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Re: dating question
« Reply #225 on: July 14, 2013, 01:46:18 AM »
Let's put it this way; you don't want to find your spouse physically repulsive.

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« Reply #226 on: July 14, 2013, 03:37:37 AM »
Hey if I get married, I'm definitely letting myself go. I could careless what I look like then.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #227 on: July 14, 2013, 05:29:04 AM »
Are you even sexually attracted to your friend? I wouldn't even bother. I know orthonorm downplays sex as being overrated, but I don't see how you could date someone if you did not find them sexually attractive. Unless you are like an asexual type or something.
How important is sexual attraction in developing a long-term relationship?

Make sure you have things in common out of bed. Even the highest sex drive goes away sooner or later, and you don't want to be stuck in your old age with someone you can't even hold a conversation with.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #228 on: July 14, 2013, 12:59:45 PM »
Hey if I get married, I'm definitely letting myself go. I could careless what I look like then.

Hurray no more three mile jogs and shaving everyday! :)
...Or it's just possible he's a mouthy young man on an internet forum.
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« Reply #229 on: July 14, 2013, 01:22:05 PM »
How important is sexual attraction in developing a long-term relationship?

Very. Though perhaps more important is a face you aren't embarrassed by.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #230 on: July 14, 2013, 07:52:46 PM »
Are you even sexually attracted to your friend? I wouldn't even bother. I know orthonorm downplays sex as being overrated, but I don't see how you could date someone if you did not find them sexually attractive. Unless you are like an asexual type or something.
How important is sexual attraction in developing a long-term relationship?

Anastasia, the Christian theology is an Incarnational theology.human sexuality was created by God as such it manifests from Him. in Him and through Him according to His will it gets its beauty and sanctity as well as creative and transformative power. our sexuality is part of who we are as human beings, one aspect of the communion between man and woman. however like all other aspects of our reality, sin has affected this dimension of the human being as well. so I would say it is important,good and holy to the extent it is used in the manner and for the purpose the Lord created it to be used.the denial of human sexuality is a perversion and degradation of the human person.Christianity advocates the transfiguration of human sexuality through Christ in The Spirit for the Glory of the Father, like all other dimensions of the human person created in the Image and Likeness of God.

having said that, sexual love ( from the attraction to consummation in Holy Matrimony) is neither the only aspect of the Christian marriage nor its ultimate destination. in Holy Matrimony man and woman are called to Holiness. so it is towards that purpose that all other aspects must be considered and integrated according to the will of God.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #231 on: July 15, 2013, 01:34:27 AM »
Are you even sexually attracted to your friend? I wouldn't even bother. I know orthonorm downplays sex as being overrated, but I don't see how you could date someone if you did not find them sexually attractive. Unless you are like an asexual type or something.
How important is sexual attraction in developing a long-term relationship?

Anastasia, the Christian theology is an Incarnational theology.human sexuality was created by God as such it manifests from Him. in Him and through Him according to His will it gets its beauty and sanctity as well as creative and transformative power. our sexuality is part of who we are as human beings, one aspect of the communion between man and woman. however like all other aspects of our reality, sin has affected this dimension of the human being as well. so I would say it is important,good and holy to the extent it is used in the manner and for the purpose the Lord created it to be used.the denial of human sexuality is a perversion and degradation of the human person.Christianity advocates the transfiguration of human sexuality through Christ in The Spirit for the Glory of the Father, like all other dimensions of the human person created in the Image and Likeness of God.

having said that, sexual love ( from the attraction to consummation in Holy Matrimony) is neither the only aspect of the Christian marriage nor its ultimate destination. in Holy Matrimony man and woman are called to Holiness. so it is towards that purpose that all other aspects must be considered and integrated according to the will of God.
Ok, for the first paragraph, I would say, "This is a much healthier presentation than the Evangelical "Sex/sexuality is bad" message that young singles get sometimes."
You are saying that that it is good and worth having but only a small part of a bigger picture and not the end all and be all?
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Re: dating question
« Reply #232 on: July 15, 2013, 01:44:41 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #233 on: July 15, 2013, 01:54:10 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #234 on: July 15, 2013, 02:09:33 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".
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Re: dating question
« Reply #235 on: July 15, 2013, 08:08:58 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".
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Re: dating question
« Reply #236 on: July 15, 2013, 09:29:20 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".

Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #237 on: July 15, 2013, 10:52:04 AM »
i disagree.
when u love someone, they become more beautiful.

as our relationship with God deepens, we become less ugly.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #238 on: July 15, 2013, 06:58:45 PM »
i disagree.
when u love someone, they become more beautiful.

as our relationship with God deepens, we become less ugly.
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Very true, because this helps us focus on who the person is, not what they look like.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #239 on: July 15, 2013, 07:07:03 PM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".

Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.

I don't know. I met my husband on the internet. By the time we finally got to meet, nothing short of Quasimodo would be a dealbreaker.

On the other hand, you definitely can't fix stupid, and you can't live with it either.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #240 on: July 15, 2013, 08:12:08 PM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".

Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.

I don't know. I met my husband on the internet. By the time we finally got to meet, nothing short of Quasimodo would be a dealbreaker.

On the other hand, you definitely can't fix stupid, and you can't live with it either.
Are you saying your husband looks like Quasimodo?
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Re: dating question
« Reply #241 on: July 15, 2013, 09:26:02 PM »
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Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.
In a deep relationship, the word "ugly" does not exist.

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« Reply #242 on: July 15, 2013, 09:32:57 PM »
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Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.
In a deep relationship, the word "ugly" does not exist.

I was married 7 years. I saw a lot of ugly.  ;D
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« Reply #243 on: July 15, 2013, 09:37:22 PM »
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Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.
In a deep relationship, the word "ugly" does not exist.

I was married 7 years. I saw a lot of ugly.  ;D

BAM!  He went there. Oh SNAP!
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Re: dating question
« Reply #244 on: July 16, 2013, 03:01:10 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".

Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.

I don't know. I met my husband on the internet. By the time we finally got to meet, nothing short of Quasimodo would be a dealbreaker.

On the other hand, you definitely can't fix stupid, and you can't live with it either.
Are you saying your husband looks like Quasimodo?

Since we're married, obviously not. ;D But he had won me over before looks even came into the equation.
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« Reply #245 on: July 16, 2013, 08:00:40 AM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".

Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.

I don't know. I met my husband on the internet. By the time we finally got to meet, nothing short of Quasimodo would be a dealbreaker.

On the other hand, you definitely can't fix stupid, and you can't live with it either.
Are you saying your husband looks like Quasimodo?

Since we're married, obviously not. ;D But he had won me over before looks even came into the equation.
He sounds like quite a catch.  Many years!
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Re: dating question
« Reply #246 on: July 16, 2013, 01:31:32 PM »
There is a general rule of thumb that the deeper the relationship gets, the more attractive your partner gets.
I have not had much experience with this. I've had that happen with someone else to me, but not me to him. I've had relationships where he was barely more attractive 7 months later, and where I was not really more attracted later on, and those cute guys that you meet and find they are not Christian or something and somehow they just aren't cute after a couple months of acquaintanceship.

Don't confuse "length of time" with "depth of relationship".

Depth of relationship can't fix ugly.

I don't know. I met my husband on the internet. By the time we finally got to meet, nothing short of Quasimodo would be a dealbreaker.

On the other hand, you definitely can't fix stupid, and you can't live with it either.
Are you saying your husband looks like Quasimodo?

Since we're married, obviously not. ;D But he had won me over before looks even came into the equation.
He sounds like quite a catch.  Many years!

May the two of you always be happy, and grow more beautiful in each other's eyes with each passing day.

Many years!
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Re: dating question
« Reply #247 on: July 16, 2013, 08:22:24 PM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
...Or it's just possible he's a mouthy young man on an internet forum.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #248 on: July 16, 2013, 08:27:02 PM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
This is probably a real jerk thing to say, but its the truth. In 3 years, you probably will have a hard time remembering her name.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #249 on: July 16, 2013, 09:05:10 PM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
This is probably a real jerk thing to say, but its the truth. In 3 years, you probably will have a hard time remembering her name.

I don't know. It's been years and I'm still always thinking about her and we're best friends. I think I truly love her.
...Or it's just possible he's a mouthy young man on an internet forum.
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« Reply #250 on: July 16, 2013, 09:10:53 PM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
This is probably a real jerk thing to say, but its the truth. In 3 years, you probably will have a hard time remembering her name.

I don't know. It's been years and I'm still always thinking about her and we're best friends. I think I truly love her.
I had similar feelings in high school as well.  After 2 years in college, they were a distant memory.  I would caution you against getting too involved with someone in high school.  If they truly are "the one", they will be "the one" years from now.  If they aren't, they will be a fond memory as you reflect on your life.  From age 18 to 22, you and her will very likely go through massive changes in how you view the world.  It is not wise to tie yourself to something at this point when things will probably be quite different in a few years.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #251 on: July 16, 2013, 11:41:18 PM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
This is probably a real jerk thing to say, but its the truth. In 3 years, you probably will have a hard time remembering her name.

I don't know. It's been years and I'm still always thinking about her and we're best friends. I think I truly love her.
I had similar feelings in high school as well.  After 2 years in college, they were a distant memory.  I would caution you against getting too involved with someone in high school.  If they truly are "the one", they will be "the one" years from now.  If they aren't, they will be a fond memory as you reflect on your life.  From age 18 to 22, you and her will very likely go through massive changes in how you view the world.  It is not wise to tie yourself to something at this point when things will probably be quite different in a few years.
 

