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I have seen some posts here scattered throughout the convert threads discussing the anguish that catechumens, inquirers, and Non-Orthodox visitors face when attending the Divine Liturgy since they are not allowed to receive Holy Communion.

Sometimes, the faithful also must refrain from receiving Holy Communion, especially women who have just recently born a child or those who have had a miscarriage and must wait the 40 days.

In addition, if we have had an argument with our spouse or parishioners and have not yet reconciled, then it is advised not to receive Holy Communion.

Finally, those who have recently divorced are told that they cannot receive Holy Communion until an Ecclesiastical Court or their Spiritual Father gives them permission.

What can people do who find themselves not able to receive Holy Communion?

When I was an Orthodox Catechumen, I learned to focus on the Holy Eucharist as the Priest was giving it to the parishioners. And I prayed, I realized that Christ was all around me, everywhere present, and sanctifying the faithful. From my Catholic background, I made a spiritual communion, asking the Lord to come into my heart, and make me worthy to receive Him, the King of Kings, into my very being. Feeling the love of the Lord all around me was awesome.

When I had a miscarriage, I used the opportunity to pray for my little one and asked the Lord to come and fill me with His Love that I felt all around me as the faithful received Holy Communion.

In addition, I joined my prayers with the holy Neo-Martyrs of Russia who persevered in prisons and in hiding places without the benefit of the Holy Mysteries. All they had was the Jesus Prayer, prayers that they had committed to memory, and hope in Christ Jesus, their Lord and God.
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What can people do who find themselves not able to receive Holy Communion?

"Wisdom, let us attend."  I try to really listen to what is being said and receive what I can into my heart.  And I hope that I'm not a distraction or a stumbling block to people around me that are going to commune.  I am not offended that I am not able to eat and drink, because I'm not part of the Church just yet.  I knew that going in that this was something far more special, far more precious than the mere symbol I grew up with.
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While by no means a good thing, attendance at Liturgy without Communion was the standard for the vast majority of Orthodox until relatively recently. In many countries, particularly places like Serbia, Communing once a year, or only on great feasts, is still the norm. I don't believe this was a traumatic or difficult experience for those people, nor do I think they left the Liturgy unedified.

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Antidoron?
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While by no means a good thing, attendance at Liturgy without Communion was the standard for the vast majority of Orthodox until relatively recently. In many countries, particularly places like Serbia, Communing once a year, or only on great feasts, is still the norm. I don't believe this was a traumatic or difficult experience for those people, nor do I think they left the Liturgy unedified.

Does the Church of Serbia encourage the continuation of this once-a-year Communion practice?

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While by no means a good thing, attendance at Liturgy without Communion was the standard for the vast majority of Orthodox until relatively recently. In many countries, particularly places like Serbia, Communing once a year, or only on great feasts, is still the norm. I don't believe this was a traumatic or difficult experience for those people, nor do I think they left the Liturgy unedified.

Does the Church of Serbia encourage the continuation of this once-a-year Communion practice?

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Antidoron?

Indeed.

Once people know you, the amount increases because folks want to include you as they can.

On a busy Sunday my having between 5-10 pieces handed to me is not unusual.
We have a contingent of pre-teens who make sure that all visitors are included.

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Antidoron?
Are visitors allowed?
Technically antidoron is for those Orthodox Christians who cannot take Communion,  but it's only ever been in a monastery where I've found the custom preserved. 
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Antidoron?

Yes, I think would help if people emphasised the fact that antidoron means "instead of the gift", given specifically to those who cannot partake of the Eucharist, rather than just being a bonus at the end of the service.

Does the Church of Serbia encourage the continuation of this once-a-year Communion practice?

I've heard quite a few stories of priests who basically do a pirouette at "With the fear of God" and go straight back into the altar to conclude the Liturgy unless someone has arranged to have Communion in advance. To what extent such a thing is actively encouraged or discouraged at an official level, I don't know.

Are visitors allowed?

