never know which is which to them unless you ask, which is what the baby belly-rubbers and kid-kissers seem to never do because, hey, it's fine with them, so what's everyone else's problem?  Roll Eyes
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« Reply #35 on: October 29, 2013, 11:57:30 AM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.



And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.

yes!! Good one! But honestly, I haven't seen that done at all nowadays! Who does that?

This is too strange for me.
Maybe I grew up differently, maybe I was raised to love humans, related or not, known or not. A pat on my shoulder, a touch on my hand, a hug, a kiss on the cheek or forehead...they are all normal as far as I'm concerned.
You guys CAN kiss my kids. It's ok.

I grew up like that too! And in school, I have the fondest memories of TEACHERS hugging AND kissing me on the head. I felt loved because it was innocently expressed. Can you imagine a teacher doing that now? No! Touching, let alone kissing, is prohibited! Even rubbing a child's back! I think that is sad.

You are so right! I remember when a teacher would hug me , I felt so much appreciation and I felt important and I had this feeling that I'm being recognized for my merits, like I'm doing something good to deserve a hug from THE teacher.
I work in a school now and you are right...nobody is allowed to touch the children. It IS sad!
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« Reply #36 on: October 29, 2013, 12:02:12 PM »

While I understand touching pregnant's belly might be uncomfortable suing for that or comparing it to sexual assault is ridiculous.
I'm not sure that statement is so accurate. If I were a pregnant woman, I imagine I would be creeped out by a man I don't know hugging me and patting my pregnant belly. Ask my permission first, dammit! Angry If she wants to sue, I don't blame her.
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« Reply #37 on: October 29, 2013, 12:03:50 PM »

This neighbor should have asked first.   It sounds wonderful to have a society where touch is more accepted. But, this is foreign to me since the touch I got growing up was when I was being physically assaulted.    When men have touched/patted/groped me in public places, I have been quite confrontational to protect my space.  Everybody has different experiences,  so I'm not dismissing others, but given my experiences I don't want anyone touching me except my husband. 

  I would be afraid that this neighbor would assume he could get physical with my kid, too, and there would be no way I would sit for that.  Maybe he was innocent, but I would worry about it being a boundary test.   Which a co-worker clued me in on when I was puzzled by some odd behavior from another co-worker.  Basically, some will purposely test your boundary through inappropriate touching to see if you'll do anything to stop it.  So, they can see what they can get away with and if they would be wasting time on you if you do protect your boundaries.

Maybe this pregnant women had a reason to not want strangers  or non-family members to touch her. 
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« Reply #38 on: October 29, 2013, 12:15:43 PM »

This neighbor should have asked first.   It sounds wonderful to have a society where touch is more accepted. But, this is foreign to me since the touch I got growing up was when I was being physically assaulted.    When men have touched/patted/groped me in public places, I have been quite confrontational to protect my space.  Everybody has different experiences,  so I'm not dismissing others, but given my experiences I don't want anyone touching me except my husband. 

  I would be afraid that this neighbor would assume he could get physical with my kid, too, and there would be no way I would sit for that.  Maybe he was innocent, but I would worry about it being a boundary test.   Which a co-worker clued me in on when I was puzzled by some odd behavior from another co-worker.  Basically, some will purposely test your boundary through inappropriate touching to see if you'll do anything to stop it.  So, they can see what they can get away with and if they would be wasting time on you if you do protect your boundaries.

Maybe this pregnant women had a reason to not want strangers  or non-family members to touch her. 
Even worse: According to the news story about this case, the man rubbed his pregnant neighbor's belly even after she told him not to. Rubbing a pregnant woman's belly without asking first may be acceptable to some, unacceptable to others, but rubbing a pregnant woman's belly after she tells you to stop is just plain wrong. Whenever someone tells you to stop doing something that makes her feel uncomfortable, and you continue to do it anyway, that's harassment.
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« Reply #39 on: October 29, 2013, 12:42:22 PM »

I think we live in an era where people are overly sensitive and very easily offended.

I feel the urge to touch the pregnant bellies only because I want to connect with the baby. I don't care about the actual belly, I want to feel the baby. I don't do it because I'm scared of people's reactions and certainly I won't like to get sued.

I really don't think Theotokos would've been upset if people would've touched her blessed belly.

This image is not Orthodox, but certainly depicts the fact that it's nothing weird about touching a pregnant belly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:DARET_Jacques_Visitation.jpg

So, this image you linked to...

...is not a stranger patting her baby bump, but, a well loved Aunt, with whom the Virgin was very comfortable.

I do not agree with the statement that she would allow anyone to rub her tummy.  In those days women were even more modest than today (if you can imagine that  Roll Eyes ).  There's no way she would have allowed a man to touch her.

As for this case...it IS creepy.  You should never take liberties with others just because it makes you feel good.  Nonsense.

I hug kids.  But, I only hug the kids I know.  I am their teacher and they come running to me when they see me coming...and in return they receive a hug bear hug and perhaps a kiss on the head from me.  The other children standing next to them, who are not my students and to whom I am not "close", I will pat their head or just say "hi".

You have to judge the recipient.  Do they wish to be touched, hugged, kissed?  If you aren't sure, leave them alone....and move on.
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« Reply #40 on: October 29, 2013, 12:51:13 PM »

Thank you Liza. Thats definitely appropriate in my book and sane.
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I hug kids. But, I only hug the kids I know.  I am their teacher and they come running to me when they see me coming...and in return they receive a hug bear hug and perhaps a kiss on the head from me.  


