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Convert living with RC parents
« on: October 20, 2013, 12:43:56 AM »
Greetings,

I'm a college student who through careful study and prayer has come to embrace the teachings of the Orthodox Church and holds her beliefs as my own.  However, I'm still living at home while I attend college and both of my parents are lifelong Roman Catholics and I've attended Mass with them nearly every week since I can remember.  So far I haven't made my intent to convert to Orthodoxy a pressing issue with my family, but for the past three weeks I've been intending to attend Vespers and Matins at one of the local Orthodox churches yet every week something has come up with either my immediate or extended family (we have all gone through a hard loss in the past 3 months) that has prevented me from doing so.

I have three questions: What is the best way to discuss Orthodoxy with non-Orthodox family members? Would it be best to delay my outward conversion until I either have more freedom or things calm down? And, in the event that family events do prevent me from attending future divine services/liturgies what should I do?

Thank you, and God bless.
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #1 on: October 20, 2013, 01:22:38 AM »
Welcome to the forum. Middle question first.  What stage are you at? Have you talked to the Orthodox Priest about converting? There's really no hurry. It's relatively  common for people to be inquirers for a year of more before becoming catechumen and to be catechumen for at least another year before joining the Church. So, I at least, would say there's no harm in taking things slow. Go to the Vespers and Matins as you indicated. Which brings us to the third question. If there's no hurry just keep planning to go. I would think you can't be stopped all the time, so if you can't make one go to the next. As to the first question I didn't have the kind of experience with that which you describe so someone else may be better equipped to help with that.
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #2 on: October 20, 2013, 01:33:39 AM »
I'm converting too, I've pretty much made up my mind.  :laugh:

However, I also find that I need more time to deal with personal issues and learn some more about the liturgy.
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #3 on: October 20, 2013, 03:08:28 PM »
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I've had lengthy conversations with a local priest.  It was his recommendation that I start attending the services on Saturday night to ease into Orthodox liturgical life.  If I could attend with some consistency I'd be enrolled as a catechumen.
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #4 on: October 21, 2013, 01:39:04 PM »
Ah, very good.  Like I mentioned previously,  there is time.  Though I would be a terrible example to follow given my own impatience at the same stage,  still for me patient or not,  it happened in God's good time.  If you may learn from me keep moving forward one step at a time, as your able, and give the timing to God.
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #5 on: October 21, 2013, 02:36:50 PM »
Since Orthodoxy isn't very different from Catholicism, it shouldn't come as too much a shock. Perhaps the best things to emphasize when telling them about the Orthodox Church is that it, like Catholicism believes that the Eucharist is truly the Body and Blood of Christ. The Orthodox also have a strong veneration of the Mother of God and the Saints. Start of common ground I suppose.

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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #6 on: October 21, 2013, 03:57:14 PM »
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Greetings,

I'm a college student who through careful study and prayer has come to embrace the teachings of the Orthodox Church and holds her beliefs as my own.  However, I'm still living at home while I attend college and both of my parents are lifelong Roman Catholics and I've attended Mass with them nearly every week since I can remember.  So far I haven't made my intent to convert to Orthodoxy a pressing issue with my family, but for the past three weeks I've been intending to attend Vespers and Matins at one of the local Orthodox churches yet every week something has come up with either my immediate or extended family (we have all gone through a hard loss in the past 3 months) that has prevented me from doing so.

I have three questions: What is the best way to discuss Orthodoxy with non-Orthodox family members? Would it be best to delay my outward conversion until I either have more freedom or things calm down? And, in the event that family events do prevent me from attending future divine services/liturgies what should I do?

Thank you, and God bless.

I know you want your parents to be supportive but be prepared for the worst. I say that because it may be a shock for them at first. Give them time to get use to the idea and let them see a change in you. A living example is always the best witness.
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #7 on: October 21, 2013, 04:53:25 PM »
involve them early.
mention that you have read a bit of church history and would like to take a look at the orthodox church.

play it cool.
don't mention the word 'convert'!

if they freak out, patiently ask them what it is about the orthodox church that freaks them out, and listen quietly.
they have lived longer than you, so may have tales they want to share.

if they freak out a lot, leave it a month or two before you mention it again (eg. you could say how you 'popped in' to the church the other week).

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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #8 on: November 13, 2013, 11:30:09 PM »
Thank you all for your replies.

I've attended small compline and vespers for the past two weeks.  It has brought me more peace than anything else I have experienced.
 
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Re: Convert living with RC parents
« Reply #9 on: November 14, 2013, 12:50:04 AM »
Glad to hear it.
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