I am sure that the topic of divorce and remarriage has been brought up countless times here, but this particular question(s) I asked in a thread from a few months ago was never answered.
For me, as a inquirer into Orthodoxy, my biggest hurdle is understanding its teachings on remarriage.
If marriage is truly indissoluble, how is it possible to say that a marriage can "die" or that the Church can dissolve a marriage? There is no doubt on the teachings of the Fathers on the matter of indissolubility, and I don't think anyone contests that on either side. A marriage (and sacrament for that matter) either "is" or it "isn't".
If we say that divorce is a "dispensation" from the marriage, but sacramentally the marriage still exists, then how is remarriage not bigamy? I understand the Orthodox practice of economia, but that still doesn't account for what happens to the first marriage sacramentally. Is a remarried person technically sacramentally married to more than one person?
Another thing I have been having problem with is finding sources about marriage in the Early Church. I have heard it stated before the Schism it was the accepted practice in East to allow divorced people to remarry. No one seems to have had an issue with that in the West, so it must have been an accepted approach to the discipline of marriage even though the West took a more "rigorist" approach. Does anyone have sources or books that discuss the history of marriage in the East, most particularly before the Schism?
As an aside (I know, so many questions) another little thing I have thought about is how arbitrary the number 3 is in limiting marriages. Why 3, why not 2 or 4? Does that also mean you cannot get divorced a third time? I know in the West, you cannot get remarried if your spouse lives, but you can remarry as many times as you want if your spouse is dead. I think that comes from an understanding in the West that marriage ceases to exist after death. The Orthodox (and ideal of the ancient church) was to only have one marriage, period. I get the impression that Orthodox believe that the marriage bond transcends death in some way so that accounts for the difference in approach.
I really want to resolve these questions because they are pretty much the only thing holding me back from embracing the call to Orthodoxy I have been having for many years now. I just can't make sense of the seeming inconsistency in the approach to this sacrament. I do not believe the Catholic idea of marriage is correct in essence. Annulments also seem to make a mockery of the sacrament even though it seems logical within its context.
Take off your conscience, Holy Bible, Holy Fathers' commentaries and reason; and put on your hard hat, body armor, life jacket, and insensitivity to illogical insults and defamations; so that you will be prepared for the Noah's flood deluge of ignorance, hypocrisy, duplicity, feminism, and freudianism that is the crux of the currently united gender and family theology of all of the main line EO, OO, RC, WCCC, and Protestant, except ROCOR, so-called christian churches of the West. Be patient, and sooner or later, every answer that you receive will be contradicted and self-proven to be a disingenuous, bald faced lie, or at best a worthless obfuscation. This has been my first hand experience from persistently (patiently and impatiently) asking every possible variation of your question, to (formal and informal) leaders (beginning with my RC priests, bishops, U. S. Apostolic Delegate, and Pope) of every available jurisdiction, since about 1980. This is the disgraceful major issue of unspoken, but obvious theological and pastoral union in Western so-called christianity. The disgracefully high, reasonably similar divorce, abortion, fornication, and illegitimacy rates of the members of all of these "christian" denominations (and their secular counterparts) conclusively prove the "success" of their long and hard sought ecumenical apostasy.
I suggest that you ask for written statements regarding this issue by the current synod of any jurisdiction that interests you. Then ask for references to recorded current priests' and bishops' current teachings on the issue. Then go to the local parish and ask to attend the local priest's sermons on the issue. Ask all of your questions during the sermon. Wear your hard hat and have your medical insurance paid up. Don't fall for bogus, practically superseded, recitations of 100-2000 year old beliefs and practices, i.e., when there was "no divorce in the RC, EO, OO, etc. church." We've come a long way, baby. This is the 21st century. blah, blah, blah. Share any credible responses that you get.