And don't kiss my kids.

I would be afraid that this neighbor would assume he could get physical with my kid, too, and there would be no way I would sit for that.  Maybe he was innocent, but I would worry about it being a boundary test.

I hope you asked for permission to kiss your students, ma'am!
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« Reply #42 on: October 29, 2013, 01:13:50 PM »

Actually, I did not.  However, these kids know and love me, as much as I know and love them.  I am like an aunt to each one.  They come to me with their fears and their tears and their joys.  When I walk in the room, they actually come running to me, expecting the hug, to be picked up, to be cuddled.  Even the teenagers come up to me waiting for a hug.

As I mentioned, I do not hug or touch kids who are not "close" to me.  So, if Achronos's kids were to come up to me, I would bend down and talk to them and maybe pat their heads.

I normally do not run up to the kids to give them a hug.  My hug comes as a response to those little outstretched hands coming towards me.  I am not the initiator, nor do I feel a "need" to touch them....only to express my love to those whom I know and care for.

Touching a strange belly because there is a child within, would never enter my mind.  The most I would do is be nicer to the pregnant woman, let her go ahead of me, give her my seat, etc.  I would never even ask if I could touch her, because that would just be wrong.

You are lucky you don't live in the "old" country  Smiley  ....where you would get your hand slapped because the woman and her baba would think you were trying to curse the child, take their youth or health for yourself, etc, by touching them.  Normally, the child is protected from all strangers (evil eye....) until it is properly baptized.
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You are lucky you don't live in the "old" country  Smiley  ....where you would get your hand slapped because the woman and her baba would think you were trying to curse the child, take their youth or health for yourself, etc, by touching them.  Normally, the child is protected from all strangers (evil eye....) until it is properly baptized.

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« Reply #44 on: October 29, 2013, 01:24:27 PM »

I can easily understand why a pregnant woman would not want her belly rubbed without her permission. It's an extreme invasion of her privacy and personal space.
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Actually, I did not.  However, these kids know and love me, as much as I know and love them.  I am like an aunt to each one.  They come to me with their fears and their tears and their joys.  When I walk in the room, they actually come running to me, expecting the hug, to be picked up, to be cuddled.  Even the teenagers come up to me waiting for a hug.

As I mentioned, I do not hug or touch kids who are not "close" to me.  So, if Achronos's kids were to come up to me, I would bend down and talk to them and maybe pat their heads.

I normally do not run up to the kids to give them a hug.  My hug comes as a response to those little outstretched hands coming towards me.  I am not the initiator, nor do I feel a "need" to touch them....only to express my love to those whom I know and care for.

Touching a strange belly because there is a child within, would never enter my mind.  The most I would do is be nicer to the pregnant woman, let her go ahead of me, give her my seat, etc.  I would never even ask if I could touch her, because that would just be wrong.

You are lucky you don't live in the "old" country  Smiley  ....where you would get your hand slapped because the woman and her baba would think you were trying to curse the child, take their youth or health for yourself, etc, by touching them.  Normally, the child is protected from all strangers (evil eye....) until it is properly baptized.


You may think you're like an aunt, but their parents might consider you a stranger.
"Don't be touching on my child even though in his innocence (key word -innocence) he wants a hug. He don't know any better and you might be a perv who just wants to rub on my child."
Just saying.......
This society makes me sick sometimes.
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« Reply #46 on: October 29, 2013, 01:55:33 PM »

lol Ask for permission first. Don't just go around petting people's bellies! I don't think it's really polite to be doing that to strangers either.
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« Reply #47 on: October 29, 2013, 02:20:50 PM »

Actually, I did not.  However, these kids know and love me, as much as I know and love them.  I am like an aunt to each one.  They come to me with their fears and their tears and their joys.  When I walk in the room, they actually come running to me, expecting the hug, to be picked up, to be cuddled.  Even the teenagers come up to me waiting for a hug.

As I mentioned, I do not hug or touch kids who are not "close" to me.  So, if Achronos's kids were to come up to me, I would bend down and talk to them and maybe pat their heads.

I normally do not run up to the kids to give them a hug.  My hug comes as a response to those little outstretched hands coming towards me.  I am not the initiator, nor do I feel a "need" to touch them....only to express my love to those whom I know and care for.

Touching a strange belly because there is a child within, would never enter my mind.  The most I would do is be nicer to the pregnant woman, let her go ahead of me, give her my seat, etc.  I would never even ask if I could touch her, because that would just be wrong.

You are lucky you don't live in the "old" country  Smiley  ....where you would get your hand slapped because the woman and her baba would think you were trying to curse the child, take their youth or health for yourself, etc, by touching them.  Normally, the child is protected from all strangers (evil eye....) until it is properly baptized.


You may think you're like an aunt, but their parents might consider you a stranger.
"Don't be touching on my child even though in his innocence (key word -innocence) he wants a hug. He don't know any better and you might be a perv who just wants to rub on my child."
Just saying.......
This society makes me sick sometimes.

...actually, the parents have no issues, and often in church will send their kids to stand with me.  They are well aware of their kids' affections towards me and mine towards them. 

See, that's the difference.  They all know me.  They all know I would do anything for any one of those children, whom I greatly love.

Now, if I were in line at a grocery store, and some unknown child wondered over and raised her arms to me....I would not pick her up, nor hug her, but, perhaps take her by that outstretched hand and lead her back to the parent, or take her to the front counter to have her parent paged.



