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Offline Dionysius

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Still Learning About Confession
« on: April 15, 2014, 05:35:26 PM »
Dear all,

my family and I were baptized in 2010.  I still consider my recent convert, as I am learning about the faith daily.  Confession is very difficult for me.  I am still getting over the embarrassment of confessing to the priest at our parish.  I try to confess weekly, but I must admit that I often gloss over or try to categorize my sins generally--"I...lusted" or "I...experienced anger."  This must seem very cowardly and indeed it is.  Any advice?

In addition, the priest (please forgive me, everyone) sometimes seems exasperated with me, especially in regards to habitual sins.  I feel terrible and less inclined to be rigorous with my confession.  Perhaps this is normal and I should get over it and...most importantly...stop sinning.  Please forgive me, I am trying.

Thank you for reading.  Any and all advice is appreciated and welcome.

And please, pray for me, a sinner.

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Re: Still Learning About Confession
« Reply #1 on: April 15, 2014, 05:51:41 PM »

I'm sure the priest doesn't wish to hear all the details, so, what you feel is "glossing over" is in fact okay...as long as you realize what you did and repent.

Saying you experienced anger, I think is better than making the priest listen to "I got angry at Suzy because she wouldn't change the TV station, and then I got angry at Joe because he stuck up for her, and after all that, I tripped over Andy's toys and got angry at him, and then the dog had messed up the carpet and I got angry at him, and then...."

Be sincere, but, succinct....and by repeatedly confessing these "same" sins...you will begin to notice more easily when you are actually committing them, and stop yourself.

Don't wonder if the priest is getting exasperated with you, fear not...he'll give you some sort of penance...and then you will know for sure how exasperated he is.  ;)

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Re: Still Learning About Confession
« Reply #2 on: April 15, 2014, 07:16:03 PM »
Thank you, Liza!

That was incredibly helpful.  I will strive to be succinct and sincere and will keep on confessing and repenting.

Please pray for me.

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Re: Still Learning About Confession
« Reply #3 on: April 15, 2014, 08:35:49 PM »

I'm sure the priest doesn't wish to hear all the details, so, what you feel is "glossing over" is in fact okay...as long as you realize what you did and repent.

Saying you experienced anger, I think is better than making the priest listen to "I got angry at Suzy because she wouldn't change the TV station, and then I got angry at Joe because he stuck up for her, and after all that, I tripped over Andy's toys and got angry at him, and then the dog had messed up the carpet and I got angry at him, and then...."

Be sincere, but, succinct....and by repeatedly confessing these "same" sins...you will begin to notice more easily when you are actually committing them, and stop yourself.

Don't wonder if the priest is getting exasperated with you, fear not...he'll give you some sort of penance...and then you will know for sure how exasperated he is.  ;)



My comment is that my years in the RCC 'glossing' over was normal.   Some priests were blasé about my confession other wanted very detailed info on the sins confessed.  There was no consistency or close to consistent form of confession.  As an Orthodox the 'glossing' over is done by the priest in his explanation of how to avoid sin and the occasions for sin.  Very different techniques to say the least.  But, my experience Im sure is not the same for all.

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Re: Still Learning About Confession
« Reply #4 on: April 15, 2014, 08:40:51 PM »
Dear all,

my family and I were baptized in 2010.  I still consider my recent convert, as I am learning about the faith daily.  Confession is very difficult for me.  I am still getting over the embarrassment of confessing to the priest at our parish.  I try to confess weekly, but I must admit that I often gloss over or try to categorize my sins generally--"I...lusted" or "I...experienced anger."  This must seem very cowardly and indeed it is.  Any advice?

In addition, the priest (please forgive me, everyone) sometimes seems exasperated with me, especially in regards to habitual sins.  I feel terrible and less inclined to be rigorous with my confession.  Perhaps this is normal and I should get over it and...most importantly...stop sinning.  Please forgive me, I am trying.

Thank you for reading.  Any and all advice is appreciated and welcome.

And please, pray for me, a sinner.

This is why it is so important to stay with one priest for your confessions.  He is mostly familiar to your faults and weaknesses and tries to get you overcome repetitive sins.  This is why he will spend time explaining how you can avoid temptations.  It is hard, we sin every day, and frequent confessions are good for us, but we have to try to recognize what leads us into sin and it all starts with a Thought.  Control your thoughts, pray the Jesus prayer, be aware of how these sins get started. 

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Re: Still Learning About Confession
« Reply #5 on: April 16, 2014, 07:51:29 PM »
Aren't we all ?
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