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About my life
« on: February 01, 2013, 06:02:40 AM »
I really dont know how to start this, so ill just dig in.

At this time in my life I really do hate it, I am a 25yr old and living with my parents.
I have been with my girl friend who I love dearly for the last 8 years and I wish to marry her.

The issue is my parents and I have a loan on the house and I need to help them pay it off, my Dad is not working as he is sick, my Mum has been going in and out of doctors offices and specialists and not sure how long she has before she needs to quit her job, and I only make minimum wage.

The house we live in wont be big enough for myself, my future wife (hopefully) and my parents and future kids, so this lets me to believe there is no future with my girl friend or anyone in that matter.

I am from Syrian background, and have family living there at the moment who are going through some very tough times. I don't have close enough friends I can talk to about this, I feel very much isolated and abandoned, it feels like god has let me suffer it feels like he is punishing me, I try my best to be a better orthodox. I really don't know how much longer I can take it, I am starting to lose hope in my life, my work, and my beloved religion as well. I honestly feel like a failure, a failure in my parents, my girl friend and in my religion.

The only way I can get some sleep is by taking sleeping tablets, and at times I shamefully cry my self to sleep.

Can I ask for peoples prayers for me please? and help me get past this times.



 
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Re: About my life
« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2013, 06:04:47 AM »
Lord, have mercy!
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Re: About my life
« Reply #2 on: February 01, 2013, 06:15:01 AM »
Lord, Have Mercy on richi000 and his loved ones!

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Re: About my life
« Reply #3 on: February 01, 2013, 06:25:24 AM »
Lord have mercy!

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Re: About my life
« Reply #4 on: February 01, 2013, 06:38:00 AM »
You already have by your prayers
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Re: About my life
« Reply #5 on: February 01, 2013, 06:48:29 AM »
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Re: About my life
« Reply #6 on: February 01, 2013, 01:06:59 PM »
Lord have mercy.
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Re: About my life
« Reply #7 on: February 01, 2013, 03:04:54 PM »
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Re: About my life
« Reply #8 on: February 01, 2013, 04:32:43 PM »
Lord Have Mercy!  May God grant you strength! 

If you havn't already, i'd recommend talking to a priest or a counselor. 
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Re: About my life
« Reply #9 on: February 02, 2013, 12:58:41 AM »
Lord have mercy.
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Re: About my life
« Reply #10 on: February 02, 2013, 01:25:46 AM »
Lord Have Mercy!  May God grant you strength! 

If you havn't already, i'd recommend talking to a priest or a counselor. 
This. And never let Satan convince you that you are a failure.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #11 on: February 02, 2013, 02:31:03 AM »
Lord have mercy!

richi perhaps you can also post this in another thread section so people can share with you their ideas and perspectives in depth in addition to what they have done in here already my brother.
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Re: About my life
« Reply #12 on: February 02, 2013, 11:25:42 PM »
Lord, have mercy on richi000.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #13 on: February 02, 2013, 11:29:09 PM »
Lord have mercy.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #14 on: February 03, 2013, 05:16:04 AM »
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Re: About my life
« Reply #15 on: February 03, 2013, 02:16:01 PM »
may God give u peace.
i have friends who lived in very crowded situations and coped ok, so it's not always a disaster.
currently i have a friend who is married but not living with his wife (different country) so that is sometimes possible too.
may God bless u and encourage you as you take care of yr parents and try to live for Him.
pray each day a little from your prayer book (ours is here: http://www.agpeya.org ) and you will be encouraged.

may God fill your life with love, dear brother.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #16 on: February 04, 2013, 01:51:05 AM »
I am not 100% sure if this will work, but i will like to post a reply in a single post to as much as I can

Lord Have Mercy!  May God grant you strength!  

If you havn't already, i'd recommend talking to a priest or a counselor.  

I will try to arrange something with a counselor, thank you for the advice



. And never let Satan convince you that you are a failure.