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« Reply #48 on: October 29, 2013, 02:40:41 PM »

You may think you're like an aunt, but their parents might consider you a stranger.
"Don't be touching on my child even though in his innocence (key word -innocence) he wants a hug. He don't know any better and you might be a perv who just wants to rub on my child."
Just saying.......
This society makes me sick sometimes.

So, how often do you go around hugging/touching random children and/or pregnant women?
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« Reply #49 on: October 29, 2013, 03:31:42 PM »

You may think you're like an aunt, but their parents might consider you a stranger.
"Don't be touching on my child even though in his innocence (key word -innocence) he wants a hug. He don't know any better and you might be a perv who just wants to rub on my child."
Just saying.......
This society makes me sick sometimes.
You really don't get it do you.

Liza was more charitable than I would have been.

I could use a hug from Liza though.
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« Reply #50 on: October 29, 2013, 03:34:49 PM »


Next time I see you, you're getting a huge bear hug from me!  Cheesy
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Next time I see you, you're getting a huge bear hug from me!  Cheesy
Should have told me you were in PA.
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Should of.  It was a beautiful drive.  It's a lovely state.
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I would love to touch orthonorm's pregnant belly.  Idc if he sues me, it would be worth it.
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Orthonorm sporting a pregnant belly would be rather newsworthy.
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Orthonorm sporting a pregnant belly would be rather newsworthy.

This is how orthonorm gets the girls, and Dpaula confirmed it.
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^ Arnold Schwarzenegger already beat him to it. Smiley
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Orthonorm sporting a pregnant belly would be rather newsworthy.

This is how orthonorm gets the girls, and Dpaula confirmed it.
He births them?

Orthonorm gets stranger and stranger by the moment.  laugh
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Orthonorm sporting a pregnant belly would be rather newsworthy.

This is how orthonorm gets the girls, and Dpaula confirmed it.
He births them?

Orthonorm gets stranger and stranger by the moment.  laugh
He does get plenty of strangers.

Its why he is always in a great mood.
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There might be some conflict between Western and traditional culture in this. Maybe pregnant women are one of the last vestiges of non-individualist culture.

I still think it's extremely awkward though.
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« Reply #60 on: October 29, 2013, 05:28:35 PM »

There might be some conflict between Western and traditional culture in this. Maybe pregnant women are one of the last vestiges of non-individualist culture.

I still think it's extremely awkward though.

So, creepy people who come up to pregnant women and rub their bellies without asking are actually the few, enlightened non-individualists?  Communitarianists, if you will; "it takes a village" and all that.

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« Reply #61 on: October 29, 2013, 05:31:13 PM »

never felt the urge to rub a pregnant belly. it kinda pushes me away . i prefer flat bellies for rubbing purposes.
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« Reply #62 on: October 29, 2013, 05:34:41 PM »

I would love to touch orthonorm's pregnant belly.  Idc if he sues me, it would be worth it.

I am beginning to doubt Achronos' commitment since I've yet to see a shop of this.
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« Reply #63 on: October 29, 2013, 05:45:55 PM »

There might be some conflict between Western and traditional culture in this. Maybe pregnant women are one of the last vestiges of non-individualist culture.

I don't know anything about individualist vs. non-individualist cultures, but I do know that pregnant women are individual human beings who deserve to have their wishes respected as far as who may touch them and who may not, same as any other people.

Why are some things so easily reduced to political abstractions? The lady didn't want her belly touched and her neighbor went ahead and did it anyway. They're probably both from the same culture, and the guy is a creep regardless.
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american culture has extremely low tolerance for touching anyways. in general.
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I don't even like people standing around on the corner outside of my apartment building. Get outta here, you probably drug-selling bums.
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« Reply #66 on: October 29, 2013, 05:55:08 PM »

I don't even like people standing around on the corner outside of my apartment building. Get outta here, you probably drug-selling bums.

Hahahaha, this was me all the time when I lived in an apartment.
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« Reply #67 on: October 29, 2013, 05:55:23 PM »

I don't even like people standing around on the corner outside of my apartment building. Get outta here, you probably drug-selling bums.

LOL!  You are a bit TOO sensitive!  How do you handle standing in church and rubbing elbows with others?
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« Reply #68 on: October 29, 2013, 06:00:36 PM »

I just want to jump in and give the 'back in the day' answer.  This was never odd or creepy when I was growing up, but also, never did someone just reach out and start rubbing.  

I've seen it many times--a person, most often a friend or relative, will comment on how you're 'glowing,' and then they would ask permission!  More often than not, they would ask the mother if the baby was kicking, but then if they wanted to touch the mother's stomach, they 1) always asked first, and 2) it was to see if they could feel the baby (men especially, as pregnancy is something they can't experience first-hand), and 3) there was never any rubbing involved.  It was a touch.  If given permission, they placed their hand on the mother's stomach in the hopes of feeling a kick, or the baby's hand or foot.  At no point in time did the rubbin' commence.

As a society, we've just gotten entirely too weird.
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« Reply #69 on: October 29, 2013, 06:03:16 PM »

I just want to jump in and give the 'back in the day' answer.  This was never odd or creepy when I was growing up, but also, never did someone reach out and just start rubbing. 

I've seen it many times--a person, most often a friend or relative, will comment on how you're 'glowing,' and then ask permission!  More often than not, they would ask the mother if the baby was kicking, but then if they wanted to touch the mother's stomach, they 1) always asked first, and 2) it was to see if they could feel the baby (men especially, as pregnancy is something they can't experience first-hand), and 3) there was never any rubbing involved.  It was a touch.  If given permission, they placed their hand on the mother's stomach in the hopes of feeling a kick, or the baby's hand or foot.  At no point in time did the rubbin' commence.