In practice at least, yes. I've never been to a church where non-Orthodox were denied the antidoron, though I've been to several where they were specifically encouraged to receive it.

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Antidoron?
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Technically antidoron is for those Orthodox Christians who cannot take Communion,  but it's only ever been in a monastery where I've found the custom preserved. 

I once visited Holy Transfiguration Monastery, in Brookline, MA, the then monk Ephrem invited me to attend the divine Liturgy.  He said while I could not receive there was nothing forbidding me from taking the Antidoron.
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What can people do who find themselves not able to receive Holy Communion?

"Wisdom, let us attend."  I try to really listen to what is being said and receive what I can into my heart.  And I hope that I'm not a distraction or a stumbling block to people around me that are going to commune.  I am not offended that I am not able to eat and drink, because I'm not part of the Church just yet.  I knew that going in that this was something far more special, far more precious than the mere symbol I grew up with.

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I guess I never came in expecting communion right away, so I don't quite understand people that do.  ???  It's not exactly a secret that only full Orthodox can receive. I do appreciate that Anitdoron that was a nice surprise, and we've never gone Sunday without it even if the people that regularly give it to us are gone that day. But back to communion it's said absence makes the heart grow fonder and I've found that the longer I wait for something the more special it is when i get it. So, I'm not bothered at all by waiting. I very much  look forward to the Eucharist, when it's time.
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While by no means a good thing, attendance at Liturgy without Communion was the standard for the vast majority of Orthodox until relatively recently. In many countries, particularly places like Serbia, Communing once a year, or only on great feasts, is still the norm. I don't believe this was a traumatic or difficult experience for those people, nor do I think they left the Liturgy unedified.

Does the Church of Serbia encourage the continuation of this once-a-year Communion practice?
As far as I know SOC does not encourage this....There was a discussion among SOC about this with one side encouraging frequent communion and other a less crequent one but in any case nobody was discouraged from receiving the communion. As for it being a norm ... hard to tell but have ssen it happen.

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Technically antidoron is for those Orthodox Christians who cannot take Communion,  but it's only ever been in a monastery where I've found the custom preserved. 

Same here.

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Maybe tough it out and deal with it?

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Antidoron?

Yes, I think would help if people emphasised the fact that antidoron means "instead of the gift", given specifically to those who cannot partake of the Eucharist, rather than just being a bonus at the end of the service.

Interesting. Do you mean only them (not those who received communion)?

Are visitors allowed?

In practice at least, yes. I've never been to a church where non-Orthodox were denied the antidoron, though I've been to several where they were specifically encouraged to receive it.

Indeed, before joining this forum I don't believe I was ever exposed to the idea of non-Orthodox Christians not being allowed to receive the antidoron.
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I have not been Chrismated yet, so I do not partake of Holy Communion. However, I do receive the priest's blessing as well as the Eucharist. I will admit at first I was a little confused and offended, when I didn't know that I couldn't partake in Holy Communion and I was standing before the priest. I also admit that I most likely will not be fasting nearly as much as is prescribed by the Church, if at all, seeing as I am a growing boy, but as with Holy Communion, the Lord knows our hearts, and that is all that really matters. Partaking in Holy Communion when I am Chrismated will only make it so much more special. So just hang in there, you will not be condemned in any way. Honestly, I believe everyone that is present and willing has the right to partake in Holy Communion, but then again I do come from a Protestant background. I wish to join the Church, as I feel that it is the true Church of Jesus Christ and is therefore the correct way to worship. The Orthodox Church is complete, whole and beautiful and I wish to be eternally joined to it. If I have to hold off on Holy Communion to do so, then so be it. 

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Welcome Dale!

Are your parents converting with you?
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Welcome Dale!

Are your parents converting with you?
Thank you for welcoming me!

My mom was joined to the Church last year, I recently made the conscious decision to become Chrismated and eternally joined to the Church. I will say, the OC truly is America's best kept secret! After coming to an Orthodox Liturgy, I can never attend another Protestant service! The services are just absolutely profound, the doctrine is just complete, and it really does feel like the true Church of Jesus Christ.
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Dear Dale,

Welcome!  Orthodoxy is indeed blessedness! 

