I think the issue here is that Catholics find it hurtful for the Orthodox to say that we do not believe in the same thing.
Sure, it's a big disappointment, but I got used to it about 8 or 9 years ago.
Forgive me, but we (Catholics and Orthodox) don't believe the same thing. That may be a disapointment to find it out, or feelings may be hurt, but most of the time, it is not intended to be mean, just a statement of fact.
Nothing to forgive, katherineofdixie
I've come to accept (for the most part, anyway) that that is true. The rub comes in discussing differences and similarities with some Orthodox who relish in a kind of very prideful triumphalism accompanied by a nasty or snarky tone and an attitude of "all aspects of the schism are the fault and responsibility of the Catholics and we Orthodox remain totally unsullied by fault, blame, or responsibility, and if you want to be part of THE CHURCH, you MUST become Orthodox--our way or the highway". This is demeaning and insulting, especially in conversation where others are trying to discuss and maybe even resolve the differences between us with good will and friendship.
So...my position will remain as I stated in reply #31 above: "Until such time as we are able to resolve our differences as Orthodox and Catholic, and resume full communion with one another, I'm willing to take the position that we must agree to disagree with each other about some things, all the while maintaining the fullest and deepest respect for each other. Without such respect, we shouldn't even be talking with each other.
As a non-Roman Catholic, my understanding has always been that the (non-Orthodox) Catholic Church (in all its various parts) does indeed possess "catholicity in the classical patristic and etymological sense of the word catholic.""
And, as a Catholic, I will continue to maintain and believe that the Catholic Church is The Church and has the full fullness of the faith. As for the Orthodox....I'll take the Orthodox position and say, "I don't know".
Please forgive me if I have offended or upset anyone by saying the above--it was certainly NOT my intention to do so.