As a society, we've just gotten entirely too weird.

This was my experience, too.  If you aren't family or an intimate friend, you better ask.  Otherwise, it's just weird.
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« Reply #70 on: October 29, 2013, 06:21:24 PM »

Apparently some people do. It's rather strange and somewhat rude if you ask me. Pregnant women are often so insecure and emotionally volatile because of what they are going through that I wouldn't want to possibly do anything that could further tick her off or add to her troubles. I'd never bring up a woman's pregnancy either--it will only make her feel fat and even more depressed. Only time I rub a pregnant woman's belly is when she offers or asks me to, and I do it to be polite. Personally, I find it kind of scary and creepy. I wouldn't want to somehow be responsible for a miscarriage or birth defect on the baby if some freak accident occurred.
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« Reply #71 on: October 29, 2013, 06:25:07 PM »

I don't even like people standing around on the corner outside of my apartment building. Get outta here, you probably drug-selling bums.

Hahahaha, this was me all the time when I lived in an apartment.

Ugh, seriously. My apartment is on the corner. I can hear you selling drugs and getting into fights and whatnot. I can hear it. It's literally less than 5 feet outside my window.  Undecided

LOL!  You are a bit TOO sensitive!  How do you handle standing in church and rubbing elbows with others?

Our church is so small, this doesn't really happen unless there's some reason for someone to be right next to me (say, when there's a priest from Egypt who doesn't speak English and they want to translate the important parts of his sermon in a low voice without bothering other people; that's fine).

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« Reply #72 on: October 29, 2013, 06:53:46 PM »

Apparently some people do. It's rather strange and somewhat rude if you ask me. Pregnant women are often so insecure and emotionally volatile because of what they are going through that I wouldn't want to possibly do anything that could further tick her off or add to her troubles. I'd never bring up a woman's pregnancy either--it will only make her feel fat and even more depressed. Only time I rub a pregnant woman's belly is when she offers or asks me to, and I do it to be polite. Personally, I find it kind of scary and creepy. I wouldn't want to somehow be responsible for a miscarriage or birth defect on the baby if some freak accident occurred.

She said "Touch," not "Punch." Wink

Ugh, seriously. My apartment is on the corner. I can hear you selling drugs and getting into fights and whatnot. I can hear it. It's literally less than 5 feet outside my window.  Undecided

We had a lot of burglaries and a few murders in the complex I lived in.  Thank God I only lived there for three years.  It was the cheapest place that would accept my dogs.  I had to have German Shepherds so people wouldn't bother us.  Go figure. Roll Eyes Shocked
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« Reply #73 on: October 29, 2013, 07:25:06 PM »

Apparently some people do. It's rather strange and somewhat rude if you ask me. Pregnant women are often so insecure and emotionally volatile because of what they are going through that I wouldn't want to possibly do anything that could further tick her off or add to her troubles. I'd never bring up a woman's pregnancy either--it will only make her feel fat and even more depressed. Only time I rub a pregnant woman's belly is when she offers or asks me to, and I do it to be polite. Personally, I find it kind of scary and creepy. I wouldn't want to somehow be responsible for a miscarriage or birth defect on the baby if some freak accident occurred.
Yes, the classic male faux pas: NEVER ask a woman if she's pregnant or assume that she is when you talk to her. If she isn't pregnant, then you basically just called her fat.
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« Reply #74 on: October 29, 2013, 07:32:30 PM »

I would love to touch orthonorm's pregnant belly.  Idc if he sues me, it would be worth it.

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Yes, the classic male faux pas: NEVER ask a woman if she's pregnant or assume that she is when you talk to her. If she isn't pregnant, then you basically just called her fat.


 
I am totally passing for pregnant.  If someone asks me my due date, I just give them one. 
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« Reply #76 on: October 29, 2013, 09:13:06 PM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.
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« Reply #77 on: October 29, 2013, 09:18:37 PM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.
Did anyone keep going when you told them to stop?
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« Reply #78 on: October 29, 2013, 10:37:44 PM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.



It all very much depends on the person, and also on whether one knows the person. Touching can also send mixed or wrong messages.
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« Reply #79 on: October 29, 2013, 10:40:43 PM »

While I understand touching pregnant's belly might be uncomfortable suing for that or comparing it to sexual assault is ridiculous.

I think in this case it was about the specific context.
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« Reply #80 on: October 29, 2013, 10:45:22 PM »

Ok. Don't take my word for it.
Read some studies about the importance of touch, touch deprivation, touch as a communication tool in a human and non-human and so on.



And don't kiss my kids.

I got a story invloving that too.

yes!! Good one! But honestly, I haven't seen that done at all nowadays! Who does that?

This is too strange for me.
Maybe I grew up differently, maybe I was raised to love humans, related or not, known or not. A pat on my shoulder, a touch on my hand, a hug, a kiss on the cheek or forehead...they are all normal as far as I'm concerned.
You guys CAN kiss my kids. It's ok.

I grew up like that too! And in school, I have the fondest memories of TEACHERS hugging AND kissing me on the head. I felt loved because it was innocently expressed. Can you imagine a teacher doing that now? No! Touching, let alone kissing, is prohibited! Even rubbing a child's back! I think that is sad.

