I apologise for creating yet another thread on this oft-repeated topic, but I'm not sure where to go with choosing a patron saint. I've read many posts / articles on here and online about choosing a patron saint, but still am confused.
I'd initially thought of choosing a Byzantine Emperor. It's by reading about the Byzantines that I first learned about Orthodoxy, and St. Justinian's story and "against all odds" history really inspired me - I was especially pleased to hear the first time I attended a Liturgy that hymns from his time (and even one he composed) were being sung. However I don't know if it's a good idea to be picking a saint *precisely* because they were an Emperor, and he seems to be largely obscure in the Church. I'd also thought of Constantine, who'd be good, but truth be told, I'm still not comfortable with how he was baptised on his deathbed, and that he was an Arian also seems to be a bit, well, I don't feel comfortable with it.
I next thought of the Three Heirarchs. I don't know too much about St. Gregory (Nazaraius) yet, but Sts Basil and Chrysostom seem to both have been very involved with monks. That's not a bad thing, but (and I'm aware this sounds silly lol) the implication seems to be that you'd somehow aspire to be a monastic by having such a saint as your patron. However, I GREATLY enjoy the Liturgy of St. John Chrysostom and I also like St. Basil's Liturgy (even though I've only attended two) - I find it an inspiration that they were able to construct Liturgies.
Next, I thought of an American saint, but unfortunately they don't yet seem to be very common. I'd settled on Sts Tikhon of Moscow, and Innocent & Herman of Alaska. However, Sts Herman & Innocent were very heavily involved in evangelism, for which the same caveat as before seems to apply - I don't see myself as an evangelist so while I like them it makes it hard to relate. With St. Tikhon, I like that he helped to reinstitute the Western Rite, but again, he seems like a church builder / evangelist.
I've checked for saints / feast days on my birthday but nothing comes up that I'd be very captivated by.
The other opportunity is that my middle name is a derivative of John - I could pick *a* John, but which?
I'd like to find either a saint that fits me within the ones I've listed, or a saint that had to deal with tough circumstances in a foreign land, but wasn't a super preacher or church founder anything - just someone who tried to help the needy and help / inspire others and was humble and had great love for the Lord. Any help would be appreciated, and thank you