I'm sure that over time everything will make sense as you continue learning.  You certainly sound like you are starting with a good attitude.  I'll  look forward to hearing from you again.

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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy, unlike perhaps a Protestant who spent a lifetime "communing" once a week/month/year with a piece of bread that was merely "symbolic".

I like the Antidoron. I call it "consolation bread". It reminds me of the trophies they hand out to children to make them feel better for losing at a sports tournament.

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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy, unlike perhaps a Protestant who spent a lifetime "communing" once a week/month/year with a piece of bread that was merely "symbolic".

I like the Antidoron. I call it "consolation bread". It reminds me of the trophies they hand out to children to make them feel better for losing at a sports tournament.
+1

I 100% agree.  I am from a protestant background, and I love the seriousness in which the Church takes in protecting the Body and Blood of Christ.  It is fine to pass bread and grape juice out to every Joe that walks through the door when it is just a symbol you do once a month, but when it is actually your Lord and you understand the danger of giving it to someone who is not prepared to consume it, you can no longer afford to hand it out anyone who walks through the door, both for the sanctity of what It is and for the wellbeing of the person.
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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy, unlike perhaps a Protestant who spent a lifetime "communing" once a week/month/year with a piece of bread that was merely "symbolic".

I like the Antidoron. I call it "consolation bread". It reminds me of the trophies they hand out to children to make them feel better for losing at a sports tournament.
+1

I 100% agree.  I am from a protestant background, and I love the seriousness in which the Church takes in protecting the Body and Blood of Christ.  It is fine to pass bread and grape juice out to every Joe that walks through the door when it is just a symbol you do once a month, but when it is actually your Lord and you understand the danger of giving it to someone who is not prepared to consume it, you can no longer afford to hand it out anyone who walks through the door, both for the sanctity of what It is and for the wellbeing of the person.

Agreed, although I wouldn't call it consolation bread.  You don't lose anything when you show up to Liturgy! :)  This is coming from someone who has many consolation trophies proudly on display in my study from many years of rec baseball and soccer.   :'(
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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy,

Strangely, I think that sometimes traditional Catholics and Orthodox can understand each other better than others can. I find that a lot of my fellow Catholics can have pretty strange (to me at least) ideas with regard to catechumens-not-receiving-communion; for example, an article I read recently by a Legion of Christ priest, saying that Orthodox-joining-Catholicism can receive communion during their catechumenate.
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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy,

Strangely, I think that sometimes traditional Catholics and Orthodox can understand each other better than others can. I find that a lot of my fellow Catholics can have pretty strange (to me at least) ideas with regard to catechumens-not-receiving-communion; for example, an article I read recently by a Legion of Christ priest, saying that Orthodox-joining-Catholicism can receive communion during their catechumenate.

Is it really a catechumenate, though, when it's considered that all Orthodox sacraments are "valid?"  According to the article, the writer makes it seem as if it's merely adding just a bit to the profession of faith.  Like it's not a big deal or anything. ???
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Our focus should be on God and his Grace. Sometimes it is possible that refraining from Eucharist gets us closer God than participating in it. Participating in Eucharist is not our subjective right nor magical cure-all.

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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy,

Strangely, I think that sometimes traditional Catholics and Orthodox can understand each other better than others can. I find that a lot of my fellow Catholics can have pretty strange (to me at least) ideas with regard to catechumens-not-receiving-communion; for example, an article I read recently by a Legion of Christ priest, saying that Orthodox-joining-Catholicism can receive communion during their catechumenate.

Is it really a catechumenate, though, when it's considered that all Orthodox sacraments are "valid?"  According to the article, the writer makes it seem as if it's merely adding just a bit to the profession of faith.  Like it's not a big deal or anything. ???