You are so right! I remember when a teacher would hug me , I felt so much appreciation and I felt important and I had this feeling that I'm being recognized for my merits, like I'm doing something good to deserve a hug from THE teacher.
I work in a school now and you are right...nobody is allowed to touch the children. It IS sad!

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« Reply #81 on: October 29, 2013, 10:51:28 PM »

never felt the urge to rub a pregnant belly. it kinda pushes me away . i prefer flat bellies for rubbing purposes.

Please tell me there is a Romanian village folk custom related to belly rubbing. It's okay if you just make it up.
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« Reply #82 on: October 29, 2013, 10:52:17 PM »

never felt the urge to rub a pregnant belly. it kinda pushes me away . i prefer flat bellies for rubbing purposes.

Please tell me there is a Romanian village folk custom related to belly rubbing. It's okay if you just make it up.
I hope it involves that wizard too.
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« Reply #83 on: October 29, 2013, 10:53:01 PM »

I don't even like people standing around on the corner outside of my apartment building. Get outta here, you probably drug-selling bums.

LOL!  You are a bit TOO sensitive!  How do you handle standing in church and rubbing elbows with others?

Hate it.
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« Reply #84 on: October 29, 2013, 10:54:05 PM »

I just want to jump in and give the 'back in the day' answer.  This was never odd or creepy when I was growing up, but also, never did someone reach out and just start rubbing. 

I've seen it many times--a person, most often a friend or relative, will comment on how you're 'glowing,' and then ask permission!  More often than not, they would ask the mother if the baby was kicking, but then if they wanted to touch the mother's stomach, they 1) always asked first, and 2) it was to see if they could feel the baby (men especially, as pregnancy is something they can't experience first-hand), and 3) there was never any rubbing involved.  It was a touch.  If given permission, they placed their hand on the mother's stomach in the hopes of feeling a kick, or the baby's hand or foot.  At no point in time did the rubbin' commence.

As a society, we've just gotten entirely too weird.

This was my experience, too.  If you aren't family or an intimate friend, you better ask.  Otherwise, it's just weird.

Wouldn't it also be weird if a stranger came up to you and asked to rub your belly?
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« Reply #85 on: October 29, 2013, 10:57:50 PM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.

You could make an off-hand comment as they're rubbing your belly, "Yeah, I've been feeling sicker than usual since becoming pregnant. Had to send a sample to the CDC. I hope I don't have to be quarantined."
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« Reply #86 on: October 29, 2013, 11:00:37 PM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.
Did anyone keep going when you told them to stop?

No. Did he do that to her in the article? I missed that.
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^ I did not see it in the article.
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« Reply #88 on: October 29, 2013, 11:01:54 PM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.

You could make an off-hand comment as they're rubbing your belly, "Yeah, I've been feeling sicker than usual since becoming pregnant. Had to send a sample to the CDC. I hope I don't have to be quarantined."

Ha! Nice.
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« Reply #89 on: October 29, 2013, 11:06:31 PM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.

You could make an off-hand comment as they're rubbing your belly, "Yeah, I've been feeling sicker than usual since becoming pregnant. Had to send a sample to the CDC. I hope I don't have to be quarantined."

Ha! Nice.

I offered to buy a pregnant woman a drink once. She acted as though as I was the worst thing on earth. This was about 1AM in a smoke filled bar.

She didn't understand my sense of humor.
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« Reply #90 on: October 29, 2013, 11:12:57 PM »

I can definitely understand being upset over a stranger rubbing your belly without permission. I'm mixed on filing charges over it, but if the neighbor repeatedly did it and refused to stop... Although, even then it makes me wonder if the neighbor's forcing himself into close proximity with her to do it, or if she still kept approaching him.
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« Reply #91 on: October 30, 2013, 12:00:18 AM »

I had my belly rubbed against my will with each pregnancy. People do it, but I will say that the greater percentage in my limited experience was women. I would just take a step back while smiling and try to remind myself that it's good that people are excited about babies... so excited that they've seemingly forgotten the baby is living in me still. It's rude and people should know better, but it's never ruined my day so much I felt the need to file harassment charges.
Did anyone keep going when you told them to stop?

No. Did he do that to her in the article? I missed that.
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^ O. K.  Repeating something when told not to is approaching the line.  Sounds like the neighbor did not use good judgment, but I will go by what the investigators decide.
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« Reply #93 on: October 30, 2013, 12:26:06 AM »

Wanting to rub the woman's belly against her wishes is bad enough, but saying to her "I want to be your friend" while doing so elevates it to a creepiness that's almost sinister. Ugh!!!  Tongue Tongue Tongue Angry
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« Reply #94 on: October 30, 2013, 12:34:08 AM »

Wanting to rub the woman's belly against her wishes is bad enough, but saying to her "I want to be your friend" while doing so elevates it to a creepiness that's almost sinister. Ugh!!!  Tongue Tongue Tongue Angry
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Wanting to rub the woman's belly against her wishes is bad enough, but saying to her "I want to be your friend" while doing so elevates it to a creepiness that's almost sinister. Ugh!!!  Tongue Tongue Tongue Angry
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« Reply #96 on: October 30, 2013, 02:27:04 AM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?
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she has the right to be offended. Hopefully the charge is not too big. But one day her hatred will have to be given an accounting. God is fair to all. Some are not loving to strangers. She would have to prove to God one day she does not hate strangers and wanted them to be saved. If it was a big charge which would ruin a life I do not think God would forgive such a person as the person is careless caring about ones own comfort more than a stranger and denying the pain one afflicts
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« Reply #98 on: October 30, 2013, 02:38:15 AM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?

