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« Reply #45 on: July 27, 2013, 04:30:54 PM »

Oookay... *brings out the firebrand* Hey, she's paying for them! Her money, her rules! If she things you'll look great in an orange paisley muumuu, orange paisley muumuu it is! Grin

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This is bringing up bad memories. When I was in high school my gram was my legal guardian, and she'd buy these outlandish shirts, like a caveman riding a dinosaur, with "Omaha, Nebraska!" across the top. Truly bizarre stuff like that. I would insist that it was bizarre, and she'd say things like "Oh no one looks at your clothes" or "It was on sale, I got it for 60% off" as though that was supposed to make it better. Parents. Humph.  Cool

I didn't know we were related. Sounds exactly like my mother.
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« Reply #46 on: July 27, 2013, 04:35:58 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

Generally speaking this would seem sensible; however, clothes that fit aren't in style. The fad right now are clothes 2 sizes too small (or "skinny"), though some people, especially guys, still like clothes (especially pants) 2 sizes too large.

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Having a plumber's crack results in having more friends?
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« Reply #47 on: July 27, 2013, 05:18:28 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.

The first thing my husband did when we got married was give me his credit card and tell me to go shopping for him. I took his measurements and have been shopping for him ever since. He hates department stores and will not go into one of those stores. He tries on the clothes and shoes that I buy at home (never at the store) and rarely do I have to return an item. Often, I will purchase his clothes online, especially those that we have previously purchased. Lately, I have been sewing him PJs and Hawaiian shirts. The only time he will go shopping is when he must buy a suit. Those are different animals.
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« Reply #48 on: July 27, 2013, 05:21:42 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

Generally speaking this would seem sensible; however, clothes that fit aren't in style. The fad right now are clothes 2 sizes too small (or "skinny"), though some people, especially guys, still like clothes (especially pants) 2 sizes too large.

Plumber's crack = instant, irrevocable friendzone.

Having a plumber's crack results in having more friends?

Other plumbers. If those are your crew of choice, swell.
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« Reply #49 on: July 27, 2013, 05:23:17 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

Generally speaking this would seem sensible; however, clothes that fit aren't in style. The fad right now are clothes 2 sizes too small (or "skinny"), though some people, especially guys, still like clothes (especially pants) 2 sizes too large.

Plumber's crack = instant, irrevocable friendzone.

Having a plumber's crack results in having more friends?

Other plumbers. If those are your crew of choice, smell.

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« Reply #50 on: July 27, 2013, 06:57:10 PM »

Cigarettes make you stink and give you cancer.
It's also illegal in many states to smoke them before you turn 18.
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« Reply #51 on: July 27, 2013, 06:59:03 PM »

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« Reply #52 on: July 27, 2013, 07:46:40 PM »

Cigarettes make you stink and give you cancer.
It's also illegal in many states to smoke them before you turn 18.
I kind of forgot about that law.
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« Reply #53 on: July 28, 2013, 01:04:38 PM »

I don't know how much free time you may have, but if you have an hour or so every few weeks, even this could be good for volunteering. If for instance you were to go out and learn how to do CPR at the Red Cross, I bet that would give your parents a positive impression. I worked for a few months at a food bank, and it turned out to be one of the best experiences I've had. Good luck, James.
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« Reply #54 on: July 28, 2013, 07:02:56 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.
QFT!  My wife is awesome because she does not require my attendance when she is buying my clothes.
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« Reply #55 on: July 28, 2013, 07:18:51 PM »

I don't know how much free time you may have, but if you have an hour or so every few weeks, even this could be good for volunteering. If for instance you were to go out and learn how to do CPR at the Red Cross, I bet that would give your parents a positive impression. I worked for a few months at a food bank, and it turned out to be one of the best experiences I've had. Good luck, James.
This is some of the best advice I've seen on this thread. The more James acts like a mature young adult, the more his mom will be willing to treat him like one.
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« Reply #56 on: July 28, 2013, 08:25:23 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.
QFT!  My wife is awesome because she does not require my attendance when she is buying my clothes.

That explains the pink tutu I saw you in a few weeks ago.
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« Reply #57 on: July 28, 2013, 08:29:42 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.
QFT!  My wife is awesome because she does not require my attendance when she is buying my clothes.

That explains the pink tutu I saw you in a few weeks ago.
Erm, well....this is embarrassing!  I didn't realize you were watching.  Well, since it is out there now, I might as well post a pic.

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Where exactly were you, that it was snowing a few weeks ago?
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« Reply #59 on: July 28, 2013, 11:04:10 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.
QFT!  My wife is awesome because she does not require my attendance when she is buying my clothes.

Why all men are like that? What's wrong with you? Shopping is fun.
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« Reply #60 on: July 28, 2013, 11:15:45 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.
QFT!  My wife is awesome because she does not require my attendance when she is buying my clothes.

Why all men are like that? What's wrong with you? Shopping is fun.

Only if you're shopping for cars, power tools, guns and ammo.  Otherwise, it's wasting money on frivolous things.
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« Reply #61 on: July 28, 2013, 11:16:15 PM »

Not all men are like that. Although I go shopping *with* my husband when he buys clothing. I don't pick out his clothing. He is an adult man, I have 6 children and myself to pick out clothing for (eldest daughter at 11 still wants my input). I have much better things to do with my time than pick out an adult man's clothing. He wears a uniform to work, so he doesn't need much in the way of clothing.