Yeah, maybe that's more how he sees it, i.e. that in such cases there isn't any catechumenate. At any rate, I notice he never used the word catechumen[ate]. (I've also had conversation with Catholics who regard it as unecumenical to speak of Orthodox "converting" to Catholicism ... and I notice with no great surprise that the aforementioned article doesn't contain the word convert.)
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Our focus should be on God and his Grace. Sometimes it is possible that refraining from Eucharist gets us closer God than participating in it. Participating in Eucharist is not our subjective right nor magical cure-all.

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23 For I have received of the Lord that which also I delivered unto you, That the Lord Jesus the same night in which he was betrayed took bread: 24 and when he had given thanks, he brake it, and said, Take, eat: this is my body, which is broken for you: this do in remembrance of me. 25 After the same manner also he took the cup, when he had supped, saying, This cup is the new testament in my blood: this do ye, as oft as ye drink it, in remembrance of me. 26 For as often as ye eat this bread, and drink this cup, ye do shew the Lord’s death till he come.

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"We come to this service to be transformed through the partaking of Holy Communion. This is the same as saying we partake of Jesus Christ's Flesh and Divinity. Holy Communion and the Divine Liturgy cannot be separated. This the greatest of all mysteries. All should come prepared to be partakers of the Divine gift."
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The Church has always and everywhere asked people to refrain from Eucharist on some occasions. Eucharist is not magical cure-all as it can also harm you participate in it unworthily.  I believe that refraining from Eucharist when the Church asks for it gets us closer more close to God than actively disregarding our hierarchs orders.
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The Church has always and everywhere asked people to refrain from Eucharist on some occasions. Eucharist is not magical cure-all as it can also harm you participate in it unworthily.  I believe that refraining from Eucharist when the Church asks for it gets us closer more close to God than actively disregarding our hierarchs orders.

Do you therefore also refrain from attending Divine Liturgy? If that is the purpose of the Liturgy, and you are not participating do you therefore not go? Just trying to understand its purpose. If you do not receive, why go? I have found solace in vespers where the purpose is prayer.

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The Church has always and everywhere asked people to refrain from Eucharist on some occasions. Eucharist is not magical cure-all as it can also harm you participate in it unworthily.  I believe that refraining from Eucharist when the Church asks for it gets us closer more close to God than actively disregarding our hierarchs orders.

Do you therefore also refrain from attending Divine Liturgy? If that is the purpose of the Liturgy, and you are not participating do you therefore not go?

Because God wants you to go. Eucharist is not the only way to partake in God's grace.
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The Church has always and everywhere asked people to refrain from Eucharist on some occasions. Eucharist is not magical cure-all as it can also harm you participate in it unworthily.  I believe that refraining from Eucharist when the Church asks for it gets us closer more close to God than actively disregarding our hierarchs orders.

Do you therefore also refrain from attending Divine Liturgy? If that is the purpose of the Liturgy, and you are not participating do you therefore not go? Just trying to understand its purpose. If you do not receive, why go? I have found solace in vespers where the purpose is prayer.
The purpose of Liturgy is to worship.  If your priest advises you not to partake of the Mysteries, that doesn't mean you should chill at home Sunday morning.
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The Church has always and everywhere asked people to refrain from Eucharist on some occasions. Eucharist is not magical cure-all as it can also harm you participate in it unworthily.  I believe that refraining from Eucharist when the Church asks for it gets us closer more close to God than actively disregarding our hierarchs orders.

Do you therefore also refrain from attending Divine Liturgy? If that is the purpose of the Liturgy, and you are not participating do you therefore not go? Just trying to understand its purpose. If you do not receive, why go? I have found solace in vespers where the purpose is prayer.

With work and family circustances, I can go to Liturgy only once or twice a month.  I can't partake of the Eucharist, but I am as close to His Body as I can be.  It is truly a blessing to worship with His Church.  I participate in what I can.
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I cope by having breakfast.
I do currently enjoy a nice breakfast before DL, which I know will stop upon chrismation.
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I cope by having breakfast.
I do currently enjoy a nice breakfast before DL, which I know will stop upon chrismation.