Depending on the size of the bub, and the direction of the kick, the answer can be "yes".
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« Reply #99 on: October 30, 2013, 02:44:01 AM »

she has the right to be offended. Hopefully the charge is not too big. But one day her hatred will have to be given an accounting. God is fair to all. Some are not loving to strangers. She would have to prove to God one day she does not hate strangers and wanted them to be saved. If it was a big charge which would ruin a life I do not think God would forgive such a person as the person is careless caring about ones own comfort more than a stranger and denying the pain one afflicts


mikeforjesus, there is no "hatred" in the woman's action against this person who clearly overstepped the boundaries of respectful and decent behavior. It's also presumptuous of you to suggest God "might not forgive" the woman for the action she took.

If your sister was pregnant and was accosted by a man in the same way, and made to feel uncomfortable and even threatened by him when he refused to stop, what do you think she should do?
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« Reply #100 on: October 30, 2013, 03:06:29 AM »

she has the right to be offended. Hopefully the charge is not too big. But one day her hatred will have to be given an accounting. God is fair to all. Some are not loving to strangers. She would have to prove to God one day she does not hate strangers and wanted them to be saved. If it was a big charge which would ruin a life I do not think God would forgive such a person as the person is careless caring about ones own comfort more than a stranger and denying the pain one afflicts


mikeforjesus, there is no "hatred" in the woman's action against this person who clearly overstepped the boundaries of respectful and decent behavior. It's also presumptuous of you to suggest God "might not forgive" the woman for the action she took.

If your sister was pregnant and was accosted by a man in the same way, and made to feel uncomfortable and even threatened by him when he refused to stop, what do you think she should do?


truth is I judge my sister also for lack of compassion sometimes. I hope she is learning through me to show compassion. If it is as you describe she has reason to be offended but thats not how it seemed to me. Also I did not know he threatened her. I thought it was just someone who wants to be nice
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she has the right to be offended. Hopefully the charge is not too big. But one day her hatred will have to be given an accounting. God is fair to all. Some are not loving to strangers. She would have to prove to God one day she does not hate strangers and wanted them to be saved. If it was a big charge which would ruin a life I do not think God would forgive such a person as the person is careless caring about ones own comfort more than a stranger and denying the pain one afflicts


mikeforjesus, there is no "hatred" in the woman's action against this person who clearly overstepped the boundaries of respectful and decent behavior. It's also presumptuous of you to suggest God "might not forgive" the woman for the action she took.

If your sister was pregnant and was accosted by a man in the same way, and made to feel uncomfortable and even threatened by him when he refused to stop, what do you think she should do?


truth is I judge my sister also for lack of compassion sometimes. I hope she is learning through me to show compassion. If it is as you describe she has reason to be offended but thats not how it seemed to me. Also I did not know he threatened her. I thought it was just someone who wants to be nice


The woman told him to stop, yet he continued his behavior. She had every right to feel uncomfortable, vulnerable, intimidated and threatened. Threatening behavior need not involve violence or anger.
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« Reply #102 on: October 30, 2013, 04:03:42 AM »

Wanting to rub the woman's belly against her wishes is bad enough, but saying to her "I want to be your friend" while doing so elevates it to a creepiness that's almost sinister. Ugh!!!  Tongue Tongue Tongue Angry

LBK got it in one.  His whole approach to the neighbour, even before the belly rub component, would set off alarm bells in any woman.  A man, upon meeting a woman for the first time, gives her a bear hug and says, "I just want to be friends"?  Ugh, what?  You want to be "just friends"? Lips Sealed   Yeah sure. Roll Eyes  He's lucky that all he got was a shove and a harassment charge...
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« Reply #103 on: October 30, 2013, 04:15:30 AM »

I am, by nature, a very affectionate person and always have been; allegedly not a terribly common trait among Irish males and one that seemingly baffled my relatives throughout my childhood. (They got used to it - only took them about 20 years or so.)

I suppose it accounts, in part, for how well and how quickly I came to fit in with my Lebanese and Syrian co-religionists when I first ventured into the Melkite community - not every Irishman is comfortable being hugged and kissed three times on being introduced Cheesy (and at every meeting and parting thereafter, onto ages of ages).  

Nothing has changed and I still am just as physically affectionate with my children, grandson, nieces and nephews, cousins, and their children, as well as with my closest friends and their children - and they with me. Even some co-workers see me as someone whom it's 'ok' to greet with a hug after not having seen one another for awhile (a recent consolidation of two of our work-sites brought me into contact for the first time in a couple of years with several young women who were my students for several months when they first came on-board as trainees, and I was nearly bowled over with enthused greetings accompanied by heartfelt hugs).

But, never, not once in my entire life, have I rubbed the pregnant (or otherwise) belly of any woman - heck, I don't think that I ever even did so with either of my wives during their pregnancies - and I had 5 opportunities. (Yes, I did 'feel' the kicks on request, but never randomly rubbed their bellies as some do a statue of Buddha, for luck.)

It is, decidedly, 'creepy' for a neighbor to do so and, as has been said by my brothers and sisters here, it is, at the very least, tasteless, and it demonstrates either a flagrant disregard for the personal space of another or a testing of boundaries - the one is at minimum thoughtless, the other intimidating, violative, and potentially even threatening.    

