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« on: August 31, 2013, 03:33:47 PM »

...and he doesn't consider it to be a virtue either. Shocked

I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

Never been one to brag nor hype myself up.

But word has been sent to the higher ups on my work ethic, attitude, drive and having a sharp mind (supposedly)...there are a few that want me on their team now.
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« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2013, 04:34:57 PM »

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« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2013, 04:46:05 PM »

What you need to do is this. The next time you are commenting on movies, music, tattoos, literature, or pretty much any art form known to humanity, stop for a second and take in the snobbishness you feel in that moment. Now try to subtract the obnoxiousness from that. Then just apply that to your work environment. And voila... what you will be left with is something that most people will perceive as confidence!  Now, admittedly, some may perceive it as arrogance (I don't, but some might), but there are no worries with this, because there is a completely moronic but almost universally believed idea that "it's not arrogance if you can back it up." You'll be set!

Or, to put it more simply... you don't have a problem expressing yourself confidently when it comes to some things, so try to get into that mindset when necessary for work. Or something like that  police
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« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2013, 06:46:59 PM »

A very famous musician was called amiable for not being arrogant like most others with even half his talent. It always admired him for that and did not understand until years later why he said on a radio show that he was not as talented as some lesser known jazz musicians. I appreciated him all the more when I learned first hand how right he was.

Others such as drum great Buddy Rich, who was considered the greatest drummer of his time and even still, but he was also hated because of his extreme arrogance. It did not help him professionally to be that way, and even hurt him as a person.

Both are great famous musicians, but each has his way and we must understand that they cannot always be what we think they should.
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« Reply #4 on: August 31, 2013, 06:47:56 PM »

...and he doesn't consider it to be a virtue either. Shocked

I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

Never been one to brag nor hype myself up.

But word has been sent to the higher ups on my work ethic, attitude, drive and having a sharp mind (supposedly)...there are a few that want me on their team now.

Achronos, I dislike the answers that have been given so far.

Nevertheless, my answer is not likely to help you. You live in a different world from mine.

I am also unusual in my world but I am appreciated. Despite my humility, they appreciated my selfless willingness to help other researchers, whether graduate students, postdoctoral researchers, or laboratory principal investigators.  This has always been a positive in my resume when I was forced to seek advancement in rank.

Of course if I was involved in an commercial adventure....
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« Reply #5 on: August 31, 2013, 08:23:22 PM »

...and he doesn't consider it to be a virtue either. Shocked

I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

Never been one to brag nor hype myself up.

But word has been sent to the higher ups on my work ethic, attitude, drive and having a sharp mind (supposedly)...there are a few that want me on their team now.
So, the higher ups like you and want you on their team but your boss thinks you are too humble.  Am I the only one who sees the conflict?  If his bosses like you, I wouldn't worry so much about him.  Do they want him on their team?  Maybe I missed something.

Oh, and you never want to be like Kanye, in any way, ever!!!!!!
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« Reply #6 on: August 31, 2013, 08:56:22 PM »

...and he doesn't consider it to be a virtue either. Shocked

I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

Never been one to brag nor hype myself up.

But word has been sent to the higher ups on my work ethic, attitude, drive and having a sharp mind (supposedly)...there are a few that want me on their team now.
So, the higher ups like you and want you on their team but your boss thinks you are too humble.  Am I the only one who sees the conflict?  If his bosses like you, I wouldn't worry so much about him.  Do they want him on their team?  Maybe I missed something.

Oh, and you never want to be like Kanye, in any way, ever!!!!!!


I ignored this as superfluous. Obviously it is important since you have pointed it out. What is a Kanye?

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« Reply #7 on: August 31, 2013, 10:22:07 PM »

Kanye West is an American rapper known for his sometime onstage fits of pique and other temper issues. He famously interrupted singer Taylor Swift while she was onstage at an awards show. He yelled about how Beyonce Knowles really deserved the award instead. People have really not let him live that down.
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« Reply #8 on: August 31, 2013, 10:59:57 PM »

Kanye West is an American rapper known for his sometime onstage fits of pique and other temper issues. He famously stupidly interrupted singer Taylor Swift while she was onstage at an awards show. He yelled about how Beyonce Knowles really deserved the award instead. People have really not let him live that down.

That is only one of the many, many, many things for which one should not want to be anything like Kanye. 
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« Reply #9 on: August 31, 2013, 11:01:11 PM »

Achronos, I dislike the answers that have been given so far.