Lord have mercy.
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Wow, this has stuck to me, made me feel much better about my self thank you



Lord have mercy!

richi perhaps you can also post this in another thread section so people can share with you their ideas and perspectives in depth in addition to what they have done in here already my brother.

where else can I post this? I am not to familiar with the forum just yet.

may God give u peace.
i have friends who lived in very crowded situations and coped ok, so it's not always a disaster.
currently i have a friend who is married but not living with his wife (different country) so that is sometimes possible too.
may God bless u and encourage you as you take care of yr parents and try to live for Him.
pray each day a little from your prayer book (ours is here: http://www.agpeya.org ) and you will be encouraged.

may God fill your life with love, dear brother.

Thank you so much for the link, and the words of wisdom..



I would like to thank everyone here, I truly love this community.
I will attend next weeks liturgies and put in the efforts. THe lord has helped me alot before, I dont and will not turn my back on him.

Thank you so much
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Re: About my life
« Reply #17 on: February 04, 2013, 01:57:35 AM »
Know that I am praying for you also.

Do not forget to pray to the Theotokos.
In fact, see if your parents will pray the Paracleisis to the Theotokos with you.
Or ask your priest if he can come over and pray the Paracleisis with you all.

Have you had your priest over to bless your home this year yet?
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Re: About my life
« Reply #18 on: February 04, 2013, 02:00:17 AM »
Know that I am praying for you also.

Do not forget to pray to the Theotokos.
In fact, see if your parents will pray the Paracleisis to the Theotokos with you.
Or ask your priest if he can come over and pray the Paracleisis with you all.

Have you had your priest over to bless your home this year yet?

I will start to pray Paracleisis.
My priest hasnt come over to bless the house just yet, I will try my best to get him to come possibly within the week.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #19 on: February 04, 2013, 03:52:07 AM »
You have a woman that loves you. That is bigger than any house.  Don't sweat the details.  Sounds like you would have to live close to mum and dad regardless due to their health. If God wills the marriage then do not slight yourself over square footage of a house.


Don't let satan let you think you are a failure is the best answer I've heard in a while.
I'm going through a lot of things myself brother and I feel for you, and I think I will carry the above statement and try to remember it.

As for for your people in Syria we pray for them as well.  Inshallah they can get out of Syria and work their way here as refugees.  We mourn for the martyrs of Syria.  This genocide should be spoken of more frequently than it has been spoken of among the Orthodox and Melkite.  If we can't do anything physically to stop the genocide since we are here then we all should be praying collectively that it ends and those that are suffering are able to flee to safe refuge.

It is winter and we are all suffering the blues from not enough sunlight.  Spring is around the corner and talk to some people at church maybe they can point you in the direction of a different job.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #20 on: February 04, 2013, 04:14:22 AM »
You have a woman that loves you. That is bigger than any house.  Don't sweat the details.  Sounds like you would have to live close to mum and dad regardless due to their health. If God wills the marriage then do not slight yourself over square footage of a house.


Don't let satan let you think you are a failure is the best answer I've heard in a while.
I'm going through a lot of things myself brother and I feel for you, and I think I will carry the above statement and try to remember it.

As for for your people in Syria we pray for them as well.  Inshallah they can get out of Syria and work their way here as refugees.  We mourn for the martyrs of Syria.  This genocide should be spoken of more frequently than it has been spoken of among the Orthodox and Melkite.  If we can't do anything physically to stop the genocide since we are here then we all should be praying collectively that it ends and those that are suffering are able to flee to safe refuge.

It is winter and we are all suffering the blues from not enough sunlight.  Spring is around the corner and talk to some people at church maybe they can point you in the direction of a different job.

Just wanted to add: if you desire help finding a better job, try praying to Saint Tryphon. Don't despair, my friend.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #21 on: February 04, 2013, 01:27:26 PM »
rich, you can post it in the Other Topics in addition to the prayer section. http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/board,12.0.html
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Re: About my life
« Reply #22 on: February 04, 2013, 06:14:09 PM »
You have a woman that loves you. That is bigger than any house.  Don't sweat the details.  Sounds like you would have to live close to mum and dad regardless due to their health. If God wills the marriage then do not slight yourself over square footage of a house.