I would possibly disagree with this, but since you are dealing with a hypothetical situation (person), it is probably the best answer under the circumstances.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #252 on: July 17, 2013, 12:56:04 AM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
This is probably a real jerk thing to say, but its the truth. In 3 years, you probably will have a hard time remembering her name.

I don't know. It's been years and I'm still always thinking about her and we're best friends. I think I truly love her.
Read 1 Corinthians, Chapter 13, then tell me if your truly love her.
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« Reply #253 on: July 17, 2013, 01:11:35 AM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
This is probably a real jerk thing to say, but its the truth. In 3 years, you probably will have a hard time remembering her name.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #254 on: July 17, 2013, 11:46:46 PM »
How do I get the nightmares to stop? Oh Lord how? On and off for the past year I've been dreaming about the past dates I've had with the woman I love (and plan to propose to). Something about it is so painful, just, to relive that happiness we once had in my nightmares and then to wake up drenched in sorrow, reminded of the fact that she may be gone by August next year in Colorado. Do I really love her? She's been the only girl I ever dated and knew since 6th grade and is the only woman I feel emotion for.
God is able to bear any girl/relationship problems that a girl could toss at him.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #255 on: July 18, 2013, 06:11:46 AM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?
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Re: dating question
« Reply #256 on: July 18, 2013, 11:49:42 AM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?

Tell her you're gay but would love to go. Good food, no worries about her getting too attached, easy peasy cyrilliceasy.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #257 on: July 18, 2013, 05:14:38 PM »
Sounds risky. What if everybody will think I'm gay?
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Re: dating question
« Reply #258 on: July 18, 2013, 05:25:45 PM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?

Tell her you're gay but would love to go. Good food, no worries about her getting too attached, easy peasy cyrilliceasy.
This is actually a fantastic idea.  Just tell her that you're "in the closet" and ask her to keep it a secret.  After all, you're only telling her so you don't hurt her feelings. ;)

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Re: dating question
« Reply #259 on: July 18, 2013, 05:29:15 PM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?

Tell her you're gay but would love to go. Good food, no worries about her getting too attached, easy peasy cyrilliceasy.
This is actually a fantastic idea.  Just tell her that you're "in the closet" and ask her to keep it a secret.  After all, you're only telling her so you don't hurt her feelings. ;)

That's brilliant! Now I can enjoy my spaghetti without getting myself into trouble.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #260 on: July 18, 2013, 05:31:54 PM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?

Tell her you're gay but would love to go. Good food, no worries about her getting too attached, easy peasy cyrilliceasy.
This is actually a fantastic idea.  Just tell her that you're "in the closet" and ask her to keep it a secret.  After all, you're only telling her so you don't hurt her feelings. ;)

That's brilliant! Now I can enjoy my spaghetti without getting myself into trouble.
On second thought, it's probably dangerous to lie about this.  What if you find a girlfriend and this person gets offended or something?  It might be better to just tell her the truth upfront.  You don't want to be mean, after all.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #261 on: July 18, 2013, 05:34:39 PM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?

Tell her you're gay but would love to go. Good food, no worries about her getting too attached, easy peasy cyrilliceasy.
This is actually a fantastic idea.  Just tell her that you're "in the closet" and ask her to keep it a secret.  After all, you're only telling her so you don't hurt her feelings. ;)

That's brilliant! Now I can enjoy my spaghetti without getting myself into trouble.
On second thought, it's probably dangerous to lie about this.  What if you find a girlfriend and this person gets offended or something?  It might be better to just tell her the truth upfront.  You don't want to be mean, after all.
I think the suggestion was tongue-in-cheek.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #262 on: July 18, 2013, 05:41:05 PM »
It's okay, I'll just tell her the truth. I'm not evil. Well, not completely evil.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #263 on: July 18, 2013, 05:42:58 PM »
Would it be ok to accept a date if you aren't interested in the girl but love the food in that specific restaurant?

Tell her you're gay but would love to go. Good food, no worries about her getting too attached, easy peasy cyrilliceasy.
This is actually a fantastic idea.  Just tell her that you're "in the closet" and ask her to keep it a secret.  After all, you're only telling her so you don't hurt her feelings. ;)

That's brilliant! Now I can enjoy my spaghetti without getting myself into trouble.
On second thought, it's probably dangerous to lie about this.  What if you find a girlfriend and this person gets offended or something?  It might be better to just tell her the truth upfront.  You don't want to be mean, after all.
I think the suggestion was tongue-in-cheek.
My bad.  I took it seriously because it's something I've had to tell girls before.