Wait, wha...So I can't go to Waffle House before DL after I get chrismated???? ??? ??? ??? :D
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*totally flippant answer and thus not totally serious.*


I cope by having breakfast.
I do currently enjoy a nice breakfast before DL, which I know will stop upon chrismation.

Wait, wha...So I can't go to Waffle House before DL after I get chrismated???? ??? ??? ??? :D
Only in the South would someone consider going to the Waffle House before Church.  :D
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*totally flippant answer and thus not totally serious.*


I cope by having breakfast.
I do currently enjoy a nice breakfast before DL, which I know will stop upon chrismation.

Wait, wha...So I can't go to Waffle House before DL after I get chrismated???? ??? ??? ??? :D
Only in the South would someone consider going to the Waffle House before Church.  :D
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I was advised by my spiritual father while still a catechumen to abstain from breakfast in preparation for Chrismation, i.e., to have nothing from midnight until after the Divine Liturgy.

Those Orthodox Christians especially senior citizens who need to take medications and who cannot fast before receiving Holy Communion are often advised to eat only fasting foods. For example, a breakfast that would not break the fasting rules would be oatmeal with applesauce instead of milk, toast with peanut butter and/or jam, or waffles made without eggs or milk.

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I was advised by my spiritual father while still a catechumen to abstain from breakfast in preparation for Chrismation, i.e., to have nothing from midnight until after the Divine Liturgy.

Those Orthodox Christians especially senior citizens who need to take medications and who cannot fast before receiving Holy Communion are often advised to eat only fasting foods. For example, a breakfast that would not break the fasting rules would be oatmeal with applesauce instead of milk, toast with peanut butter and/or jam, or waffles made without eggs or milk.


Using the list you provided, bacon is fine.  As is hash browns covered and topped.  Thanks be to the Lord.
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I was advised by my spiritual father while still a catechumen to abstain from breakfast in preparation for Chrismation, i.e., to have nothing from midnight until after the Divine Liturgy.

Yeah, I too was taught to fast before every Liturgy as if for Communion, even if not receiving.  Obviously the sick, children, pregnant and nursing women, etc. would be dispensed to one degree or another, but otherwise it applies to everyone.  How serious a requirement this is is another question.  I think it would be weird to eat before church, but I also love breakfast foods.  :)
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I was advised by my spiritual father while still a catechumen to abstain from breakfast in preparation for Chrismation, i.e., to have nothing from midnight until after the Divine Liturgy.

Those Orthodox Christians especially senior citizens who need to take medications and who cannot fast before receiving Holy Communion are often advised to eat only fasting foods. For example, a breakfast that would not break the fasting rules would be oatmeal with applesauce instead of milk, toast with peanut butter and/or jam, or waffles made without eggs or milk.


Using the list you provided, bacon is fine.  As is hash browns covered and topped.  Thanks be to the Lord.

A parishioner came up to his priest at the Red Lobster. He said to the priest, that since we are at this restaurant, and since Lobster is already one of the most expensive items on the menu, could we just have a little butter on the side? The priest, who had ordered a more humble Lenten item, told him, that yes, since he has already ordered the most expensive item on the menu, go ahead and have the butter sauce since the whole idea of the fast was now nullified.  ::)

Oh, and since hash browns are fried in oil, and covered and topped with sour cream and green onions, why not have the sausage, bacon, and ham on the side? Toss in the egg omelet too. Sheesh! You are making me hungry, and it is a Friday.  :police:
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I was advised by my spiritual father while still a catechumen to abstain from breakfast in preparation for Chrismation, i.e., to have nothing from midnight until after the Divine Liturgy.

Yeah, I too was taught to fast before every Liturgy as if for Communion, even if not receiving.  Obviously the sick, children, pregnant and nursing women, etc. would be dispensed to one degree or another, but otherwise it applies to everyone.  How serious a requirement this is is another question.  I think it would be weird to eat before church, but I also love breakfast foods.  :)
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I've never been told anything of the sort.  Of course, I've never asked, either.

