How do you know if the prayer is protestant or Orthodox?
The greatest difference I have noticed (besides the obvious - i.e. making the sign of the Cross or not making it) is the manner in which the prayer is said by the priest or pastor, and the response of the others involved.
I have noticed that in the Orthodox model, the priest asks for the Lord's blessing on a specific matter, and everyone prays along silently in agreement, and then together everyone says Our Father. This may or may not involve prayer books or commonly known prayers. In the Protestant model (at least how I have observed it, most often in Charismatic circles) the pastor or someone else leads the prayer, and the others signify their agreement by saying "Yes!" or "Amen!" every now and again, or sometimes even moaning a positive affirmation like "Mmmmm". This last bit is hard to explain without sounding derisive, but try to imagine that you have said something I agree with, and to signify that I agree I nod and say, "Mmm, yes, good point." Something like that.
Also, everyone holding hands is not uncommon. Also, they seem to use the words "we just" or "You just" a lot, as in "Heavenly Father, we just come before You tonight and ask that You just..." or "And we ask that You just give us Your wisdom...".
Its hard to explain, but there is a different "feel" to it. Again, this is my personal experience and observation, not an attack or critique, so make of it what you will.
NOTE: Modified to avoid double-posting.
I understand what you are saying. No need to give anyone ammo with which to "bash" you another time by bringing up your former background. Still, they have no more right to judge you for being a former Wiccan than the "cradles" have to judge them for being former Evangelicals, Charismatics, or whatever else.
I also agree 100% with your assessment of the "Praise Band" thing and the casual racism.
WP - You said: "Thus I guess no one listening to a Praise band at a Festival when they see that it is sponsored by an Orthodox church would have any curiosity at all and maybe visit...ludicrous."
I have re-read this a couple of times and it still seems garbled to me. Would you mind clarifying? Are you suggesting that she was wrong not to join in singing along with the "Praise Band"? Thanks.