And since my money is where my mouth is....below are my thoughts...
Disclaimer: I currently attend an English speaking OCA mission parish of very mixed background parishioners (Priest is a convert with a Serbian wife. Everyone else is -everything- else, from Japanese, to a whole contingent of Romanians, a family or two of Russian speakers, some native Alaskans, some Ethiopians, a Swede, and a bunch of other converts of random origin(i haven't yet surveyed them all!))
I have also attended a more Russian OCA parish, and visited ROCOR (in my former city)
My question is: How do I choose? I am nearly fluent in Russian, since I studied it for nine years and spent two summers in Russia. I don't know Slavonic, but can figure it out fairly well. However, I am already picking up some Greek (both liturgical and modern) after only a few weeks. To some extent I'm worried about getting caught up in the ethnic culture of a ROCOR or GOARCH parish instead of focusing on the religion, but on the other hand I feel that the liturgical language adds a lot to the Divine Liturgy. Before I started going to the Orthodox church, I'd been attending Latin Mass once a month at a local Catholic parish. Right now I'm leaning towards the ROCOR parish because I am more familiar with the language and culture.
The other issue is my husband. He will be going to the Divine Liturgy tomorrow morning with me for the first time. He's a cradle/cultural Catholic who is basically an agnostic and is wary of the Orthodox Church services because "They don't have pews" and "Services will be four hours long." I know that the ROCOR parish in DC does not have pews, but the parish here does. He doesn't like the Latin Mass much because it's in a foreign language and he can't figure out what's going on, so I think he might be more receptive to an OCA parish. The ROCOR parish has an English liturgy and a Slavonic liturgy, but I don't know if the English liturgy is really 100% English. (The GOARCH liturgy here is about half English and half Greek.)
It almost appears that we would want opposite things in a parish. I'm really struggling with how to balance my spiritual needs/desires with the desire to attend a parish that he'll be comfortable in, even though he'd just be attending to do so as a family.
The fact he would attend at all.....I would encourage that by picking something he can understand. I would also encourage that by picking something that feels welcoming to him.
If i can say so, your desire to have DL in a 'liturgical language' is nice, but not (in my opinion) nearly as important as the potential of having him come with you, enjoy things, and see the goodness and truth that is Orthodoxy.
I am not married, so you can basically tell me to take a flying leap, but a lot of my catechesis class seems focused on people who have spouses who are not converting and Father is always talking about how in Orthodoxy marriage is about working out your salvation together with the other person, and that it all only works when each party in essence puts the other person's needs before their own. In this case, putting his potential salvation above 'russian-ness' and the perceived beauty in that, at least for a while, as he is putting your need to explore Orthodoxy before his doubt....would seem the ticket.
That said, if I were you, I would explore the various OCA parishes around the area...for ones that have a nice combo of English with the Thee/Thy/Thou quotient. Mine current parish is like that, and it's plenty 'liturgical'.
Down the line when life changes again, you can get that experience of the beautiful Russian speaking parish...and you can always do a once a month service or special holiday services at another church to get your 'fix'