True. But they will always feel that void that comes with it. Nobody to follow after me actually hurts me deeply.
They have the choice to be satisfied with what they DO have in life. Children are not a necessity. If God hasn't allowed them to conceive, so be it.
This is a problem YOU have to deal with.
So, when I was a kid, I wanted to marry Mr. Right, live in a house with a white picket fence, have 2 kids, and live the dream.
As I got older, I figured, one child would suffice.
Well, I got none of that...not even the picket fence. Should I just call it quits? Give up on life? Pout and be unhappy until I die?
That's a choice the person must make.
I choose not to be unhappy, but, to take it as an opportunity to do other things with my life. I am not held back by husband/children and am in a place in my life where I find I can contribute my talents and skills in other ways.
Life goes on. We cannot be so attached to a dream that we stop living if that dream isn't achieved.
This goes specifically against the Second Commandment of God - to not make idols for ourselves. These desires, are idols, as they take over our lives, thoughts and very beings. They pull us from God and His teachings, leading us to make our own laws, justify our own actions, in order to bow to the idols of our own making.
Hmmm...I don't know how to answer this, but I'll attempt.
I, as a newly wed, choose to go ahead and "multiply" .
I did choose to marry, and with that comes other desires as well...like the one to have a child.
Upon multiple failed attempts (it's not about me, I haven't even been married one month yet, so this is just theoretically speaking) , am I to give up and find something better to do with my married life?
I'm sure some people (like James over here) will gladly say "yes, move on with your life and find something better to do". But some people actually DO want children. And they do not want them because they want to somehow fulfill their selfishness, but they actually genuinely want children. You can't compare this desire to anything else in the world. Like I said, it's not like you want a better car, or a bigger house. It's not like you want to harm somebody, or take away something that belongs to someone else. It's not an idol that you want to worship. You're not cheating on your husband. You're not being disrespectful to your parents. It has nothing to do with your neighbor. You just want a child. Sure. It comes a moment in your life when you might want to refocus that energy, and you might need to find another mission, but don't you want to try everything humanly possible to have a child? I would.
I'm not going against the teaching of the Church. I trust the Church. I was just trying to understand the reasoning behind the IVF being frowned upon. (besides horror stories that come with anything in life frankly)
Not quite sure the Fathers knew about IVF back then, so I can't go and read what they said about it.