Well, I refused to compromise on a wife even though it took me from the time I was 19 (yes, I was looking that young!) to almost the age of 30.
The key is to put God's will first in your life. Although I would have been devastated had I not married, if it were God's will, what else can I do but submit to His will? Jumping into a marriage with someone who I would be "unequally yoked" to would have ended in heartache for both of us.
It's a tough lesson, but our desires have to be subordinated to God's will. Pray, pray fervently, pray with perseverance for a holy husband and, if God so desires, you are guaranteed that in the right time and right fashion it will become apparent.
In the meantime, I recommend dedicating yourself to zealous deeds: prayer, fasting and charitable works. Doing so will also increase your chances of finding a like-minded individual, so it's a little self-serving but I think God understands.
Thank you for sharing your story. And advise. You helped me with percpective
I like to think I pray fervently with perserverance. To the Lord and the Virgin Mary morning and night. I have embraced Saints that help with 'finding' something, like a husband, like Saint Xenia, St. Phanourios, Saint Menas of Egypt, to name a few, since 3 years ago. I pray to them and I believe they hear me.
I just feel like I don't have an outlet. My church is full of married couples. I don't have friends that share my faith (those that do are married.) I'm the last one.
I always ask the Lord for direction, as well as a Godly spouse who will love Him first and then me. I'm in my mid thirties and it so hard to also avoid those who still see me 'single,' and as a woman the single status is so harsh on us socially.
I should fast more. Besides Easter & Christmas, and the fifteen days n August, I try very hard to keep the Wed/Fri fast. But I believe the Lord hears me. Look at all the stories we have in the Gospel - St Anna prayed long and hard for what she waited. Saint Elizabeth too, Saint Veronica....Saint Nektarios, another beloved saint of mine. I have so many on my side. I know they all help me!! I hope it's God's will for me to be a wife & mother...soon.