As Trisagion said, it is really about how we react to negative things. I don't remember where I heard this, but it has been of great help to me, "Don't be so right that you become wrong." I have no doubt that bad things have happened to you, lovetzatziki, and I won't tell you that you are wrong to feel hurt by them, but by dwelling on how one has been wronged and focusing on the seeming lack of God's retribution, one can lose focus and be so consumed with being correct that they expend their own freedom and become enslaved to the circumstances of the person that wronged them. I am speaking of freedom of the heart. I encourage you to read St. Paul's letter to the Philippians. Paul was in prison when he wrote it and makes mention of prison a number of times. Paul had endured much, but writes with such freedom and joy, and even takes joy in all that had happened to him because he knew it was for the furtherance of the Gospel.
"But I want you to know, brethren, that the things which happened to me have actually turned out for the furtherance of the gospel, so that it has become evident to the whole palace guard, and to all the rest, that my chains are in Christ; and most of the brethren in the Lord, having become confident by my chains, are much more bold to speak the word without fear... Christ is preached; and in this I rejoice, yes, and will rejoice."
At the end of the first chapter he exhorts the Philippians to,
"...let your conduct be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of your affairs, that you stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel, and not in any way terrified by your adversaries, which is to them a proof of perdition, but to you of salvation, and that from God. For to you it has been granted on behalf of Christ, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake, having the same conflict which you saw in me and now hear is in me."
None of this is easy, but it transforms our hearts and saves us.