Then don't even think about asking.  ;)
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Using the list you provided, bacon is fine. 

Do you mean, as long you don't eat it?
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Using the list you provided, bacon is fine. 

Do you mean, as long you don't eat it?

That would be so tempting. How many can smell the bacon and not eat it.

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Using the list you provided, bacon is fine. 

Do you mean, as long you don't eat it?

That would be so tempting. How many can smell the bacon and not eat it.


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As a current Orthodox catechumen, I can honestly say that I'm not offended in the least at not being able to partake of the Holy Eucharist just yet. Then again, I am of a traditional Catholic background, so I already knew how important the Eucharist was before deciding to convert to Orthodoxy, unlike perhaps a Protestant who spent a lifetime "communing" once a week/month/year with a piece of bread that was merely "symbolic".

I like the Antidoron. I call it "consolation bread". It reminds me of the trophies they hand out to children to make them feel better for losing at a sports tournament.

Coming from the same type of background as AJM, I heartily agree. I guess this is much less of a problem for someone coming from a  traditionalist group than for many modern(ist?), Western Catholics and many Protestant groups. Ironically, for those Protestants from groups without communion at all, it may be easier than others. Just guessing here, though.

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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #52 on: September 01, 2013, 07:20:13 PM »
I'm amongst those not offended by not being able to partake in the Eucharist until my chrismation.

It always baffled me as a child that in the UMC that we only celebrated communion every 4-6 weeks. I always thought that as part of Christian fellowship and tradition, it should be celebrated weekly.
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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #53 on: September 01, 2013, 09:33:34 PM »
As a priest, I am wondering about how long some of your catechumenates are.  Some of them seem excessively long.  While in some places at certain points in the Church it could have been as long as three years, we also know that (after the inquirer period) to could have been as short as 40 days in other places and points in time.  But "average" is 6 months to a year.  I think I have seen some of you for much longer than this.  Something is not reading right.   

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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #54 on: September 01, 2013, 09:40:26 PM »
I don't know about others, but I have been a catechumen for a little over a year and an off-and-on inquirer for about 5 years.  My priest has told me that the typical length in our parish is 1 year, but I have family issues that have complicated things, so he is advising that I will probably want to take it a bit slower. I am hoping that in a year or two, I will be able to be received, Lord willing.
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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #55 on: September 01, 2013, 09:49:13 PM »
Yeah, I know I've been around since Jan. 2011, but didn't even attend an Orthodox Church full time til Jan. 2012. Due to waiting for my wife to catch up we just become catechumans in July of this year.
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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #56 on: September 03, 2013, 04:09:37 PM »
Looking and inquiring for about 5-6 years.  Became a catechumen last year.  Continually praying for my wife that someday she will join me or at least see what I see.  Then join me. ;)
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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #57 on: September 04, 2013, 09:29:19 AM »
My Catechumenate was about 6 months and ended in time for Paschal. I was from a Liturgical Church and I missed not communing but as I realized that the True Sacraments were in the Orthodox Church, just being in the presence of the Lord during the Liturgy was important---it made my first True communion all the sweeter.

 My Parishes catechumenate lasts between 6 month and a year, if the Catechumen does everything that the priest asks them to do, attend 12 of the major feasts , begin the practice of fasting, attend catechumen classes (we have the choice of several types of Classes) or meet privately with the priest to discuss a personalized reading course of study on the church. It works well, when the priest feels the person is ready for baptism/chrismation the priest advises the person and sets a date (usually before a major feast like Nativity, Pascha, Pentecost, or even Dormition.

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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #58 on: September 04, 2013, 10:40:04 AM »
As a priest, I am wondering about how long some of your catechumenates are.  Some of them seem excessively long.  While in some places at certain points in the Church it could have been as long as three years, we also know that (after the inquirer period) to could have been as short as 40 days in other places and points in time.  But "average" is 6 months to a year.  I think I have seen some of you for much longer than this.  Something is not reading right.   

