Mike, I am sorry to hear you are having such difficulties. It must be very hard.
We all have a tendency to feel persecuted at times, and believe that people do things on purpose just to offend us. More often than not, it isn't really true. The person who ignored me in church and didn't say "hi"...I was sure was being mean, ignoring me after I greeted them. In fact, they weren't being mean, they had some major worries on their mind, and simply were in "their own world" and didn't even see me....and yet, I took offense, when none was meant.
Try not taking personal offense, so easily. I know it's hard, but, in the end YOU will be happier, if you do not get offended at every little thing.
I also suggest you pray. Pray that God help you with controlling your emotions. When you start feeling upset, or feel someone is being mean, pray. Pray the Jesus Prayer. Fill your mind with God, leaving little room for anything else.
As for your parents....sometimes, it's hard to bow to authority. However, they are your parents. God picked them for you. He also told us to love and respect them. This doesn't mean we have to do everything they say, if what they say is against God's teachings. However, remember that even God listened to his mother at the Wedding at Cana. She asked him to help the hosts of the wedding banquet when they had run out of wine. He told her it wasn't yet his time....and yet, he did as she had asked. Christ did as his mother told him....so, should we.
It's pride that gets in our way, and we feel nobody has the right to tell us what to do. However, a huge part of being Orthodoxy is obedience and humility. Not everything has to be your way.
Mostly, remember to tell your parents you love them. Even if you've misbehaved towards them...tell them you love them. It means a lot to a parent to hear that.
You will be in all of our prayers. Praying that God grants you peace so that you can live the life you were meant to live.
(On a side note: Orthonorm, is that really you?)