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Re: dating question
« Reply #264 on: July 18, 2013, 05:55:03 PM »
It's okay, I'll just tell her the truth. I'm not evil. Well, not completely evil.

Just be careful. Take a little advice from an old man. When I was younger and was in sunday school at my local Protestant church, there was a sex educator that came in one time to tell us about sex. She told us all sorts of things that the mainstream media covers up. Like did you know that during a certain time of the month that a girl can get pregnant spontaneously just by sitting within three feet of a guy she is strongly attracted to? I know this sounds like balogny, but it's true! One time my wife got pregnant, and when we did the math to find out when she conceived it was smack dab in the middle of Lent, when we weren't having sex, so there you go! Also, scientists and liberals and communists (usually one person being all three) will try to lie to you and tell you this isn't so. This is very easy to disprove. Just say "oh yeah, well if science is so right, show me one peer-reviewed journal article that demonstrates that a girl can't get pregnant that way!"  They will not be able to provide such evidence--because it doesn't exist! So, the moral of the story, enjoy the food, but keep your distance from the girl.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #265 on: July 18, 2013, 07:00:55 PM »
One time my wife got pregnant, and when we did the math to find out when she conceived it was smack dab in the middle of Lent, when we weren't having sex, so there you go!

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Re: dating question
« Reply #266 on: July 18, 2013, 09:46:09 PM »
One time my wife got pregnant, and when we did the math to find out when she conceived it was smack dab in the middle of Lent, when we weren't I wasn't having sex, so there you go!

Fixed that for you.

Poor Asteriktos.  So naive...  ;)
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Re: dating question
« Reply #267 on: July 18, 2013, 09:56:22 PM »
Forgive an ignorant man for saying something, but how can a girl get pregnant if there is no sexual intercourse. I will try to be as medical as possible. The penis at least has to place itself in the vagina and the semen has to enter the vagina and ferment in the woman. I thought that was basic and as much as I believe in conspiracy theories and listen to Alex Jones I am not sure I understand what your well meaning Protestant Sunday School teacher meant. A woman cannot get pregnant from just being strongly attracted to a man next to her. Just like the man might ejaculate, so she might secrete or grow wet in the vagina, which is sexual excitement what is often not even willed but natural. I am not trying to be nasty, but one cannot get pregnant without the penis going in the vagina. As for the pregnancy during Lent, maybe you got the math wrong or something. I am not really sure but if a woman could get pregnant with her clothes on well....
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Re: dating question
« Reply #268 on: July 18, 2013, 10:02:20 PM »
Forgive an ignorant man for saying something, but how can a girl get pregnant if there is no sexual intercourse. I will try to be as medical as possible. The penis at least has to place itself in the vagina and the semen has to enter the vagina and ferment in the woman. I thought that was basic and as much as I believe in conspiracy theories and listen to Alex Jones I am not sure I understand what your well meaning Protestant Sunday School teacher meant. A woman cannot get pregnant from just being strongly attracted to a man next to her. Just like the man might ejaculate, so she might secrete or grow wet in the vagina, which is sexual excitement what is often not even willed but natural. I am not trying to be nasty, but one cannot get pregnant without the penis going in the vagina. As for the pregnancy during Lent, maybe you got the math wrong or something. I am not really sure but if a woman could get pregnant with her clothes on well....

A significant portion of my posts are meant as satire, comedy, sarcasm-with-a-point, or sometimes just dumb ideas I throw out because they amuse me (even if I know they won't amuse anyone else).  :angel: ;D

EDIT--Just to expand, a lot of what I say is inside jokes that might be humorous on several levels, often with the amusement I get being somewhat different than what is intended for the regular reader. For example, with the thing about getting my wife pregnant: that's a joke based somewhat on the fact that my wife and I twice got pregnant while taking steps to avoid getting pregnant.
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Re: dating question
« Reply #269 on: July 18, 2013, 10:03:07 PM »
Forgive an ignorant man for saying something, but how can a girl get pregnant if there is no sexual intercourse. I will try to be as medical as possible. The penis at least has to place itself in the vagina and the semen has to enter the vagina and ferment in the woman. I thought that was basic and as much as I believe in conspiracy theories and listen to Alex Jones I am not sure I understand what your well meaning Protestant Sunday School teacher meant. A woman cannot get pregnant from just being strongly attracted to a man next to her. Just like the man might ejaculate, so she might secrete or grow wet in the vagina, which is sexual excitement what is often not even willed but natural. I am not trying to be nasty, but one cannot get pregnant without the penis going in the vagina. As for the pregnancy during Lent, maybe you got the math wrong or something. I am not really sure but if a woman could get pregnant with her clothes on well....
As you are new, I shall explain.  Asteriktos is our resident humorist who uses self-deprecating statements to humorously nudge and prod at other members of the forum.  He was not being serious in his post.  ;)
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