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« on: September 09, 2013, 10:45:21 AM »

I'm talking about praying with non-Orthodox.  I'm the only Orthodox Christian in my family.  My wife has expressed interest, but she's still currently Lutheran (MO Synod).  Her grandparents are Baptists.  My family are Baptists. 

I've been told before that praying with non-Orthodox is a canonical no-no but for me, that's impossible.  So, when we get together and someone 'asks the blessing', I try to be very respectful but say an Orthodox prayer to myself.

I hope and pray that won't scandalize any y'all.
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« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2013, 10:52:39 AM »

I'm talking about praying with non-Orthodox.  I'm the only Orthodox Christian in my family.  My wife has expressed interest, but she's still currently Lutheran (MO Synod).  Her grandparents are Baptists.  My family are Baptists. 

I've been told before that praying with non-Orthodox is a canonical no-no but for me, that's impossible.  So, when we get together and someone 'asks the blessing', I try to be very respectful but say an Orthodox prayer to myself.

I hope and pray that won't scandalize any y'all.

I would be concerned if you did not join your Christian loved ones in prayer. Not a liturgical or ritualistic one, but a blessing before/after a meal, the Lord's Prayer, a psalm, a reflective memorial or a giving of thanks...there are plenty of prayers which one can say without being heretical. Be at peace and don't worry about the opinions of the self assured.
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« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2013, 11:00:19 AM »


You could always volunteer to "lead" the prayer, thereby, making the others join in an Orthodox prayer.

I think it is okay.  We all do it at one time or another.  Either at graduations, sporting events, even public memorial services.  Often even Orthodox Clergy will pray alongside RC clergy, etc. at a memorial services - ie. Veterans, etc.
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« Reply #3 on: September 09, 2013, 11:22:21 AM »

You are far from alone in this situation. I don't get myself turned inside out about praying at meals or at other simple gatherings. Being respectful is just being polite. I don't even have a problem with attending certain special events, especially family centred ones, at other churches (weddings, funerals, etc.) However, I would stop short of attending anything on a regular basis.
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« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2013, 11:27:43 AM »


You could always volunteer to "lead" the prayer, thereby, making the others join in an Orthodox prayer.


I'm going to gently disagree with you a bit on this one - and only a bit. Not sure I like your wording of "making the others join"  Smiley, though I'm sure you don't intend any harshness. For me the flip side comes when they visit me. Then I lead in Orthodox prayer. If invited to pray by others outside my own home, I would pray as an Orthodox Christian, but not sure I would want to volunteer in order to be a bit subversive. YMMV
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« Reply #5 on: September 09, 2013, 11:42:14 AM »

I'm talking about praying with non-Orthodox.  I'm the only Orthodox Christian in my family.  My wife has expressed interest, but she's still currently Lutheran (MO Synod).  Her grandparents are Baptists.  My family are Baptists. 

I've been told before that praying with non-Orthodox is a canonical no-no but for me, that's impossible.  So, when we get together and someone 'asks the blessing', I try to be very respectful but say an Orthodox prayer to myself.

I hope and pray that won't scandalize any y'all.
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« Reply #6 on: September 09, 2013, 12:03:29 PM »

This has come up a lot for me since my father joined an anti-Christian cult a few years ago, around the time when I became Orthodox. Following my priests' advice, we certainly pray separately (even if it occurs at the same time, such as before meals), and I ask that we both be guarded and guided to the truth that is Christ and His Church. I imagine that would be just as good to pray for the less blatantly heretical, such as the Protestants in your own families.
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« Reply #7 on: September 09, 2013, 10:36:26 PM »

I'm talking about praying with non-Orthodox.  I'm the only Orthodox Christian in my family.  My wife has expressed interest, but she's still currently Lutheran (MO Synod).  Her grandparents are Baptists.  My family are Baptists. 

I've been told before that praying with non-Orthodox is a canonical no-no but for me, that's impossible.  So, when we get together and someone 'asks the blessing', I try to be very respectful but say an Orthodox prayer to myself.

I hope and pray that won't scandalize any y'all.
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Well it is Orthodox Canon.  (Canon of the Holy Apostles)

Thing is I don't know what they exactly meant in those canons.  Was it engaging in a "worship" service, or what?   Praying before a meal?  Eucharist/Liturgy?
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« Reply #8 on: September 09, 2013, 11:01:26 PM »

By your priest or by internet yahoos?

