Ray Comfort merely preaches the truth, it is not his fault that the truth about fruit causes people nightmares.
I still have nightmares with Ray trying to find places where banana is designed to fit into...
I can tell you only waht my priest said to me when I asked him these same questions. Live the life. Pray as often as you can. Ask for guidence of God and of your priest as well as your brothers and sisters. Attend Liturgy. Do good works, and show love and kindness to those all around you.
That's actual proper evangelism for me. Leading people into church by example, sharing good news with them, showing there is a better way they can lead their lifes. They will come to know more and eventually learn why exactly they sgouldn't be doing some things, they will adapt their culture according to their conscience, without flipping it upside down, Japan and St. Nikolai is a nice example of that.
On the other hand is proselytism, which just throws people away before they even have a chance to look at faith and . There is very strong proselytizing catholic wing in Poland publishing their "evangelization tool", monthly "Exorcist", which can be easily found after masses in churches tells you "first hand" about vampires, 3rd eyes, that horror movies, fantasy/sci-fi books, computer games, music, etc, etc are satanic and you are probably possessed by now. It produces very weird "breed" of christians, concentrated on looking for supernatural evil and witches everywhere, literally. Most of it goes against even roman theology or the Bible(you had suicide in family - satans coming for you, you fire incense sticks - they were probably 'sacrificed' to other gods, you dont have to know, satans coming!), when more experienced priests try to intervene, they got schooled and called anti-christians and devil advocates
Same goes for evangelical rapture-based missionaries... Maybe it's just me, but faith based on fear of satan instead of good news of gospels is very shallow. Evangelize is to spread good news, not terrible ones?
There is a nice article about evangelism - proselytism if anybody wanna read:http://www.pravoslavie.ru/english/46414.htm
and a comment under the text, which is very nice 8-)
This reminds me of an exchange in Archimandrite Sophrony’s Saint Silouan of the Athonite:
‘Father Archimandrite, people feel in their souls when they are doing the proper thing, believing in Jesus Christ, revering the Mother of God and the Saints, whom they call upon in prayer, so if you condemn their faith they will not listen to you…. But if you were to confirm that they were doing well to believe in God and honor the Mother of God and the Saints; that they are right to go to church, and say their prayers at home, read the Divine word, and so on; and then gently point out their mistakes and show them what they ought to amend, then they would listen to you, and the Lord would rejoice over them. And this way by God’s mercy we shall all find salvation…. God is love, and therefore the preaching of His word must always proceed from love. Then both preacher and listener will profit. But if you do nothing but condemn, the soul of the people will not heed you, and no good will come of it.’
oh, forgot to add that I think Orthodox church should evangelise (or inform, publicize) a lot more, outside european countries with orthodox majority people just don't know/understand Orthodoxy. People can get informations online, but when confused person looks for 'christianity' on google, he will most likely land on well positioned apologetic sites which are most of the time very anti-RC, and since Orthodoxy in the west is seen as some kind of RC counterpart/offshoot, they cross it out alongside as wrong or heretical.