Nevertheless, my answer is not likely to help you. You live in a different world from mine.

I am also unusual in my world but I am appreciated. Despite my humility, they appreciated my selfless willingness to help other researchers, whether graduate students, postdoctoral researchers, or laboratory principal investigators.  This has always been a positive in my resume when I was forced to seek advancement in rank.

Of course if I was involved in an commercial adventure....
I'm kinda like you too, selfless willingness to help out other people in the company, and I know it will help me down the road getting references.

What do you mean if you were involved with a commercial adventure? Nobody to share the profits with?
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« Reply #10 on: August 31, 2013, 11:01:11 PM »

So, the higher ups like you and want you on their team but your boss thinks you are too humble.  Am I the only one who sees the conflict?  If his bosses like you, I wouldn't worry so much about him.  Do they want him on their team?  Maybe I missed something.
No I just thought it was mildly amusing he didn't think being humble was a good thing.

He has a lot of good advice, but his ego itself is through the roof.

He recommended I talk to one of his bosses about career paths, etc.

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lol I was joking.
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« Reply #11 on: August 31, 2013, 11:01:11 PM »

I ignored this as superfluous. Obviously it is important since you have pointed it out. What is a Kanye?
Put it this way, Kanye West is the hip hop version of Usain Bolt.

Talented but larger than life ego, extremely cocky and arrogant.

Like I said Kanye's braggadacio makes the music extremely enjoyable to me. His scathing critique of healthcare in the country on "Roses" or the structure of society that just wants everyone behind bars "Heard Em Say", etc. people wrongly mistake the ego for lack of talent.

I can tolerate the ego because the talent is clearly there, from other people who don't have it...its really obnoxious.
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« Reply #12 on: August 31, 2013, 11:12:44 PM »

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I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

You?  No....


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« Reply #13 on: August 31, 2013, 11:29:38 PM »

So, the higher ups like you and want you on their team but your boss thinks you are too humble.  Am I the only one who sees the conflict?  If his bosses like you, I wouldn't worry so much about him.  Do they want him on their team?  Maybe I missed something.
No I just thought it was mildly amusing he didn't think being humble was a good thing.

He has a lot of good advice, but his ego itself is through the roof.

He recommended I talk to one of his bosses about career paths, etc.

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lol I was joking.

Makes sense now. laugh
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« Reply #14 on: September 01, 2013, 12:51:35 AM »

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You?  No....



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« Reply #16 on: September 01, 2013, 04:20:21 PM »

Achronos, I dislike the answers that have been given so far.

Nevertheless, my answer is not likely to help you. You live in a different world from mine.

I am also unusual in my world but I am appreciated. Despite my humility, they appreciated my selfless willingness to help other researchers, whether graduate students, postdoctoral researchers, or laboratory principal investigators.  This has always been a positive in my resume when I was forced to seek advancement in rank.

Of course if I was involved in an commercial adventure....
I'm kinda like you too, selfless willingness to help out other people in the company, and I know it will help me down the road getting references.

What do you mean if you were involved with a commercial adventure? Nobody to share the profits with?

I have no idea. Really!
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« Reply #17 on: September 01, 2013, 04:23:53 PM »

Kanye West is an American rapper known for his sometime onstage fits of pique and other temper issues. He famously interrupted singer Taylor Swift while she was onstage at an awards show. He yelled about how Beyonce Knowles really deserved the award instead. People have really not let him live that down.

Well that's a lot better than what I would have done. Beyonce really is talentless tbh. She has slightly better than average vocals and that's it. Taylor Swift can at least tell a story and change up her style for each album. Beyonce is just the same thing over and over again and each of her songs sound the same.
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« Reply #18 on: September 01, 2013, 04:26:01 PM »

I ignored this as superfluous. Obviously it is important since you have pointed it out. What is a Kanye?
Put it this way, Kanye West is the hip hop version of Usain Bolt.

Talented but larger than life ego, extremely cocky and arrogant.

Like I said Kanye's braggadacio makes the music extremely enjoyable to me. His scathing critique of healthcare in the country on "Roses" or the structure of society that just wants everyone behind bars "Heard Em Say", etc. people wrongly mistake the ego for lack of talent.

I can tolerate the ego because the talent is clearly there, from other people who don't have it...its really obnoxious.

