All the best relationships in my life, both friendly and romantic, sprang out of my roleplaying hobby, both online and face to face.
That's because you live in the only country in the world where roleplaying and tabletop games seem to be somewhat cool.
If England had gun-rights I'd be on the plane with a one-way ticket in a week. I'd probably get a hobo-box and just live at Bovington.
Ok, dating sites. I have used most of them except Shaadi, and I had considered it.
Plenty of Whales - This is part joke and part truth. But if you are the sort where personality matters more than them being a supermodel, you might get your best luck here. Some of the worst girls are on here (you get what you pay for) but there are also some of the best (the best things in life are free). I include those cliche's to give you a guess at the typical profile-writing skillz of the average denizen of POF. But I will still suggest POF because despite all the wigged turds I went through on that site, two of the best girls I have ever dated were on there too. One of them I am still friends with...and I ain't the sort of guy who usually puts up with that friendzone BS...and the other I am still dating and might end up marrying.
OK U Bid - This is Facebook for Chicks. Actually, Facebook is Facebook for Chicks so this is Facebook For Chicks II. The girls on here are rather pretty and a disturbing number of them seem to be the sorts of people that would need Jesus to rescue them from a stoning, but this is attention-seeking at it's
worst. Or, they are like the ever-beautiful Arachne and just on there for the quizes, so not really open for dating. FWIW, the quizes are pretty fun! I met one girl on there who was pretty smart, had an interesting sense of humour, and we shared some interests...but there were too many negatives which I would go into if this wasn't a Christian website. (No, I don't mean that
. Get your minds out of the gutter! Just reasons that might make me seem shallow.)
Match - Met my first GF on there but that was years ago. It's kinda crap these days. First, most pay sites just aren't worth it. You'd be better off taking the $15-30 and just hiring a girl to take out for dinner and a movie and arrange for her to reject you via text message a few days later. If you decide to go on Match just make sure to spam out a lot of messages (at the same time making them not look like they are spam) and prepare for a <10% success rate. (For reference, I give POF a 10% success rate.)
Christian Mingle - There just aren't enough people on there unless you live in a really big city (over 1mil population). Even then, I could have spammed every Christian (Lutheran, Anglican, Orthodox (0), or Catholic) girl in Omaha in one sitting. Since I was actually looking for a GF I didn't put in any liberal Protestant/psyco-Protestant denominations, Mormon, JW's, etc. I met one decent girl, but she had the pick of the litter and I wasn't it. She did offer the friendzone but to heck with that. Being a pay site that lets you make a profile without paying (to increase the number of "members") most of the people you message won't be able to respond, or even read your messages, even if they wanted to.
Eharmony - Ugh. Most of my matches (I specify a 20 mile max) were in the 500 mi radius. Got maybe two matches in as many months and both were "winners". If it were free I'd consider it, but not really worth paying for.
In short, online dating sucks, but if you don't meet a lot of people in real life and don't like being involuntarily celibate, this is probably your only option. Girls, you are going to run into a lot of men who are...well, odd. Hopefully you have seen a picture of male genitalia once or twice and won't be shocked if some of the special guys on there send you wiener pics. 'Cuz they will. Make sure you have realistic standards. If you want a man who could be Ryan Gossling's stunt double, is loaded and has charisma to the max, I have bad news for you. He's already found someone offline. Now, if you pare down your list of requirements in a guy commensurate to how much he's going to have to pare down his list for you, you've probably got a good shot. Do not be afraid to send the message first if you find someone you like. Men have to spam out so many messages that actually getting one from a woman who initiates contact is probably going to give you a higher market share than your competition. I have never received a decent message (three to five sentences with something resembling over third grade grammar) that I didn't at least respond to.
Guys - It's a grind. Basically, I suggest you get a good documentary on trench warfare and watch it as this is pretty much what online dating is all about. Most of the girls are inundated with messages and really only like 25% are wiener pics so there are still plenty to sift through. You have to have a good profile, decent pictures - none of them shirtless or just of your wiener, and then send out good messages that catch her eye (ooh shiny!) about 700 million times. 10% success rate. This is the best it is going to get. And of those most of these dates will fail. You will probably need to send out 50-100 messages all said and done.
Best of luck!