I used "Practice makes perfect" as a humor device to indicate that when you're married, the more sex the better.
OK well when I thought you said that about practice, I understood that as...well nevermind.
My main point which seems to have gotten lost along the way, was that the more sex you have with your spouse, the more familiar you become with their likes and dislikes which ultimately makes sex more enjoyable for you both, and makes you a better partner. Turning to porn so you can get off quickly and easily I perceive as lazy. I believe I said it was a cop-out, by which I meant that you're doing it for you, instead of putting in the effort with your spouse.
I don't think its necessarily laziness though.
If I could be JamesR for a moment, yeah the initial surprise of seeing your other partner naked for the first time and then doing the act that first time...then doing it a couple more times after that, months go by and then that newness does go away. So then men watch porn to fantasize about having sex with another woman and exert a better orgasm than their current partner.
But I think it is more than that though. If the guy is in a long relationship or married, loses interest with having sex with his partner and resorts to using porn to stimulate himself to achieve better pleasure...I think there is more going on there than just achieving this simple pleasure.
Falling out of love, stressed out, upset at that other person, etc.
You can call me a selfish pig for this, but maybe being monogamous ain't really all that its chalked up to be for those people.
Personally if I am still in love with that other person, I want to have sex with them. If I fall out of love...when then yeah it slows down quite a bit.
because I don't think you got what I meant by quality.
And this quality being what the other person likes and then satisfying it?
Can you just be direct in exactly what you mean by quality sex? What is it, please describe it.