Kanye is talented...but in an odd, unorthodox way. I wouldn't list him in the same category as your average hip-hop street emcee who could freestyle or perform some amazing verse onstage. Yet, I also wouldn't merely dismiss him as commercial garbage. He's in his own category.
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« Reply #19 on: September 02, 2013, 12:57:05 PM »

Kanye's bougee, he big-headed.
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« Reply #20 on: September 03, 2013, 07:41:15 PM »

I ignored this as superfluous. Obviously it is important since you have pointed it out. What is a Kanye?
Put it this way, Kanye West is the hip hop version of Usain Bolt.

Talented but larger than life ego, extremely cocky and arrogant.

Like I said Kanye's braggadacio makes the music extremely enjoyable to me. His scathing critique of healthcare in the country on "Roses" or the structure of society that just wants everyone behind bars "Heard Em Say", etc. people wrongly mistake the ego for lack of talent.

I can tolerate the ego because the talent is clearly there, from other people who don't have it...its really obnoxious.
Trust me, the most talented are not helped by the arrogance. They are despised and shunned by their peers. and it usually comes out later and they suffer on the way down.
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« Reply #21 on: September 04, 2013, 08:24:54 AM »

I suggest prostrations in the workplace.  Nothing says confidence like prostrations.
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« Reply #22 on: September 04, 2013, 09:42:30 AM »

I suggest prostrations in the workplace.  Nothing says confidence like prostrations.

Especially if you're brown, have a beard, and are facing East.  Trust me.  No one will screw around with you. 
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I suggest prostrations in the workplace.  Nothing says confidence like prostrations.

Especially if you're brown, have a beard, and are facing East.  Trust me.  No one will screw around with you. 

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« Reply #24 on: September 15, 2013, 01:27:01 AM »

Demand large increase of salary or wage and tell him at least 25 reasons why you deserve it.  Or, at least five really good reasons that can't be denied by any sane individual.


Sit up straight, look people in the eyes, fully occupy your space, and tell them your value to them.

Hope that helps.   Smiley
 

And then keep after him.

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« Reply #25 on: September 15, 2013, 01:43:18 AM »

...and he doesn't consider it to be a virtue either. Shocked

I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

Never been one to brag nor hype myself up.

But word has been sent to the higher ups on my work ethic, attitude, drive and having a sharp mind (supposedly)...there are a few that want me on their team now.

If this is true, how is anyone out of work right now?
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« Reply #26 on: September 15, 2013, 01:44:45 AM »

I ignored this as superfluous. Obviously it is important since you have pointed it out. What is a Kanye?
Put it this way, Kanye West is the hip hop version of Usain Bolt.

Talented but larger than life ego, extremely cocky and arrogant.

Like I said Kanye's braggadacio makes the music extremely enjoyable to me. His scathing critique of healthcare in the country on "Roses" or the structure of society that just wants everyone behind bars "Heard Em Say", etc. people wrongly mistake the ego for lack of talent.

I can tolerate the ego because the talent is clearly there, from other people who don't have it...its really obnoxious.

Kanye is talented...but in an odd, unorthodox way. I wouldn't list him in the same category as your average hip-hop street emcee who could freestyle or perform some amazing verse onstage. Yet, I also wouldn't merely dismiss him as commercial garbage. He's in his own category.

He is a single member boy band.
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« Reply #27 on: September 15, 2013, 03:23:02 AM »

If this is true, how is anyone out of work right now?

Wait til you see my new thread.
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« Reply #28 on: September 15, 2013, 03:23:02 AM »

...and he doesn't consider it to be a virtue either. Shocked

I know I come off as an arrogant butthat around here, but I dimish my ego as much as possible in the workplace.

So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

Never been one to brag nor hype myself up.

But word has been sent to the higher ups on my work ethic, attitude, drive and having a sharp mind (supposedly)...there are a few that want me on their team now.

If this is true, how is anyone out of work right now?
Oh and LOL.

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« Reply #29 on: September 15, 2013, 03:23:02 AM »

He is a single member boy band.
Booooo.

First two albums are classics. I can't believe you don't like him, he talks about the same stuff you do...or maybe you don't like yourself...

Still haven't decided on Yeezus...weird album to say the least.
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« Reply #30 on: September 15, 2013, 03:23:02 AM »

He is a single member boy band.
Oh and you should already know I have no cred.

You heard of The Coup?
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So tell me how to be more proud of my achievements and get a little braggadacio in like Kanye.

A police chief in Ohio has issued a pointed warning to Kanye West: "Check yourself, before you wreck yourself."
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