Alas,that's how it struck me, a list of reasons not to be Orthodox. Now maybe I was unfair to you since you did say you believe we're both "ultimately Orthodox" (an ambiguous phrase perhaps but you obviously meant well$. But you may note I have a short fuse after the initial hijacking of this thread by other EO posters, which was extremely annoying. And which caused byhisgrace a huge delay in getting his question answered.
Which I will note was a unanimous "that's fine." I daresay the same question addressed to EOs would sadly produce a more variated response, including some Old Calendarists who would warn of the dangers of "world Orthodoxy" et cetera. But I do think for all our faults we OOs have a somewhat harmonious worldview which allows for example someone to be unanimously commended into the hands of an Eastern Orthodox Church, and why to my knowledge at present we have only two active, and relatively minor schisms, one of which is being killed and one of which was indirectly caused by the evil Derg regime and the removal of the Derg appointed Ethiopian Abuna in a process of de-Dergification that not everyone in the diaspora agreed with, but I've heard progress is being made towards fixing that one as well. But none of these are the result of any theological rupture. Unless one wants to count the Maronite Schism or for that matter the Eastern Catholic breakaway groups, but in the case of the latter at least both EOs and OOs have that problem, and in the case of the former we seem to be getting along well with the Cardinal Patriarch of the Maronites.
So my point is, I think we can learn from the EO some things about the decoration of our churches, about music and musical styles, and the management of music and the integration of traditional uses, and especially from 18th century Athonite and 19th century Russian ascetics, works like the Philokalia, the Little Russian Philokalia, The Arena of St. Ignatius Brianchaninov, The Way of the Pilgrim, and a host of other fine works. And I think the Eastern Orthodox can learn from us a measure of tolerance, patience, level headed was, and also perhaps how to encourage a high birth rate and high church attendance. We have lots of kids in our churches whereas too many EO parishes in the diaspora at least seem like their congregation is ageing. We need to work together to fix that, by encouraging young people to say in the EO churches, get married, and have children, perhaps with matchmaking and financial support services to take the fear out of the equation. Church supported marriage and procreation, in a word, or five.