James, we all have resentment towards our parents. You all know that I do, from what I've shared here over the last few years.
You must try to love them. I want to be more sympathetic, but it doesn't sound like they're abusing or neglecting you (not past what's normal, anyway
) It sounds like they're not bad
people, just not your kind
of people, and that's okay.
Let me share something. I have a huge amount of resentment towards my father for leaving us, screwing us out of tens of thousands of dollars while we nearly got our electricity and water turned off, and for making me feel like I wasn't manly enough when I was little. I have a huge amount of resentment towards my mother for her immaturity, her lack of respect for my religious and political beliefs (which are more conservative than hers,) and so much more.
If I think about these things too much and let them consume me, I can genuinely hate
my parents. The thing is, I have to love them. They're my parents. They provided for me and raised me. They love me, even when I can't realize it. Just because they can't understand and stand behind every choice I make as I grow up is no reason to start resenting them.
When my father is in Church, he stretches and touches his toes during liturgy. As much as I want to drag him out by his ear, I laugh to myself and remind myself that he's my dad and I love him.
My mother goes to her boyfriend's house four nights per week, and I don't think it's to watch TV and drink coffee.
I would never go so far as to call her a "whore." I just remember that she's her own person. An adult, able to make her own decisions. She's still the same person, and I love her to pieces. After all, she's my momma no matter what.
I can easily let bad feelings boil up and hate my parents. The same can happen for any person or situation in life. We have to look at all things with Christ's love.
Realize that you are your own person. Your parents don't have to approve of everything you do, and you don't have to approve of everything they do. You're at an age where you're grown up enough to stand up for yourself. So do what you want. Just don't expect your parents to change themselves as you change.