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« Reply #104 on: October 30, 2013, 09:39:05 AM »

- heck, I don't think that I ever even did so with either of my wives during their pregnancies - and I had 5 opportunities. (Yes, I did 'feel' the kicks on request, but never randomly rubbed their bellies as some do a statue of Buddha, for luck.)


LOL!  For some reason, upon first reading this, I thought you had multiple wives, at the same time!  5 of them, no less!

I need my coffee.
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« Reply #105 on: October 30, 2013, 11:12:21 AM »

- heck, I don't think that I ever even did so with either of my wives during their pregnancies - and I had 5 opportunities. (Yes, I did 'feel' the kicks on request, but never randomly rubbed their bellies as some do a statue of Buddha, for luck.)


LOL!  For some reason, upon first reading this, I thought you had multiple wives, at the same time!  5 of them, no less!

I need my coffee.

Actually that's what I was thinking too. Usually divorced you refer them as ex-wives.

5 wives...ain't it enough suffering with just one? Wink
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« Reply #106 on: October 30, 2013, 11:21:11 AM »

- heck, I don't think that I ever even did so with either of my wives during their pregnancies - and I had 5 opportunities. (Yes, I did 'feel' the kicks on request, but never randomly rubbed their bellies as some do a statue of Buddha, for luck.)


LOL!  For some reason, upon first reading this, I thought you had multiple wives, at the same time!  5 of them, no less!

I need my coffee.

Actually that's what I was thinking too. Usually divorced you refer them as ex-wives.

5 wives...ain't it enough suffering with just one? Wink
I read it as two wives pregnant five times (total, not each).
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« Reply #107 on: October 30, 2013, 11:24:21 AM »

Lol better than me.

Either would mean 2...

I'll take you up on that coffee break Liza LOL.
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« Reply #108 on: October 30, 2013, 12:39:43 PM »

There might be some conflict between Western and traditional culture in this. Maybe pregnant women are one of the last vestiges of non-individualist culture.

I still think it's extremely awkward though.

So, creepy people who come up to pregnant women and rub their bellies without asking are actually the few, enlightened non-individualists?  Communitarianists, if you will; "it takes a village" and all that.

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« Reply #109 on: October 30, 2013, 12:49:14 PM »

I'm such an individualist.  I don't want creepy people touching me. laugh
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I'm such an individualist.  I don't want creepy people touching me. laugh

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I'm such an individualist.  I don't want creepy people touching me. laugh

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« Reply #112 on: October 30, 2013, 01:10:06 PM »

As a communist, I welcome all attempts to caress my stomach.
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« Reply #113 on: October 30, 2013, 02:21:03 PM »

Nobody attempted that on me during my pregnancy, thank goodness. I might have been okay with a woman; some just radiate goodwill. But, with both my father and father-in-law gone, the only male I would allow anywhere near my belly was my husband. Anyone else trying would have got a shiner for his pains. Before the lawsuit and restraining order. Angry
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« Reply #114 on: October 30, 2013, 02:47:19 PM »

Nobody attempted that on me during my pregnancy, thank goodness. I might have been okay with a woman; some just radiate goodwill. But, with both my father and father-in-law gone, the only male I would allow anywhere near my belly was my husband. Anyone else trying would have got a shiner for his pains. Before the lawsuit and restraining order. Angry

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« Reply #115 on: October 30, 2013, 04:13:57 PM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?


I never experienced pain, and my son did so much kicking, I thought he was bouncing a ball around in there.  That's not to say that other women don't experience pain.  Most women have some sort of morning sickness, and never got any of that, either.
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« Reply #116 on: October 30, 2013, 04:17:42 PM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?

I never experienced pain, and my son did so much kicking, I thought he was bouncing a ball around in there.  That's not to say that other women don't experience pain.  Most women have some sort of morning sickness, and never got any of that, either.

It can be painful if the baby's position sends the kicks towards sensitive areas (stomach, ribs, full bladder). Otherwise, it's just a kind of fluttery bouncing. Even fun, at times.
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« Reply #117 on: October 30, 2013, 08:09:43 PM »

Peoples obsession with pregnant strangers and newborns is becoming increasingly more creepy.

Its like people just have to touch it for some reason...why...
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« Reply #118 on: October 30, 2013, 10:04:34 PM »

I recall being touched a lot with each pregnancy, after the second or third time I didn't care anymore and accepted that the larger the belly the more they want to touch for whatever reason. It was always older women though so it wasn't creepy to me.

The only time it really bothered me was the one time someone asked if I was having twins.  Undecided
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« Reply #119 on: October 31, 2013, 12:13:33 AM »

- heck, I don't think that I ever even did so with either of my wives during their pregnancies - and I had 5 opportunities. (Yes, I did 'feel' the kicks on request, but never randomly rubbed their bellies as some do a statue of Buddha, for luck.)


LOL!  For some reason, upon first reading this, I thought you had multiple wives, at the same time!  5 of them, no less!

Umm, that nick is 'Melkite' Liza, not 'Mormon' Cheesy

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« Reply #120 on: October 31, 2013, 12:33:22 AM »


LOL! 

I was sleepy and needed my morning coffee.  Grin
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« Reply #121 on: October 31, 2013, 02:13:56 PM »

I have never had the desire to rub a pregnant woman's belly.  I just cannot understand the urge.  Part of this may be the fact that I have this bizarre feeling that if I were to poke a pregnant woman's belly pillsbury doughboy style it would rupture and the little guy would slither down my throat like an alien.  I realize this is unfounded in fact, but when I am around pregnant women and feel like I might bump them in anyway, shape, or form I tense up and get nervous.  In the same line of thought I try to avoid newborns when at all possible.  They aren't as slimy as babies in the womb but I still have this fear that they will coat themselves in the ubiquitous crap and vomit and then try to slither down my gullet. 