Doesn't one's prior religious background and level of understanding factor in as a pastoral decision? An Eastern Catholic known to a priest for awhile who is troubled by inconsistencies in his Church's position relative to Orthodoxy may present a different course to reception then someone coming in from an agnostic, non Christian background.

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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
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Doesn't one's prior religious background and level of understanding factor in as a pastoral decision? An Eastern Catholic known to a priest for awhile who is troubled by inconsistencies in his Church's position relative to Orthodoxy may present a different course to reception then someone coming in from an agnostic, non Christian background.

You would think so. I've been inquiring long enough to know many of the latter who are already Orthodox, just adding to the stumbling blocks I have already encountered. I thought it at one time refreshing to read about Orthodoxy and knowing that things you've discovered on your Christian journey actually have a label like 'theosis' and 'nous' without ever having entered an Orthodox church yet when I finally did get there, its like 'who are you'? Are Orthodox anti-Roman Catholic? That's not what Metr. Kallistos (Ware) of Diokleia states in his book, The Orthodox Church, or is he misrepresenting Orthodoxy? I read his book cover to cover in less than a day, I could not put it down. I feel more and more that what I have encounted IRL vs. what is in his book makes it seem like a work of unattainable fiction.

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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #60 on: September 04, 2013, 12:53:26 PM »
Doesn't one's prior religious background and level of understanding factor in as a pastoral decision? An Eastern Catholic known to a priest for awhile who is troubled by inconsistencies in his Church's position relative to Orthodoxy may present a different course to reception then someone coming in from an agnostic, non Christian background.

You would think so. I've been inquiring long enough to know many of the latter who are already Orthodox, just adding to the stumbling blocks I have already encountered. I thought it at one time refreshing to read about Orthodoxy and knowing that things you've discovered on your Christian journey actually have a label like 'theosis' and 'nous' without ever having entered an Orthodox church yet when I finally did get there, its like 'who are you'? Are Orthodox anti-Roman Catholic? That's not what Metr. Kallistos (Ware) of Diokleia states in his book, The Orthodox Church, or is he misrepresenting Orthodoxy? I read his book cover to cover in less than a day, I could not put it down. I feel more and more that what I have encounted IRL vs. what is in his book makes it seem like a work of unattainable fiction.
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« Reply #61 on: September 04, 2013, 03:40:30 PM »
As a priest, I am wondering about how long some of your catechumenates are.  Some of them seem excessively long.  While in some places at certain points in the Church it could have been as long as three years, we also know that (after the inquirer period) to could have been as short as 40 days in other places and points in time.  But "average" is 6 months to a year.  I think I have seen some of you for much longer than this.  Something is not reading right.   

Doesn't one's prior religious background and level of understanding factor in as a pastoral decision? An Eastern Catholic known to a priest for awhile who is troubled by inconsistencies in his Church's position relative to Orthodoxy may present a different course to reception then someone coming in from an agnostic, non Christian background.

I think that we are talking about two different things, which is why I distinguished between the inquirer period and the catechumenate.  While the inquirer period is always of variable length based on the particular individual, the catechumenate itself (i.e., after the person has been an inquirer for some time and worked through his/her issues, and the priest and person agree that they should enter the Church) should be of a relatively fixed length.  Of course, many jurisdictions and parishes do not have particular catechumenate program or even guidelines on this, and thus it is basically just an inquirer period without a catechumenate per se.  My question was based on the fact that some here, after a lengthy inquirer period, have also had thereafter a lengthy catechumenate period.     

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Re: Catechumenate: Not being able to receive Holy Communion. How to handle this?
« Reply #62 on: September 13, 2013, 02:43:52 AM »
Back in the day when priests had the zeal to give penance for months or years in russia, those who could not take communion would sit outside the church and look in the window on sundays ;p

perhaps you should try that  ;D
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