Don't let satan let you think you are a failure is the best answer I've heard in a while.
I'm going through a lot of things myself brother and I feel for you, and I think I will carry the above statement and try to remember it.

As for for your people in Syria we pray for them as well.  Inshallah they can get out of Syria and work their way here as refugees.  We mourn for the martyrs of Syria.  This genocide should be spoken of more frequently than it has been spoken of among the Orthodox and Melkite.  If we can't do anything physically to stop the genocide since we are here then we all should be praying collectively that it ends and those that are suffering are able to flee to safe refuge.

It is winter and we are all suffering the blues from not enough sunlight.  Spring is around the corner and talk to some people at church maybe they can point you in the direction of a different job.

I will be thankful for what I have from now on.




Just wanted to add: if you desire help finding a better job, try praying to Saint Tryphon. Don't despair, my friend.

'In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.'- John 16:33

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rich, you can post it in the Other Topics in addition to the prayer section. http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/board,12.0.html

Thank you, I will post there as soon as I can and off work..

Thanks once again
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Re: About my life
« Reply #23 on: February 04, 2013, 06:41:12 PM »
Lord have Mercy

I don't know how nice your boss is or what you do for a living, but if he would at least hear you out try asking for a temporary raise until you can get everything sorted out.

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« Reply #24 on: February 06, 2013, 10:33:40 PM »
Hi richi000 my payers are with you,when I was troubled greatly payer ,and church was(is) the greatest help I know this seems dark right now but keep praying,going to church,reading the psalms and receiving communion.Please talk with your priest and tell him your family needs help,I know this is verry hard to do.Also Doc.office for adjustment in payment,going to food banks.I know,I know this is verry painful to do,but it must be done and years from now you will look back and see how you have grown in your life and your spitual life. I know I did it.God is not punshing you,that's not the way he is,rember he is love,It's ok the be sad about this it's hard.Talk to several priest and anyone who will listen. Yours in Christ Gayle :)

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Re: About my life
« Reply #25 on: February 07, 2013, 05:28:38 PM »

Lord, have mercy!

Rich, please let us know if there's anything we can do to help you out.

We will be praying for you, your mom's good health, and your family and loved ones.

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Re: About my life
« Reply #26 on: February 07, 2013, 05:44:46 PM »
Lord have Mercy

I don't know how nice your boss is or what you do for a living, but if he would at least hear you out try asking for a temporary raise until you can get everything sorted out.

Shalom and may God watch over you and provide for you.

My boss is not to bad, it looks like at the moment Job security for me is looking better as we signed a new contract with a major client. So I am happy about that.
I will ask about pay in the near future.


Hi richi000 my payers are with you,when I was troubled greatly payer ,and church was(is) the greatest help I know this seems dark right now but keep praying,going to church,reading the psalms and receiving communion.Please talk with your priest and tell him your family needs help,I know this is verry hard to do.Also Doc.office for adjustment in payment,going to food banks.I know,I know this is verry painful to do,but it must be done and years from now you will look back and see how you have grown in your life and your spitual life. I know I did it.God is not punshing you,that's not the way he is,rember he is love,It's ok the be sad about this it's hard.Talk to several priest and anyone who will listen. Yours in Christ Gayle :)

Welcome to the Forum Gayle.

I appricate the prayers and thank you. I will keep praying each night and attend church.


Lord, have mercy!

Rich, please let us know if there's anything we can do to help you out.

We will be praying for you, your mom's good health, and your family and loved ones.

Remember, all things are possible through Christ our Lord!  Don't despair!  Take it one day at a time!


@Gayle:  Welcome to the Forum!


Thank you Liza, Prayers at this time will be more valuable then anything.

Anything is possible through Christ as he has proven to me before Amen to that.



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Re: About my life
« Reply #27 on: February 10, 2013, 08:46:34 PM »
Lord have mercy. May God give you peace and strength, my friend.
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