I think you greatly overestimate how great a difference there is between your average priest and your average internet yahoo.
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« Reply #9 on: September 09, 2013, 11:21:13 PM »

I don't think it's a difficult problem to solve. If your non-Orthodox relatives are praying, bow your head (or wave your arms in the air, whichever) and silently pray the Jesus Prayer or some other appropriate Orthodox prayer.
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« Reply #10 on: September 10, 2013, 12:51:33 AM »

I'm LOLing here imagining the OP waving his hands in the air and swaying while muttering under his breath Κύριε Ἰησοῦ Χριστέ, Υἱὲ τοῦ Θεοῦ, ἐλέησόν με. 
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« Reply #11 on: September 10, 2013, 03:16:06 AM »

When people gather at a wedding , baptism , funeral, etc, we all pray together regardless of what particular denomination, also when families gather for holidays, they are rarely all the same, and yet it is common for us to all pray the lords prayer, even people at AA meetings do that.

So do not worry about the church people who insist on this or that, God loves when we pray and he alone is all we should worry about as the Gospel here says.

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« Reply #12 on: September 10, 2013, 03:34:51 AM »

I'm LOLing here imagining the OP waving his hands in the air and swaying while muttering under his breath Κύριε Ἰησοῦ Χριστέ, Υἱὲ τοῦ Θεοῦ, ἐλέησόν με. 

i am literally LOLing now too... hahaha thank you
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« Reply #13 on: September 10, 2013, 03:39:36 AM »

I'm talking about praying with non-Orthodox.  I'm the only Orthodox Christian in my family.  My wife has expressed interest, but she's still currently Lutheran (MO Synod).  Her grandparents are Baptists.  My family are Baptists. 

I've been told before that praying with non-Orthodox is a canonical no-no but for me, that's impossible.  So, when we get together and someone 'asks the blessing', I try to be very respectful but say an Orthodox prayer to myself.

I hope and pray that won't scandalize any y'all.
By your priest or by internet yahoos?

Well it is Orthodox Canon.  (Canon of the Holy Apostles)

Thing is I don't know what they exactly meant in those canons.  Was it engaging in a "worship" service, or what?   Praying before a meal?  Eucharist/Liturgy?

maybe by "pray" it just meant "pray" nothing more nothing less ;p
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« Reply #14 on: September 10, 2013, 06:33:22 AM »

Follow the Lord, the teaching about the Samaritan woman, St. Photoni, is instructive.
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« Reply #15 on: September 10, 2013, 07:03:11 AM »

I'm talking about praying with non-Orthodox.  I'm the only Orthodox Christian in my family.  My wife has expressed interest, but she's still currently Lutheran (MO Synod).  Her grandparents are Baptists.  My family are Baptists. 

I've been told before that praying with non-Orthodox is a canonical no-no but for me, that's impossible.  So, when we get together and someone 'asks the blessing', I try to be very respectful but say an Orthodox prayer to myself.

I hope and pray that won't scandalize any y'all.
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« Reply #16 on: September 10, 2013, 09:31:41 AM »

the fathers are internet yahoos, they should never have written such silly canons
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« Reply #17 on: September 10, 2013, 10:22:21 AM »

Remember that time I said something foolish about praying to the Orthodox conception of the Trinity and these heretics don't pray to the same God?

Those were good times.
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« Reply #18 on: September 10, 2013, 06:05:25 PM »

the fathers are internet yahoos, they should never have written such silly canons

The canons aren't rules to be followed by the letter, and Bishops are the ones who interpret and apply the canons.
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« Reply #19 on: September 11, 2013, 04:39:20 PM »

Well. Hear me or not.
It is a sin to pray with non-Orthodox. When I became  Orthodox and my fatehr still was heretic I elft alone on a room to do the pray before eating to God. He may felt bad, I may felt bad. Yet God was not sad. Everythign must be sacrificed for Christ.
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« Reply #20 on: September 11, 2013, 05:17:41 PM »

Well. Hear me or not.
It is a sin to pray with non-Orthodox. When I became  Orthodox and my fatehr still was heretic I elft alone on a room to do the pray before eating to God. He may felt bad, I may felt bad. Yet God was not sad. Everythign must be sacrificed for Christ.

Tell me, when people get married does the priest first tell all who are not Orthodox to leave the Church? How about a funeral at Orthodox church, or a baptism. Or when the priest is at a church festival and gives a prayer before dinner? How about when someone wants to see a service and possibly convert? How about the photographer at the wedding?
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« Reply #21 on: September 12, 2013, 12:55:52 AM »

It's not your job to interpret the canons. If you're really concerned, you should talk to your priest. He'll probably tell you to stop worrying.
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« Reply #22 on: September 12, 2013, 09:13:04 AM »

Well, the theme is different. Praying personal is okay or with people that want to convert. For that in Divine Liturgy those who are under catechism stay for around half of it.
Better discuss it with your priest. As for the non-orthodox to go out, in our nation at least it happens not because Greeks are all almost Orthodox. So I don't know.
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