And not all women enjoy clothing shopping, I certainly don't enjoy it all that much (for myself or the kids).
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« Reply #62 on: July 28, 2013, 11:17:15 PM »

I love shopping at home improvement stores, thrift stores, and the like. Even then, I have limits to the time I like being there. I might last longer at a knife show Cheesy
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« Reply #63 on: July 28, 2013, 11:27:44 PM »

Why would anyone want to buy clothes without trying them on first? Don't you want them to, you know, fit? Huh

I never try them on first. I'm usually not even present when my clothes are bought.
QFT!  My wife is awesome because she does not require my attendance when she is buying my clothes.

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« Reply #64 on: July 29, 2013, 12:38:26 AM »

LOL the women I have dated have terrible taste in clothing styles for men.  Tongue
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« Reply #65 on: July 29, 2013, 12:49:30 AM »

LOL the women I have dated have terrible taste in clothing styles for men.  Tongue

What kind of women are you dating? Sheesh!

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« Reply #66 on: July 29, 2013, 06:13:05 AM »

Only if you're shopping for cars, power tools, guns and ammo.  Otherwise, it's wasting money on frivolous things.

Things like food and toilet roll are only frivolous until you run out.
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« Reply #67 on: July 29, 2013, 06:45:57 AM »

Only if you're shopping for cars, power tools, guns and ammo.  Otherwise, it's wasting money on frivolous things.

Things like food and toilet roll are only frivolous until you run out.

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« Reply #68 on: July 29, 2013, 06:52:06 AM »

Most of the folks here doesn't seem to remember what is it like to be a teenager.

I remember clearly.  I was horrible. Embarrassed
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« Reply #69 on: July 29, 2013, 08:08:33 AM »

Most of the folks here doesn't seem to remember what is it like to be a teenager.

I remember clearly.  I was horrible. Embarrassed
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It's funny though, I didn't realize it was horrible at the time.  It was only once I got older and matured that I look back at my teenage years and just shake my head.
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« Reply #70 on: July 29, 2013, 09:37:32 AM »

I wasn't horrible. I was generally speaking obedient, did great at school, didn't take any drugs, drink alcohol or smoke tobacco. I believed in God and went to the church both with and without my parents. I didn't have much of a will, self-esteem or personhood during my teenage years and I was generally speaking somewhat anguished over our family life but I guess obedience and respect is all that matters.
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« Reply #71 on: July 29, 2013, 11:11:36 AM »

I wasn't horrible. I was generally speaking obedient, did great at school, didn't take any drugs, drink alcohol or smoke tobacco. I believed in God and went to the church both with and without my parents. I didn't have much of a will, self-esteem or personhood during my teenage years and I was generally speaking somewhat anguished over our family life but I guess obedience and respect is all that matters.

I was the same. I was very stubborn, however, and just wanted to be left alone.  My parents were always trying to get me to get out of the house. I think they would have liked it if I got into trouble once. Grin
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« Reply #72 on: July 29, 2013, 02:19:42 PM »

Only if you're shopping for cars, power tools, guns and ammo.  Otherwise, it's wasting money on frivolous things.

Things like food and toilet roll are only frivolous until you run out.
I'm pretty sure the world has ended multiple times on being at the last sheet of a toilet paper roll
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« Reply #73 on: August 13, 2013, 10:21:15 AM »

Everyone I know is always teasing me and telling me that I need to assert some more independence from my parents because they are too controlling and/or overprotective. Even adults tell me this. That being said, I guess I could see where they are coming from.

My parents text message me every half-an-hour whenever I go somewhere without them to make sure that I am okay, and get mad if I don't respond within 10 minutes (even at Liturgy), they won't let me accept rides from people or use public transportation without an adult (they'd rather chauffer me around until I get my license), my mom still picks out my clothing at the department store and makes me try it on for her, they don't let me drink or smoke, my mother is overprotective when it comes to me socializing with females, in which, my dad has to tell her to back off, etc. The list goes on.

I'm a robot. I just go along with whatever they tell me to do and I guess it's time I start acting like a man more and gaining independence. How do I do this without angering them?

EDIT: I'm 17

Join the Legion and change your name.  But seriously, at least you have parents that give a crap.  There are many that don't even have that.
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« Reply #74 on: August 13, 2013, 11:27:01 AM »

Hahaha oh I remember the days of my mother picking out clothes and having me try them on as well. Happened before school season.

I'm pretty sure it stopped before middle school.

But my mother is very overprotective as well, but I have always taken it in stride and given into her demands because I love her dearly. I'm already in my 20s but I will always be a child in her eyes, doesn't really bother me much.

My perfect woman would be one that acts like a mother to me.
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« Reply #75 on: August 25, 2013, 04:09:56 PM »

lol I think his parents care very much! Al thought,when your a teen It feels like they are watching all the time.I think he needs some time for him self.He needs to tell his parents that he loves them but feels a little smothered by them.He appreciates them for all they do and He knows how scared they must feel seeing him grow up,but all will be OK.trust in God and him.
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« Reply #76 on: August 26, 2013, 08:08:03 AM »

Hahaha oh I remember the days of my mother picking out clothes and having me try them on as well. Happened before school season.

I'm pretty sure it stopped before middle school.

But my mother is very overprotective as well, but I have always taken it in stride and given into her demands because I love her dearly. I'm already in my 20s but I will always be a child in her eyes, doesn't really bother me much.

My perfect woman would be one that acts like a mother to me.

My wife says she hates acting like a mother to me.  Then she buys me clothes. Grin  Hahaha, I love it.  It is perfect.
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