This whole topic just gives me the willies.
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« Reply #122 on: October 31, 2013, 02:22:19 PM »

I have never had the desire to rub a pregnant woman's belly.  I just cannot understand the urge.  Part of this may be the fact that I have this bizarre feeling that if I were to poke a pregnant woman's belly pillsbury doughboy style it would rupture and the little guy would slither down my throat like an alien.  I realize this is unfounded in fact, but when I am around pregnant women and feel like I might bump them in anyway, shape, or form I tense up and get nervous.  In the same line of thought I try to avoid newborns when at all possible.  They aren't as slimy as babies in the womb but I still have this fear that they will coat themselves in the ubiquitous crap and vomit and then try to slither down my gullet. 

This whole topic just gives me the willies.

Sounds like you had the willies before the topic ever came up. 
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« Reply #123 on: October 31, 2013, 06:02:04 PM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?

I never experienced pain, and my son did so much kicking, I thought he was bouncing a ball around in there.  That's not to say that other women don't experience pain.  Most women have some sort of morning sickness, and never got any of that, either.

It can be painful if the baby's position sends the kicks towards sensitive areas (stomach, ribs, full bladder). Otherwise, it's just a kind of fluttery bouncing. Even fun, at times.

Fun until you're trying to fall asleep at night and suddenly the baby has hiccups. Wink Then you have to try to ignore the continuous, rhythmic bouncing.
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« Reply #124 on: October 31, 2013, 07:07:26 PM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?

I never experienced pain, and my son did so much kicking, I thought he was bouncing a ball around in there.  That's not to say that other women don't experience pain.  Most women have some sort of morning sickness, and never got any of that, either.

It can be painful if the baby's position sends the kicks towards sensitive areas (stomach, ribs, full bladder). Otherwise, it's just a kind of fluttery bouncing. Even fun, at times.

Fun until you're trying to fall asleep at night and suddenly the baby has hiccups. Wink Then you have to try to ignore the continuous, rhythmic bouncing.

I do not remember hiccups at night. Guess I was so tired that I slept through it.
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« Reply #125 on: October 31, 2013, 07:46:51 PM »

On a somewhat related note, does the pregnant woman feel any pain when the baby "kicks"?

I never experienced pain, and my son did so much kicking, I thought he was bouncing a ball around in there.  That's not to say that other women don't experience pain.  Most women have some sort of morning sickness, and never got any of that, either.

It can be painful if the baby's position sends the kicks towards sensitive areas (stomach, ribs, full bladder). Otherwise, it's just a kind of fluttery bouncing. Even fun, at times.

Fun until you're trying to fall asleep at night and suddenly the baby has hiccups. Wink Then you have to try to ignore the continuous, rhythmic bouncing.

I do not remember hiccups at night. Guess I was so tired that I slept through it.

Maybe you had a more considerate baby. Cheesy
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« Reply #126 on: October 31, 2013, 07:49:11 PM »

“In Turkey, they say that if you’re touching a pregnant woman, they say that you will get the energy and you will get pregnant too,” added Yagmur.

New Yorkers Weigh In On Pennsylvania Law Banning Touching Pregnant Bellies
http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2013/10/28/new-yorkers-weigh-in-on-pennsylvania-law-banning-touching-pregnant-bellies/

Does this explain anything at all about the Turkish people?
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“In Turkey, they say that if you’re touching a pregnant woman, they say that you will get the energy and you will get pregnant too,” added Yagmur.

New Yorkers Weigh In On Pennsylvania Law Banning Touching Pregnant Bellies
http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2013/10/28/new-yorkers-weigh-in-on-pennsylvania-law-banning-touching-pregnant-bellies/

Does this explain anything at all about the Turkish people?

Now let me, in my dotage, get this straight. If I am brazen enough to accost some unfortunate pregnant women and rub her belly I'll get pregnant! Now I might have forgotten a few of the ins and outs of conception but someone really has got the most crazy imagination. They need to take more water with their drink.
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Now I might have forgotten a few of the ins and outs of conception

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Now I might have forgotten a few of the ins and outs of conception

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Now I might have forgotten a few of the ins and outs of conception

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My children and grandchildren bestowed it upon me, and all the local children and teenagers call me Santa. Have even had young ones call round and ask to see the reindeer (sigh, how do you answer that one).
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My children and grandchildren bestowed it upon me, and all the local children and teenagers call me Santa. Have even had young ones call round and ask to see the reindeer (sigh, how do you answer that one).

I hope one day I will look slovenly enough to be called Grinch.
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I'm sorry to the original post for treating you badly how can I do that to the one who directed me to a priest pray for me to insist to be regular with a priest and to find balance in my life


Wrong thread, maybe? Wink  Unless the one who directed you to a priest is pregnant.
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I'm sorry to the original post for treating you badly how can I do that to the one who directed me to a priest pray for me to insist to be regular with a priest and to find balance in my life


Wrong thread, maybe? Wink  Unless the one who directed you to a priest is pregnant.

I actually think he is, indeed, referring to me, OP, but for a different thread, lol.

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There's not any nearby deserts are there?

I suspect you haven't read this thread and the circumstances of the case in the OP.
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